College students who are still single

[UncleWai]

Just want to talk about this topic with fellow loners around the world.

For me, I don't know if I am afraid of commiting into a relationship or I am just plain ugly, I just can't find a girl that I think can be my girlfriend.
I am really anti-norm and reserved. I don't use myspace/xanga/friendster. I don't go to church. I keep any acquaintances away from my IM list.
I've given myself a nice half a year break. During this time I just do very recluse thing such as working out, practising guitar, and studying to better myself.

Contrary to popular beliefs, I bet a lot of you single people are not ugly people myself included, but there's something that keeps us from getting into a relationship.
I personally think too much about the consequences . I am afraid of spending a lot of time and money with someone that might not be the one. I am afraid I will get dumped and get hurt. I am afraid I would come across another girl during another girl. And most importantly, I think I am looking for qualities in a girl that is not around my age range. I really like independent woman who is in the upper 20s range who has a sense of responsibility.

The dilemma for me is whether to continue a loner for another few years or should I give a try at the dating world this coming year.

Anyone shares my thinking and want to tell their story?

 

[SophalotJack]

Believe it or not, I find myself in the same situation. I guess we just aren't BF material.

I get enough compliments and such... but fromt he get go, I don't know how to pickup on many signals or see them through to a real realationship.

However, when I am drunk, I do manage to just plain get laid since I am super silly.



We need to get over that initial hump of getting into a girl's mind... and not her pants. I don't really mind being single... but some of my friends have it fricken sweeeeeeeeeeeet! Their GF's cook, do their cleaning and then spread their legs.

I wanna a taste of that.

 

[fire400]

MSN Dating & Personals

http://msn.match.com/msn/index.aspx?lid=1000005

ignore the adds, read everything, study hard, and memorize everything. ignore the parts about sex because it will just make you think less clearly. ignore the the negative things that talks smack about life (liberal garbage writing style), and you are set.

1. plan
2. execute
3. evaluate/feedback
4. succeed
5. repeat

whether you get burned or not, life was never fair in the beginning, take your lessons learned to the next level and always keep an open mind on things.

for the nerds: talk a lot, but learn to listen. there are moments where you will be talking so much and times where you will never even get a chance to open your mouth for air. control your on and off function on the mouth, and you are square.

eat breakfast and exercise. don't talk to bad friends before a date. it will ruin everything from there on.

skip online dating, it sucks. it will just make you more anti-social. get a life and get it straight, lol...

LISTEN TO A LOT OF TRANCE
visit the clubs often, even if you don't drink, the heavy trance songs will knock the sanity out of you. if you wanna listen other stuff, hit the R&B hip hop clubs

Celebrate the Summer by Lacuna
Exploration of Space by Cosmic Gate
Rainbow in the Sky by Starsplash
Back to France by Novaspace
Real Me (Ayu Trance) by Ayumi Hamasaki
Oneness With The Universe (Original Club Mix) by O.S.I.R.I.S.
As One-Sarang (trance mix) by As One
Endless Summer by Siria
I Miss You by DHT Ft Edmee
Moonlight Shadow by Groove Coverage

if you have no role model you losers, look up to the Dare Devil, fear nothing.

 

[dug777]

I suggest anime

That gets all the hawt chicks.

 

[fitzov]

looking to get married already? sheesh

 

[Beev]

I'm pretty much the same way. My IM list has 2 people on it. TWO. I know plenty more than that, they just aren't on my IM list, which always has me marked as "away" I might add. I don't even know where to go to meet girls. Bars piss me off too much, and that's about all there is here. I don't consider myself ugly, either. Maybe everyone else does...

 

[SophalotJack]

I just want my clothes cleaned and dinner ready.... all while I sit at home and play games.

too much to ask?

 

[Sc4freak]

Hire maids, butlers, gardeners, cooks and a prostitute.

 

[SophalotJack]

Originally posted by: Sc4freak
Hire maids, butlers, gardeners, cooks and a prostitute.

but whose gonna earn the money to pay for that?

I'll be at home plaing games and raising her children.

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

Originally posted by: SophalotJack

Originally posted by: Sc4freak
Hire maids, butlers, gardeners, cooks and a prostitute.

but whose gonna earn the money to pay for that?

I'll be at home plaing games and raising her children.

Well, if you are her pimp, YOU! :laugh:

 

[SophalotJack]

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo

Originally posted by: SophalotJack

Originally posted by: Sc4freak
Hire maids, butlers, gardeners, cooks and a prostitute.

but whose gonna earn the money to pay for that?

I'll be at home plaing games and raising her children.

Well, if you are her pimp, YOU! :laugh:

son of a mother!

screw it, I'm gonna stick with being single and spending the money on hookers.

 

[PrinceofWands]

I'm about as anti-social as it's possible to get, and always have been. I'm also about as opposite from the normal American male as it's possible to be. Even so I've never suffered from lack of relationships/dates when I wanted them. Right now, I just don't want them.

The last one hurt too bad and is in me too deep. I have too much on my plate to really even deal with the loss right now. I'm hopeful that eventually I'll want to try it again, but in the meantime I'd just rather focus on other things (school, personal enrichment, etc). Besides it wouldn't be fair to someone else to bring my existing baggage into a relationship.

The only down side to this choice is the lack of sex, which I suppose I could overcome if I really wanted to. Despite the base animal urges I really don't even want to go there yet though. *shrug* It's been a little less than a year so far, I'm sure it will change once enough time has passed. Then maybe after a few years of no commitment monkey lovin I'll be ready date again. We'll see.

Peace.

 

[phatj]

just go out there and experience it... dating (especially in college) is an experience... with highs and lows. Even if you postpone dating for another 3 years you aren't going to instantly find "the one". It's all about trial and error. And with every relationship that doesn't work you become a stronger person and learn more about what it takes to make a relationship work and what characteristics you will want in your next g.f.

 

[Spineshank]

If i was in college i wouldnt want to be dating someone.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: fire400
MSN Dating & Personals

http://msn.match.com/msn/index.aspx?lid=1000005

Hah - those MSN articles are terrible.

 

[UncleWai]

I think it's because I am still not in school and working yet. I just have too much free time but not enough money to keep going places. I've been hanging with the same groups of guys for the past few months and things are getting redundant. Hopefully work and a lot of work will desensitize me from feeling lonely.
I might be too serious about life, but the problem is I hate girls that are bimbos who put no thoughts about the future.

A word on IM messaging, I gave up on IM conversation on useless stuff with people. Now I only use MSN to do very objective thing, as a result I further distanced myself with a few peeps.

 

[crownjules]

Originally posted by: UncleWai
Just want to talk about this topic with fellow loners around the world.

For me, I don't know if I am afraid of commiting into a relationship or I am just plain ugly, I just can't find a girl that I think can be my girlfriend.
I am really anti-norm and reserved. I don't use myspace/xanga/friendster. I don't go to church. I keep any acquaintances away from my IM list.
I've given myself a nice half a year break. During this time I just do very recluse thing such as working out, practising guitar, and studying to better myself.

Contrary to popular beliefs, I bet a lot of you single people are not ugly people myself included, but there's something that keeps us from getting into a relationship.
I personally think too much about the consequences . I am afraid of spending a lot of time and money with someone that might not be the one. I am afraid I will get dumped and get hurt. I am afraid I would come across another girl during another girl. And most importantly, I think I am looking for qualities in a girl that is not around my age range. I really like independent woman who is in the upper 20s range who has a sense of responsibility.

The dilemma for me is whether to continue a loner for another few years or should I give a try at the dating world this coming year.

Anyone shares my thinking and want to tell their story?

You need to stop worrying so damn much. You're letting fear stop you from experiencing a part of life - dating. You can't know what you want in a girl unless you go out there and date lots of them. Like many things in life, it boils down to statistics. The higher your sampling size, the higher your chances for success are.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: UncleWai
Just want to talk about this topic with fellow loners around the world.

For me, I don't know if I am afraid of commiting into a relationship or I am just plain ugly, I just can't find a girl that I think can be my girlfriend.
I am really anti-norm and reserved. I don't use myspace/xanga/friendster. I don't go to church. I keep any acquaintances away from my IM list.
I've given myself a nice half a year break. During this time I just do very recluse thing such as working out, practising guitar, and studying to better myself.

Contrary to popular beliefs, I bet a lot of you single people are not ugly people myself included, but there's something that keeps us from getting into a relationship.
I personally think too much about the consequences . I am afraid of spending a lot of time and money with someone that might not be the one. I am afraid I will get dumped and get hurt. I am afraid I would come across another girl during another girl. And most importantly, I think I am looking for qualities in a girl that is not around my age range. I really like independent woman who is in the upper 20s range who has a sense of responsibility.

The dilemma for me is whether to continue a loner for another few years or should I give a try at the dating world this coming year.

Anyone shares my thinking and want to tell their story?

I am the same way to some extent. I love playing the guitar, I read alot of books, I work out much of the time (cycling, running...). There is nothing wrong with being single though. Being single is quite freeing. You can do a lot of things single that you cannot do when you are dating. No big deal anyways. If you are comfortable with yourself (i.e. not afraid of rejection) and a nice guy, you won't have any problems with girls liking you.

I say just be yourself and don't actively look for a person to date. Just get to know people and put yourself out there. If the right girl comes along, you will know.

People, including girls, smell desperation when someone is just asking them out because they are lonely.

 

[BobDaMenkey]

Man, you're worrying too much. I've been single for the past 2 years now, and my sophmore year of college is just ramping up. I wouldn't WANT to have any kind of serious relationship with my work and school schedule. I've already got a very limited ammount of free time, and I wouldn't want to spend it trying to keep some chick happy.

There's more to life than relationships. They are important, but not defining.

 

[pontifex]

well, i have very little self confidence. thats probably my major problem. I'm also naturally shy and reserved.

i think another part of the problem is that i'm looking for that perfect girl with all these specific qualities, and i don't think she exists. maybe my standards are too high.

 

[homestarmy]

First, maybe your issues stem from the fact that you look like an asian woman?

Second, I bet you listen to Emo.

If not, you should.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

I am afraid of spending a lot of time and money with someone that might not be the one. I am afraid I will get dumped and get hurt. I am afraid I would come across another girl during another girl. And most importantly, I think I am looking for qualities in a girl that is not around my age range. I really like independent woman who is in the upper 20s range who has a sense of responsibility.

all that stuff yioru afraid of is going to happen several times. Its part of the dating experience. What you think you would like now you may not like at all once you have it. This is why its dating then marriage and not straight to marriage. you get to experience different types of people and relationships each time you hopefully have a better idea of who you would be most compatible with in the long term.

IME many people will rationalize why they dont have dates and girlfriends until the cows come home but at the end of the day most are just lazy cowards and/or social rejects unfit for reproduction

 

[bignateyk]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim


IME many people will rationalize why they dont have dates and girlfriends until the cows come home but at the end of the day most are just lazy cowards and/or social rejects unfit for reproduction

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I'll admit it. I spent four years in college without getting so much as laid. I was a complete loser. During those four years, I always told myself that it was my choice.

Starting about a year ago, I decided I needed to change. I put on 40 pounds of muscle, and re-worked my wardrobe. Believe it or not, women dont like scrawny geeks who wear cargo pants.

In the last year, ive been out with dozens of women, and for the last two months, ive been dating a VERY attractive girl (shes 23 and is a teacher).

Its all about confidence. If you lack confidence in yourself, forget about it.

 

[thraashman]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim


IME many people will rationalize why they dont have dates and girlfriends until the cows come home but at the end of the day most are just lazy cowards and/or social rejects unfit for reproduction

++


I'll admit it. I spent four years in college without getting so much as laid. I was a complete loser. During those four years, I always told myself that it was my choice.

Starting about a year ago, I decided I needed to change. I put on 40 pounds of muscle, and re-worked my wardrobe. Believe it or not, women dont like scrawny geeks who wear cargo pants.

In the last year, ive been out with dozens of women, and for the last two months, ive been dating a VERY attractive girl (shes 23 and is a teacher).

Its all about confidence. If you lack confidence in yourself, forget about it.

And in what way did you change your wardrobe besides losing the cargo pants? If it works I might consider a wardrobe change myself. I could probably use one.

I know my biggest problem has always been that I fall for conservative christian girls ..... which doesn't work well with me being an atheist and very forward about it.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: thraashman

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim


IME many people will rationalize why they dont have dates and girlfriends until the cows come home but at the end of the day most are just lazy cowards and/or social rejects unfit for reproduction

++


I'll admit it. I spent four years in college without getting so much as laid. I was a complete loser. During those four years, I always told myself that it was my choice.

Starting about a year ago, I decided I needed to change. I put on 40 pounds of muscle, and re-worked my wardrobe. Believe it or not, women dont like scrawny geeks who wear cargo pants.

In the last year, ive been out with dozens of women, and for the last two months, ive been dating a VERY attractive girl (shes 23 and is a teacher).

Its all about confidence. If you lack confidence in yourself, forget about it.

And in what way did you change your wardrobe besides losing the cargo pants? If it works I might consider a wardrobe change myself. I could probably use one.

I know my biggest problem has always been that I fall for conservative christian girls ..... which doesn't work well with me being an atheist and very forward about it.

take a girl who is all into fashion and style and ask her to come shopping with you. goto like nordstrom/macys (be prepared to drop some dough) she will guide you in the right direction. Seriously do this.