Dad might lose kid, for being a good parent. Sues

[alkemyst]

So many men are stupid when it comes to marriage. They ignore the early warning signs and still get married and blow their wad to get the prize kid. Only to find out the lady only wanted a Cinderella wedding and a dilettante dad hating kid she could use as a pawn to have her way. That boy is going to grow up to be a real "Prize"

Another lesson why Guys really need to do due diligence and avoid Marriage unless you are 10000% sure you chose the right person. ie: just because she can suck the chrome off a bumper != good wife.

You seem to have a lot of commitment issues. Most guys/gals do think they have done the proper due diligence prior to marrying someone.

The real issue in this case is the father didn't provide an alternative dinner. I don't agree with this either. We have a picky eater in the family and if he doesn't like what is served he can eat PB&J and that is his only option.

Also, to the guys thinking the ex is getting some cash reward over this: WTF?!?!

 

[boomhower]

You seem to have a lot of commitment issues. Most guys/gals do think they have done the proper due diligence prior to marrying someone.

The real issue in this case is the father didn't provide an alternative dinner. I don't agree with this either. We have a picky eater in the family and if he doesn't like what is served he can eat PB&J and that is his only option.

Also, to the guys thinking the ex is getting some cash reward over this: WTF?!?!

Actually he did. According to the article he told the kid they could eat anywhere he wanted except McDonald's. Kid was being a brat and got what he needed, a lesson. Dad was being a proper dad.

 

[Anubis]

not really any different than my parents telling me that i would eat what they served for dinner or i would not eat anything

after going to bed without dinner a few times i ate what was served from then on.

 

[Doppel]

We have a picky eater in the family and if he doesn't like what is served he can eat PB&J and that is his only option.

He is that way because he has been catered to. Case in point PB&J, which is a pretty darn tasty sandwich much of the time. Replace it with stale (not moldy) bread and butter and see how long he stays picky for. No child in the world has starved themselves to death because they refuse to eat carrots or beef or whatever else the hell they get stuck in their head they cannot tolerate.

 

[notposting]

not really any different than my parents telling me that i would eat what they served for dinner or i would not eat anything

after going to bed without dinner a few times i ate what was served from then on.

We've already cracked down on our 3 year old. He was pretty good through 2, maybe 2.5 years old. This year has been a complete cluster though, and we all went through a lot of upheaval.

He is pretty much learning to just eat what we serve him, he's never gone to bed on a completely empty stomach, but he is stubborn enough I'm sure he will at some point.

Also, this case is horseshit. Can only hope they go in front of a judge with some basic common sense left in them. Would love to see that incompetent and/or paid shill of a psychiatrist lose their license, as well.

 

[Torn Mind]

Denying a kid a meal at McDonalds will NOT traumatize him. I know because I personally once did utterly b**** very noisly on the bus in public, when I was a little kid, and my mom refused. I was in tears that day when we got home and I still remember that incident now(don't remember what date or whatever or any of the exact details, just that the incident happened), but did it do anything else? No, not really.

 

[Ventanni]

I will, in no way, claim I "Walked uphill, both ways, in the snow, etc etc" like my childhood was hard, but if I didn't like dinner, I didn't eat. End of story. Thanks to the patience and resolve of my parents for not catering into my every whim, I now enjoy a very wide palette as an adult.

Thanks mom! Like, seriously, thanks.

Honestly, this story reeks of a marriage gone bad and both mom and dad taking their failed relationship out on their child. While I do give credit to the dad for standing his ground and refusing to let his child eat junk food, I have to ask myself at what point did the relationship between the mother and father go sour enough that the child now gets used as ammunition between the two? Please don't think I'm pinning the blame solely on the father here (kudos to him honestly). This couple's marriage lasted as many years as I can count on one hand, which to me is a marriage that should have never happened in the first place.

Poor kid.

 

[alkemyst]

Actually he did. According to the article he told the kid they could eat anywhere he wanted except McDonald's. Kid was being a brat and got what he needed, a lesson. Dad was being a proper dad.

I meant as a parent he should have just picked and gave it to him even if it sat in his room. That's how PB works. Your samwich is right there bro, all night long. Don't tell me you are hungry in the morning.

The kid I deal with will actually order expensive and then not eat it at all. His favorite is finding the expensive waters on the list.

 

[alkemyst]

He is that way because he has been catered to. Case in point PB&J, which is a pretty darn tasty sandwich much of the time. Replace it with stale (not moldy) bread and butter and see how long he stays picky for. No child in the world has starved themselves to death because they refuse to eat carrots or beef or whatever else the hell they get stuck in their head they cannot tolerate.

You will get yourself in a lot of trouble with DCS serving stale bread.

I know he is a product of the upbringing he had. My fiancée would be forced to go get taco bell/mc donalds/Burger king for everyone and told her cooking sucked.

She's a good cook, little turd still will complain even about his favorite mac and cheese because he still thinks she will be forced to drive and get him McNuggets and a McDouble and a McFlurry that he'd eat about 1/20th of and throw the rest away.

We are teaching him about left-overs and the like.

I don't mind him eating PB&J....I am not trying to torture him. We have all agreed he likes PB&J and it's nutritious and delicious.

Another problem we deal with is him coming back to us after everyone has eaten and said how it was good. Then he wants that same dinner. He is learning.

 

[alkemyst]

not really any different than my parents telling me that i would eat what they served for dinner or i would not eat anything

after going to bed without dinner a few times i ate what was served from then on.

Can't do that today I got that too growing up. It actually helped me learn more foods I really liked.

Today I am the least picky eater you can imagine. I don't like everything, but anything works for me and I have few favorites.

 

[lykaon78]

I think its a little premature to presume the kid, showing signs of typical kid behavior, is going to end up as a douche bag.

Obviously his father wants something to say about that in his future.

 

[mkrohn]

Doesn't work that way in NC. I am a big advocate of proper parenting and discipline. Of course criminal court and civil custody court are completely different situations.

I have spanked one of my kids right in front of a cop. The trick is not doing it in anger and not doing it in excess. Some kids think you won't spank them in public.

I'm having problems with my oldest right now because he's only with me every other weekend. His mom caters to him and I won't. I say how things are going to be and that's the way it works. He was out raking leaves all afternoon on Sunday for not doing what he was told on sunday morning.

Consistency is the most important thing with kids. Once they know their will is stronger than yours its over, they are the parent. Within the next couple years my oldest is going to have to come live with me to correct the years of him running the show with his mom. I try to have talks with her and she agrees with what I'm saying but she just doesn't follow through to the extent it takes to correct a problem. He knows he can outlast her. It doesn't help that he's also smarter than she is.

 

[mkrohn]

I think its a little premature to presume the kid, showing signs of typical kid behavior, is going to end up as a douche bag.

Obviously his father wants something to say about that in his future.

examine the mother.... took the kid straight to McD's so yes a mom like that equals guaranteed Dbag

 

[Scotteq]

If I wanted your opinion, I would have slapped it out of you.

SO SHUT THE F%*K UP, AND SEND MORE MONEY.

/s/ your loving (sic) ExWife

 

[child of wonder]

My daughter can be picky about certain foods such as eggs and she prefers to eat hamburgers without buns. The rest of the family loves eggs so when we want eggs, she gets eggs, too, and she may not leave the table until she eats them, no matter how cold they get.

Children are not to be catered to. Kids who are catered to end up being spoiled rotten little shits who end up being spoiled rotten, entitled big shits.

 

[waggy]

My daughter can be picky about certain foods such as eggs and she prefers to eat hamburgers without buns. The rest of the family loves eggs so when we want eggs, she gets eggs, too, and she may not leave the table until she eats them, no matter how cold they get.

Children are not to be catered to. Kids who are catered to end up being spoiled rotten little shits who end up being spoiled rotten, entitled big shits.

we do the same to a point. There are maybe 2 things my daughter will not eat (taco's and nachos). So when we make those I do let her make her own meal.

My son on the other hand will eat anything placed in front of him except stuffing.

We have a rule. we put a small spoonful of everything made on the plate. They have to eat it. IF it's something new they have to TRY it.


our typical dinner is a meat, 1 veggie and 1-2 fruits or bread.

 

[manimal]

Horrible story. Kid is being used by the mother. No parent in their right mind would REWARD this behavior.


Things like this are commonplace in the Kramer VS Kramer era. If you dont teach your kids consequences they will eventually walk right into a brick wall and blame you. The older they get the harder the brick wall is.


I serve soup or salad or antipasta before every dinner and my 4 year old triplets eat all their veggies and fruits no exeptions. I do not make them eat the entire main course if but I will make sure every veggie and piece of fruit is eaten or they dont get to watch any TV the following day and go to bed early. I have sent them to bed a few times without dinner but they learned quick its easier to just eat the damn food......


Last night one of the girls said she only wanted her soup and veggies and excused herself and went to bed early with a book. She told her sister and brother to make sure to eat their veggies before she went to bed lol. I couldnt believe it.

I am still in amazement that the mother in this situation is so petty that she would hurt her child like this. What parents dont understand is by rewarding this kind of behavior you are setting your child up for eventual failure. Whining is all too common in the US as well. When I was a kid If i even thought about whining I would get a backhanded slap to the back of my head that would leave me dizzy. We have decided to never hit our kids but we did decide that by not hitting we would have to be more strict in the details because they had to learn what it takes to be a big kid. Our kids have goals and one of them is to be a big kid and do things on their own. If they behave and are nice to their siblings they can pick what drink they get at dinner, if they excel at school I take them to the book store and pick a BOOK not a toy. If they behave like babies I tell them they get treated like babies and get naps/and go to bed early. Simple effective though it requires diligence.

Father should sue for full custody till mother goes trough counseling.

 

[manimal]

My daughter can be picky about certain foods such as eggs and she prefers to eat hamburgers without buns. The rest of the family loves eggs so when we want eggs, she gets eggs, too, and she may not leave the table until she eats them, no matter how cold they get.

Children are not to be catered to. Kids who are catered to end up being spoiled rotten little shits who end up being spoiled rotten, entitled big shits.

Thumbs up!

we do the same to a point. There are maybe 2 things my daughter will not eat (taco's and nachos). So when we make those I do let her make her own meal.

My son on the other hand will eat anything placed in front of him except stuffing.

We have a rule. we put a small spoonful of everything made on the plate. They have to eat it. IF it's something new they have to TRY it.


our typical dinner is a meat, 1 veggie and 1-2 fruits or bread.

Whats sad is dads like us are the exception. A friend of my wife stayed with us the weekend and brought her two kids almost the same age as my triplets. They had never eaten dinner at the dinner table and whined incessantly. The mother complained quite a bit the first night about how her kids were behaving and by the end of the weekend she admitted her own mistakes.

 

[child of wonder]

we do the same to a point. There are maybe 2 things my daughter will not eat (taco's and nachos). So when we make those I do let her make her own meal.

My son on the other hand will eat anything placed in front of him except stuffing.

We have a rule. we put a small spoonful of everything made on the plate. They have to eat it. IF it's something new they have to TRY it.


our typical dinner is a meat, 1 veggie and 1-2 fruits or bread.

We're similar. One thing my wife and I can hang our hats on as parents is that our children love vegetables because we make them try new things.

Just the other night I cooked some peppers, onions, and garlic in a little olive oil, salt, and pepper and served it as a side. My kids said "yay! peppers!"

 

[Codewiz]

Hell, my son chooses that option (no dinner) all the time when he refuses to eat what I put on the table.

I have zero fucks to give because it isn't like he is going to starve. He has a choice. Eat or don't eat. The choice is his.....

 

[Broheim]

we do the same to a point. There are maybe 2 things my daughter will not eat (taco's and nachos). So when we make those I do let her make her own meal.

My son on the other hand will eat anything placed in front of him except stuffing.

We have a rule. we put a small spoonful of everything made on the plate. They have to eat it. IF it's something new they have to TRY it.


our typical dinner is a meat, 1 veggie and 1-2 fruits or bread.

yeah... you're gonna need a young priest and an old priest.


my parents would force me and my brother to try new things and would otherwise let us go to bed hungry. I was the opposite of picky so I'd eat anything placed in front of me, but my little brother went to bed hungry a few times. I intend to carrying on that tradition.

 

[Anubis]

Can't do that today I got that too growing up. It actually helped me learn more foods I really liked.

Today I am the least picky eater you can imagine. I don't like everything, but anything works for me and I have few favorites.

sure you can my sister does it with her 3 kids

 

[BoberFett]

My daughter had a milk allergy until she was about 10, so it was actually a lot of work to find things she could eat. Milk or milk products (specifically casein, the milk protein) is in EVERYTHING. Still she has never given me any trouble about eating, because that's how she was raised.

When I was little (2 or 3, don't remember the story exactly) I was being a little bastard in a restaurant and got a plate of spaghetti poured on my head by my parents. I haven't been a picky eater since then. Nowadays that would probably be considered child abuse.

The pussification of America is real.

 

[waggy]

yeah... you're gonna need a young priest and an old priest.


my parents would force me and my brother to try new things and would otherwise let us go to bed hungry. I was the opposite of picky so I'd eat anything placed in front of me, but my little brother went to bed hungry a few times. I intend to carrying on that tradition.

yeah they have gone to bed a few times. But i make them to try EVERYTHING.

just taco's and nachos. she hates those!

My kids eat veggies as a snack. they love them raw and cut up.

 

[jagec]

The kid I deal with will actually order expensive and then not eat it at all. His favorite is finding the expensive waters on the list.

Wow, seriously? Tap water, kid. You want expensive water, you've got to use your allowance.

I have spanked one of my kids right in front of a cop.

In front of a cop, sure, they have no problem with violence. Try doing that in front of a social worker and see how it works out for you.