Daughter posts disrespectful rant on Facebook, father shoots laptop

[chubbyfatazn]

I don't even get that part. Who the fuck cares if she wants to bitch to her friends on FB? Are you really that insecure?

It's not about insecurity, it's about disrespect. She's not expected to do anything substantial around the house, gets everything she needs and more, and still feels the need to disrespect her parents (and the "cleaning lady")?

Man, if I had a dollar for every time I didn't do what my parents asked me to do (simple stuff like she was asked to do), I'd have zero dollars. Fuck, I went home from college one day about two years ago just to vacuum the carpets, clean the bathrooms, fix one of our broken cars, wash the cars, and mow and trim the lawn for my mom. All that shit took me less than a day and I was back doing homework the next afternoon. Did I get asked to do that stuff?

No, I did it because I fucking love my parents. Evidently something this kid doesn't. People give teenagers a lot of shit for being irresponsible and taking everything for granted, but a lot of their behaviour stems from how they raised their kids. Go back to Parenting 101 and raise your damn kids to be responsible and respectful.

And it's her private feelings that she was sharing with people other than her father.

Dude, it's a social networking site. You don't put the words 'social' and 'diary' together in the same sentence without meaning two different things.

 

[Bateluer]

Thats pretty damn awesome. Good job Dad, you deserve a medal.

 

[Paladin3]

And it's her private feelings that she was sharing with people other than her father. Her comments sound like she was just venting. Is it also okay for them to read her diary and ground her for things in there too?

It sure the hell is. A child is a child. They're not adults or responsible for themselves or even mentally or emotionally capable of making good, mature decisions most of the time.

My daughter is 15 and I've never once felt the need to go snooping in her room or diary, but she is very responsible and has never given me cause to. She doesn't try to hid anything and would never block me on facebook. When I've gone into her room to retrieve laundry, or for some other routine reason, I've never seen anything that worries me. We have very open and frank discussions about what is expected of her and thankfully she understands why we have the rules we do.

It's a parent's job to ensure their children grow to be mature, responsible adults. If you think respecting the sanctity of a teenage girl's diary or privacy is more important than that then please don't every reproduce.

 

[RavenSEAL]

Lol, epic.

 

[TastesLikeChicken]

I think he over-reacted. A .38 would have been more than adequate. That .45 was just over the top.

 

[lothar]

And it's her private feelings that she was sharing with people other than her father. Her comments sound like she was just venting. Is it also okay for them to read her diary and ground her for things in there too?

Absolutely.

 

[ImpulsE69]

I approve this message. This really isn't different than if a school expels a student for what they post, etc etc.

More parents should do this rather than try to be their kids friends.

 

[ImpulsE69]

I think he over-reacted. A .38 would have been more than adequate. That .45 was just over the top.

if you're going to go, go big. Personally, I would have Myth Bustered it.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

I approve this message. This really isn't different than if a school expels a student for what they post, etc etc.

More parents should do this rather than try to be their kids friends.

School expelling is over the top in my opinion. However, parental punishment is not and is needed compared to how many parents let their kids slide on everything. This guy is awesome. Read his wall too, its crazy.

 

[Anonemous]

Dang, hollow point explosive rounds? He shot it close to the ground, would there be any danger of it ricocheting off the ground/laptop?

 

[paperfist]

Wow a dad who can't manage a 15 year old girl. Wait till she's knocked up and on the porn circuit Daddy'o!

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Wow a dad who can't manage a 15 year old girl. Wait till she's knocked up and on the porn circuit Daddy'o!

He's managing her just fine. If he wasnt, she'd be running all over him. I see it all the time where the kid does whatever he/she wants and says fuck you to their parents with no consequences.

 

[PowerEngineer]

And it's her private feelings that she was sharing with people other than her father. Her comments sound like she was just venting. Is it also okay for them to read her diary and ground her for things in there too?

Pretty obvious contradiction here!

Everyone can have private feelings without consequences because by definition these feelings are not shared with others. If you choose to share your feeling, then you're also choosing to accept the reactions of the people you share them with (as well as the people those people share them with).

Posting her rant on the internet is akin to reading her diary aloud at a high school assembly or to printing them in a full-page ad in the local newspaper. It's not at all equivalent to a diary (that no one other than the author will ever read).

IMHO the dad makes a mistake by responding in kind (i.e. posting the video) and making their family squabble even more public. And venting his frustrations by shooting holes in the laptop may make him feel better, but will certainly widen the gap between him and his daughter.

 

[SwiftWind]

A better punishment would have been to install gentoo on her laptop with no GUI.

 

[BoomerD]

Good for him. Fucking spoiled self-entitled kids nowadays seem to think their parents (and the world) owe them everything.

Sure, he COULD have given the laptop to someone else...but this will make a stronger point to her...and one she can look at every day. (I'd nail the fucker to her bedroom wall, just so she could be reminded)

HOWEVER, I'll be surprised if he actually sticks to his guns and follows through with the long-term punishment. Odds are, she gets a new laptop within a few weeks.

 

[Humpy]

Wow, that guy has serious issues.

...Unless the lesson he is teaching his daughter is the acceptance of drug addiction, angry/violent destruction, and attention whoring.

 

[LiuKangBakinPie]

It is just the internet. Words on a screen ffs. Some people take this shit too seriously sometimes.

 

[mnewsham]

Good for him. Fucking spoiled self-entitled kids nowadays seem to think their parents (and the world) owe them everything.

Sure, he COULD have given the laptop to someone else...but this will make a stronger point to her...and one she can look at every day. (I'd nail the fucker to her bedroom wall, just so she could be reminded)

HOWEVER, I'll be surprised if he actually sticks to his guns and follows through with the long-term punishment. Odds are, she gets a new laptop within a few weeks.

There are the days where I wake up thinking "man I wish BoomerD were my dad" then there are days when I think "Sweet Jesus am I glad my father is NOT BoomerD, he is one badass dude".

Today is the latter, while I agree with the laptop being totaled and long term punishment, nailing it to the wall IS a bit excessive. Think of how the daughter would feel, she has feelings and reminding her that she is a shitty daughter by nailing up her mistakes might not be good for her devlopment.

Hopefully the father sticks to his guns and doesn't give in after only a few weeks.

 

[SearchMaster]

A "personal" laptop is an unneeded luxury for a high school kid. If I had a kid and they want to use the computer, they can use the desktop computer in the dining room.

My son is in 6th grade, goes to a public school, and is required to bring a laptop to school every day. I suspect that won't change once he enters high school.

 

[slayer202]

the guy is a douche/tool. he's the reason the daughter hates her life already.

 

[mnewsham]

My son is in 6th grade, goes to a public school, and is required to bring a laptop to school every day. I suspect that won't change once he enters high school.

I graduated from high school last year and as the only person in my public high school to carry a laptop daily I can assure you that it is not necessary. In fact, I would call BS on your statement of 6th grader using a laptop daily unless it was for a specific program or magnet school. Even then I doubt it. The only laptops in my high school that was not mine were found in the Bio-med Labs where those students would use them for that class and that class only.

No I didn't go to some inner-city school system, or a school system in a poor area, the operating budget for the system is around $2.128 Billion for this FY.

 

[LiuKangBakinPie]

Kids today have so many advantages I never had. There's no telling what I could've accomplished with a home computer and a handgun at school

 

[uclaLabrat]

I graduated from high school last year and as the only person in my public high school to carry a laptop daily I can assure you that it is not necessary. In fact, I would call BS on your statement of 6th grader using a laptop daily unless it was for a specific program or magnet school. Even then I doubt it. The only laptops in my high school that was not mine were found in the Bio-med Labs where those students would use them for that class and that class only.

No I didn't go to some inner-city school system, or a school system in a poor area, the operating budget for the system is around $2.128 Billion for this FY.

My niece is in a magnet program and she's 6, and required to have a laptop. I don't know if it's in school everyday, but she has to have one.

 

[mnewsham]

My niece is in a magnet program and she's 6, and required to have a laptop. I don't know if it's in school everyday, but she has to have one.

That's a magnet program. In public school systems in this state anyway you are not even required to own a computer or have internet connection, there are libraries you can go if you need to use the computer and internet, both in school and around the county.

A private computer is not a requirement for public education period. While it can be useful it is not NEEDED. Sure it could save me an hour going to the library by bus or something, but I could still do it.

 

[NesuD]

LOL!! well I can certainly understand his frustration with his daughter. Have been to a similar place a couple times with my own 2 teenagers. I think though that his response with the whole video thing and shooting the laptop was probably not the most effective way to deal with it. He said he worked in IT. That could mean a lot of things but If he has any kind of networking background he could have had a lot more fun teaching her a lesson in a more private and just as frustrating manner for her. I put my networking background to use to teach my boys about how far disrespect and failure to follow the rules would get you in my home by turning my home network into a fully managed enterprise style network. I made great use of things like bandwidth throttling and prioritization, protocol and url filtering, and internet access per user authentication requirements to name a few. That last one was loads of fun. Requiring them to provide credentials at time intervals of my choosing to access the internet drove them to serious distraction particularly when I set the interval to every 30 seconds. It earned me the exalted title in my home of the Internet Nazi. Apparently Playing WoW isn't much fun when you get disconnected every 30 seconds because you internet access authentication expired. LOL!!! Throttling the ports that WoW uses to push updates to you was lots of fun to. One update took a week to download. The wailing and knashing of teeth was music to my ears. They did eventually learn the lessons and we were able to keep it all in the family. Oh and their friends thought it was hilarious and that I was some kind of IT god LOL!!! I figure if you are going to war with your teenager you may as well have some fun. When they see you having so much fun it will drive it home even more.