Dating a battered woman

[Raduque]

Originally posted by: Bushman5
he is a coward, small guy with loads of gambling debts.

Regardless of what you do with this woman and her kids, you should do something about that asshole before he kills her or somebody else. Does he know what you look like? Break his legs with a sledgehammer and tell him Vinny sends his regards.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
just prove me wrong and i'll appologize. how tall are you

No, I don't think I have to "prove you wrong."

You owe me an apology, period.

Have you ever considered that I might be living in a high-crime area where home invasions are relativley common?

Have you ever considered that I might know a lot of people who have been subjected to home invasions?

Have you ever considered that I might have felt that have previously betrayed my best feelings, left a woman who I really loved in that kind of situation and she got killed, leaving me filled with regret ever since?

Have you ever considered that mabye I have gotten a woman out of that kind of situation, married her, etc and feel like it was the best thing I've ever done?

You don't know any of my reasoning for why I feel the way I do, yet you have no problem judging me when you should instead be asking me why I belive the way I do. If my views really seem alien to you, why don't you ask why I feel the way I do instead of being so pretentious?

No i didnt consider any of those things because they are not relevant here. In my real world experience when I've encountered individuals with your attitude and outlook they were all on the shorter side of the scale and they were bitter at the world and they felt like they always had something to prove and were trying to compensate for something. So I dont need to consider the what if's that you propose because my life experience is more valueable. Your views are not alien to me at all so I dont need to ask, I already know your short, get it?

How is none of that stuff relevant? Is thread about you or the OP who is going to have to make some commitments to protect himself if he decides to stay with her?

BTW, go google the average height of an American male, and then remember that I'm 5' 11". The last time I checked, that made me the same height, if not taller than the average joe. You are a fvcking presumptious idiot.

well i appologize then you are the exception that proves the rule. doesnt change the fact you are a fool for the attitude you have regarding guns and settling disputes.

 

[SpanishFry]

Originally posted by: Raduque

Originally posted by: Bushman5
he is a coward, small guy with loads of gambling debts.

Regardless of what you do with this woman and her kids, you should do something about that asshole before he kills her or somebody else. Does he know what you look like? Break his legs with a sledgehammer and tell him Vinny sends his regards.

That actually sounds like a good idea. Incapacitate the bastard :thumbsup:

 

[bennylong]

Do you really want to deal with her crazy husband and the kids for the rest of your life? Assuming the crazy ex husband or father of the children,whatever the psycho is, doesn't kill you.

You're not just dating her, you're dating her children and the father of her children. Think about it.

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: Bushman5
The main question if any 1 has dealt with this is will he habist change after the x is gone.

Also should i stop giving her the type of sex she is used too. Is it a big deal that i do am i making things worst. Will her mentality change, if her mentality changes and she is capable of being totally normal and not so insecure then yes i will stay with her and beat off the x.

But however if she will always have this battered wife syndrome then ill have to think about it.

I don't know what to tell you about the sex... that is a question better left to a PROFESSIONAL, because it is clear that she needs PROFESSIONAL HELP. If she is unwilling to contact the police or to do anything about the Ex, then she is consenting to being abused. There is obviously something wrong with that kind of behavior.

So, has the abuse continued over the last 4 months? Does the ex show up regularly and beat her? Have you continued getting phone calls?

If I were you, I'd seriously back off the sex, and back off on the relationship until this situation with the Ex is dealt with and she has a chance to seek some counseling.

R

 

[loic2003]

Sounds harsh. not sure what the laws are where you live, speak to the CAB. You're potentially putting your own ass at risk here, but are you going to be the knight in shining armor who braves the dragon to win over the fair damsel?

The true gentleman would get her through the grief of this fvcktard without the view to be boning her after. Once she is free, it'd be a sound plan to let her clear her thoughts and mind, and only after consider commencing a new relationship. Sorry to sound negative, but she likes you now, true, but looks what she goes home to. Ask yourself if she would still like you if she wasn't getting her head kicked in on a regular basis.

Personally... I'd feel I have to help.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

just do it already. your already set on being the new baby daddy. Have her move in. get married. so at least two years down the road we can mock you and laugh when you post about your miserable life in 2 years.

 

[Bushman5]

Before i forget where i am from we do not have womens refuse, or any of those things u guys described as solutions. I could pay for her to see a doctor but i doubt she will go. and as for arresting the x, it mite happen if u find a good police officer.

As for me dealing with him, im not too sure how i will do it. I prefer to not resort to violence, but i will if necessary.

 

[bennylong]

Don't say we didn't warn you when she dumps you. Abused women always go back to abusive men.

 

[acemcmac]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
just prove me wrong and i'll appologize. how tall are you

No, I don't think I have to "prove you wrong."

You owe me an apology, period.

Have you ever considered that I might be living in a high-crime area where home invasions are relativley common?

Have you ever considered that I might know a lot of people who have been subjected to home invasions?

Have you ever considered that I might have felt that have previously betrayed my best feelings, left a woman who I really loved in that kind of situation and she got killed, leaving me filled with regret ever since?

Have you ever considered that mabye I have gotten a woman out of that kind of situation, married her, etc and feel like it was the best thing I've ever done?

You don't know any of my reasoning for why I feel the way I do, yet you have no problem judging me when you should instead be asking me why I belive the way I do. If my views really seem alien to you, why don't you ask why I feel the way I do instead of being so pretentious?

No i didnt consider any of those things because they are not relevant here. In my real world experience when I've encountered individuals with your attitude and outlook they were all on the shorter side of the scale and they were bitter at the world and they felt like they always had something to prove and were trying to compensate for something. So I dont need to consider the what if's that you propose because my life experience is more valueable. Your views are not alien to me at all so I dont need to ask, I already know your short, get it?

How is none of that stuff relevant? Is thread about you or the OP who is going to have to make some commitments to protect himself if he decides to stay with her?

BTW, go google the average height of an American male, and then remember that I'm 5' 11". The last time I checked, that made me the same height, if not taller than the average joe. You are a fvcking presumptious idiot.

well i appologize then you are the exception that proves the rule. doesnt change the fact you are a fool for the attitude you have regarding guns and settling disputes.

This isn't a method of "settling a dispute." If anyone hates me or someone I love enough to break into my house and try to do us bodily harm, I'm going to kill them. Wtf is so strange about that? If this guy is as bad as the OP says he is, it very well may come to that...

 

[Sunner]

Note to self:
If I find IcebergSlim stabbed and dying on the street, I must not help said person since it's not my responsibility.

 

[Bushman5]

Originally posted by: bennylong
Don't say we didn't warn you when she dumps you. Abused women always go back to abusive men.

That cant be true, why would she go back with him, she had broken up with him like 7 months before we started, and has been avoiding him since. especially since she has a new phone now.

 

[nakedfrog]

Well, you know the situation, what you'd be getting into. Are you prepared to take on the responsibility of being a father figure to the kids and helping a woman through her problems? If you think you can do it, and you feel like she's worth it to you, go for it.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: bennylong
Don't say we didn't warn you when she dumps you. Abused women always go back to abusive men.

Not true. I personally know of women who finally decided they'd had enough.

 

[bennylong]

Originally posted by: Bushman5

Originally posted by: bennylong
Don't say we didn't warn you when she dumps you. Abused women always go back to abusive men.

That cant be true, why would she go back with him, she had broken up with him like 7 months before we started, and has been avoiding him since. especially since she has a new phone now.

I didn't say she would go back with him, but she will probably date another man LIKE HIM. Just like people that have been sexually absued, they sexually abuse other children. Ever notice most child molesters have been molested themself? It's what we called DAMAGED GOOD, that's what she is.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: Sunner
Note to self:
If I find IcebergSlim stabbed and dying on the street, I must not help said person since it's not my responsibility.

:roll: great comparison

you can't help someone that doesnt want help.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: bennylong
Don't say we didn't warn you when she dumps you. Abused women always go back to abusive men.

Not true. I personally know of women who finally decided they'd had enough.

there always exceptions to any rule. i'm willing to bet the relapse rate is 90% or more in this situation.

 

[SampSon]

You could have some great sex if you're into that. Otherwise you should walk away, but not before beating the living sh!t out of her ex and calling the police.

 

[Bushman5]

Well i dont abuse her, and i never will.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: bennylong
Don't say we didn't warn you when she dumps you. Abused women always go back to abusive men.

Not true. I personally know of women who finally decided they'd had enough.

there always exceptions to any rule. i'm willing to bet the relapse rate is 90% or more in this situation.

I'm willing to not believe you unless you can back that up with some statistics you didn't just pull out of your bung

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: SampSon
You could have some great sex if you're into that. Otherwise you should walk away, but not before beating the living sh!t out of her ex and calling the police.

i wouldnt risk jail time for this woman or her ex

 

[DeadByDawn]

Try and get her some help, then maybe come back when she has her life together?

aka Run

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
just prove me wrong and i'll appologize. how tall are you

No, I don't think I have to "prove you wrong."

You owe me an apology, period.

Have you ever considered that I might be living in a high-crime area where home invasions are relativley common?

Have you ever considered that I might know a lot of people who have been subjected to home invasions?

Have you ever considered that I might have felt that have previously betrayed my best feelings, left a woman who I really loved in that kind of situation and she got killed, leaving me filled with regret ever since?

Have you ever considered that mabye I have gotten a woman out of that kind of situation, married her, etc and feel like it was the best thing I've ever done?

You don't know any of my reasoning for why I feel the way I do, yet you have no problem judging me when you should instead be asking me why I belive the way I do. If my views really seem alien to you, why don't you ask why I feel the way I do instead of being so pretentious?

No i didnt consider any of those things because they are not relevant here. In my real world experience when I've encountered individuals with your attitude and outlook they were all on the shorter side of the scale and they were bitter at the world and they felt like they always had something to prove and were trying to compensate for something. So I dont need to consider the what if's that you propose because my life experience is more valueable. Your views are not alien to me at all so I dont need to ask, I already know your short, get it?

How is none of that stuff relevant? Is thread about you or the OP who is going to have to make some commitments to protect himself if he decides to stay with her?

BTW, go google the average height of an American male, and then remember that I'm 5' 11". The last time I checked, that made me the same height, if not taller than the average joe. You are a fvcking presumptious idiot.

well i appologize then you are the exception that proves the rule. doesnt change the fact you are a fool for the attitude you have regarding guns and settling disputes.

How is it wrong to use force to defend yourself, your family, or your home? Are you going to lay down and take a beating? Are you going to sit and watch while someone beats your GF/wife? Are you going to help the criminals walk out the door with your belongings? Because by not taking action against criminal behavior encourages this sort of behavior. If someone breaks into my home, I want them to know that they should be prepared to die for whatever they want. It is my home and my belongings, not theirs. Now, if someone entered my home with the express purpose of robbing it and nothing else, I wouldn't be inclined to shoot them (read kill them). However, you cannot say with any degree of certainty what will happen when someone enters your home with some sort of criminal intent. I don't look at percentages when it comes to my life. I don't think "well, statistically you only have a 20% chance of being a victim of more than a robbery here, so it is best to crawl out a window and let them have whatever they want". Screw that.

Even though the OPs situation is different, the same ideas apply.

R

 

[SampSon]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: SampSon
You could have some great sex if you're into that. Otherwise you should walk away, but not before beating the living sh!t out of her ex and calling the police.

i wouldnt risk jail time for this woman or her ex

You beat him until his short term memory fails, duh.

 

[Bushman5]

Originally posted by: SampSon
You could have some great sex if you're into that. Otherwise you should walk away, but not before beating the living sh!t out of her ex and calling the police.

Yes but i think that will just keep her in the mentality of for me to get off i need to hit her,and bite her. I mena iof this waspurly a fetish ok fine i can dig it. But i think she is this way was she was forced to have sex like this and me to continue to do it mite make things worst or stay the same, tell me if u disagree.