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Originally posted by: Bushman5
The main question if any 1 has dealt with this is will he habist change after the x is gone.
Also should i stop giving her the type of sex she is used too. Is it a big deal that i do am i making things worst. Will her mentality change, if her mentality changes and she is capable of being totally normal and not so insecure then yes i will stay with her and beat off the x.
But however if she will always have this battered wife syndrome then ill have to think about it.
Originally posted by: yowolabi
Originally posted by: Bushman5
The main question if any 1 has dealt with this is will he habist change after the x is gone.
Also should i stop giving her the type of sex she is used too. Is it a big deal that i do am i making things worst. Will her mentality change, if her mentality changes and she is capable of being totally normal and not so insecure then yes i will stay with her and beat off the x.
But however if she will always have this battered wife syndrome then ill have to think about it.
I can't figure out why no one has pointed out that liking violent sex and her ex beating her up aren't cause and effect. I've know plenty of women that liked violent sex and had never had an abusive relationship. In fact, she might have picked her ex because he liked giving her what she already craved before she met him.
If she gets off on violence I doubt you're going to change that. Let her know that you don't need it to be happy, just to be sure she isn't doing it for your benefit. But if she still wants it anyway, don't assume that this is ever going to change or that she has any desire to change it.
Originally posted by: yllus
Uhhhh... do you REALLY need us to tell you to stay the fsck away?
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
he met this woman while she was trolling internet dating sites looking for a desperate simp just like the OP to be her new baby daddy.
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: Sunner
Note to self:
If I find IcebergSlim stabbed and dying on the street, I must not help said person since it's not my responsibility.
:roll: great comparison
you can't help someone that doesnt want help.
Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
he met this woman while she was trolling internet dating sites looking for a desperate simp just like the OP to be her new baby daddy.
Wait, wait, wait. I've only known one ATOT poster to use the word "simp" in a serious fashion, and he was banned one day before you signed up.
Is that you, biggiesmallz? If so, I see you're just as full of faux-macho *!$%@ as ever! :lips:
Originally posted by: episodic
Ever watch COPS?
Originally posted by: Chunkee
lots o baggage
L E A V E
Originally posted by: RelaxTheMind
agree... confront him and point it out. Sounds dumb but some people literally just need to be told. Other than that I would personally say farewell. If not just go ahead and say goodbye to about 3-5 years of your life spent dealing with emotions you never asked for.
Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo
Originally posted by: Bushman5
1 she dosent want to go to the police
2 she says no he would never kill me
I am at a ross road here. I really like her, im wondering if i should try to help her. If it wasnt for hr x beating her up and her having this syndrom i could really see us going places.
*sigh* If she is unwilling to go to the police, then you are going to be stuck in the worst situation possible, because she has already accepted that as her reality. And there it's hard as hell to change someone after that.
Originally posted by: thepd7
Originally posted by: RelaxTheMind
agree... confront him and point it out. Sounds dumb but some people literally just need to be told. Other than that I would personally say farewell. If not just go ahead and say goodbye to about 3-5 years of your life spent dealing with emotions you never asked for.
If he confronts the guy then that guy will take it out on the girl (and probably kids) whenever he isn't around. Promise. He needs to take in the woman and kids and buy a shotgun, just like it was suggested earlier.
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
wtf gun toting moron. this isnt his battle or his business. he needs to walk away.