Daughter posts disrespectful rant on Facebook, father shoots laptop

[classy]

You seemed to be concerned about the tool, not the action.

His whole response is little questionable. The destroying of laptop is an over reaction and to use a gun is definately out there.

 

[classy]

You seemed to be concerned about the tool, not the action.

I'll put it like this, seeing that whole video, if my daughter was friends with his daughter I would be very skeptical of allowing her to stay the night over there.

 

[mikeymikec]

I'm not a parent yet and I don't pretend to be.

But I know how my parents raised me. I was some stupid ass immature kid back then. My parents didn't shoot my damn laptop or humiliate me on internet. That shit goes deep to a kid. "Well the kid shouldn't have trashed her dad on FB!" That's why she's a stupid kid!? And you're NOT. You flinging mud with her on same level don't cut it.

I did LOTS of trouble making and got into every angle of discipline. My parents didn't give me 'warm fuzzy' talks. But this one time, my mom sat me down and said, "Listen, I love you but you have truly disappointed me this time." Then she just walked away.

Holy shit that touched home deeper than any scolding, grounding, taking away SNES, or punishment I have received.

She wisely retained her relationship with me no matter what shit staining I did to her.

Today, I love both of my parents to death and speak to them few times a week on a personal basis.

Cannot agree enough! One of my sisters was a real trouble maker, worried my parents to no end. Getting in with the wrong crowd, drugs, the whole lot. At one point she had ran away and tried to hitch-hike to meet the bloke she was currently with who lived in another county, a couple who picked her up figured something was wrong and called the police.

When my dad picked her up from the police station, he did not speak to her for the whole 2 or 3 hour drive home, wouldn't even look at her. And she did try to apologise, but he just wouldn't even talk.
She later said that his disappointment to the point of not even acknowledging her had a bigger effect on her than if he had shouted at her, grounded her, whatever. It really went to her core. She did actually even say that to him at one point, asking him to just give her a telling off but please please talk to her.

Not saying that this will work for every kid; but I guess that if the parent-kid relationship is relatively normal/stable, and there is love deep down no matter how spoilt they are acting or what phase they are going through, then that approach will work.

This is Mike's wife typing, btw

 

[JulesMaximus]

What a colossal douchebag this guy is. Not surprised at all his daughter hates him... hell, I hate him after just watching that video.

 

[CPA]

His whole response is little questionable. The destroying of laptop is an over reaction and to use a gun is definately out there.

Oh well, I don't see that he did anything wrong. At least there wasn't a video of him beating her.

 

[GotIssues]

Over/Under on the # of people in this thread that have or had to closely work with teenagers: 4

I don't have kids, but I'm not daft enough to think that sitting down and talking with the teenager works every time (or necessarily a lot of the time). I would definitely not have used a gun to put my point across, but sometimes the hammer has to drop for the message to set in.

 

[highland145]

Should have just let the mastiff bite her in the face and been done.

 

[micrometers]

I suspect that the father was angry when he shot the video, much like the daughter.

And I wonder if she's hot.

 

[highland145]

I suspect that the father was angry when he shot the video, much like the daughter.

And I wonder if she's hot.

Bet pics of her would sway the OT crowd one way or the other.

 

[pcgeek11]

That was great. Tough love.

 

[cliftonite]

His whole response is little questionable. The destroying of laptop is an over reaction and to use a gun is definately out there.

Seeing your response in the judge beating threat you probably would have beat the shit out of her right?

 

[Pulsar]

His whole response is little questionable. The destroying of laptop is an over reaction and to use a gun is definately out there.

You are so full of crap. Obviously never dealt much with teenagers or kids.

Sometimes the shock value of the thing is half the battle. A year down the road, they'll sit at the table and laugh about this.

At the same time, he blew off steam in a safe way.

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with him destroying his own property in a safe manner.

Kids are constantly testing boundaries. She just found a very clear one about showing respect to her parents. Probably a lesson she'll never forget, and he did it all without physical contact. Win win.

 

[classy]

Oh well, I don't see that he did anything wrong. At least there wasn't a video of him beating her.

I said the same thing there that I said here. At the ages of these girls, doing what either of these fathers did is the wrong approach. I agree with corporal punisment but based on the age of the judge's daughter, he too missed it. But this father shows really no more maturity either. Honestly, you gotta be f'ed in the head, to post a video of yourself pulling a gun and shooting your misbehaving daughter's laptop.

And even more disturbing was all the gun talked, explaining its a 45 with exploding hollow points, the cost of the bullets. This dude is a f'ing idiot, he just wanted 15 minutes of fame. He is angry over her nonsense internet post, but what does he do, just one ups her with own internet video, oooooooooooooooooooo, look at me. Mistakes like this don't mean they are bad parents, but instead used poor judgement for their response.

 

[classy]

You are so full of crap. Obviously never dealt much with teenagers or kids.

Sometimes the shock value of the thing is half the battle. A year down the road, they'll sit at the table and laugh about this.

At the same time, he blew off steam in a safe way.

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with him destroying his own property in a safe manner.

Kids are constantly testing boundaries. She just found a very clear one about showing respect to her parents. Probably a lesson she'll never forget, and he did it all without physical contact. Win win.

I have a 23 year old daughter and a 13 year old. I have never had either be suspended, involved with drugs, smoking, or alcohol. Never been to a police station either. And while I wouldn't bet my life on it, I seriously doubt a year from now they will be sitting down anywhere together laughing about this.

Verbal abuse and acts to instill fear are way worse than physical contact. You know very little about child rearing.

 

[videogames101]

And you are how old? I don't think you fully understand consequences of actions.

What does that even mean? There was a consequence for the daughter, she called her parents out in a public way and the parents weren't happy about it, so the father decided to destroy her laptop. My only point was that that solution doesn't fix her attitude toward her parents, only her ability to publish it online. Maybe I'm missing what you're saying though.

 

[videogames101]

You think a teenager knows any respect by default? I sure as hell didnt and I never realized it until I turned 18/19. I treated my dad like shit and got punished and I hated him for it.

No I don't think they do, whats your point?

 

[Brovane]

Maybe the daughter should take her Dad's 45 and film a video of her destroying it?

 

[crownjules]

Kids are kids. We expect them to be immature because they're learning how to act in an appropriate manner. What this father did just reaffirmed to his daughter that airing out your dirty laundry in a dramatic manner is the right way to act. He did not act in a way that demonstrates to his child the proper way to deal with this type of situation. It's causing more drama if anything.

Take the laptop away, even destroy it, and scold her one-on-one. There's no need to justify yourself as a parent to all the people she whined to on FB (and now also the entire world).

His method was not flawed. His medium was a terrible choice for a parent.

 

[Pulsar]

I have a 23 year old daughter and a 13 year old. I have never had either be suspended, involved with drugs, smoking, or alcohol. Never been to a police station either. And while I wouldn't bet my life on it, I seriously doubt a year from now they will be sitting down anywhere together laughing about this.

Verbal abuse and acts to instill fear are way worse than physical contact. You know very little about child rearing.

There we go. I was wondering when someone would play the abuse card. Verbal abuse? Instilling fear? He broke her laptop. He didn't walk in with a cat-of-nine-tails and brandish it at her.

Over-react much?

 

[Hugo Drax]

Wow looks like he raised an over entitled cuntlet. Well it is his laptop since he bought it he can do whatever he wants with it. Maybe she can get a part time job and save up to buy her own.

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

At least she didn't air out complaining about him touching her in naughty places.

 

[Aikouka]

From what people said the guy did (shot the laptop), I thought the letter would be a lot worse than it was. :| I'm rather disappointed now.

 

[thecoolnessrune]

No, it is not stupid, you must not have teenagers.

If you whip their ass, Child Protection Services (CPS) is called, assault charges are filed on the dad, the family has to go to court, take anger management class and probably pay a fine. If things go really bad, the dad is convicted and has an assault charge on his record.

If the dad takes his anger out on a physical object, like the laptop, there is nothing the cops can do.

Daughter calls cops - my dad beat me
Cops - we will be right there

Daughter calls cops - my dad destroyed my laptop
Cops - and?

Destroying a physical object is the path of least resistance.

WTF Are you going on about? Destroying something that *he* bought with *his* money isn't doing shit. Its wasteful destruction of his own property. Why not just sell it and make some money back? Or donate it to someone else? I do not care at all that he's punishing her, she should be and severely! But he's destroying his own property, not hers. WTF is wrong with you that you feel the only response available is a violent one?

I'm sorry but when faced with alternatives, his decision to destroy his own property makes him stupid. It really is that simple man.

 

[SlitheryDee]

That was great. Her post displayed all of the petty bitchiness of someone who gets too much of what they want without working for it. It was a bad sign that deserved quick and decisive action. There's a parent who actually gives a shit about who their child grows up to be.

 

[Sonikku]

I don't get why he destroyed the computer. Sell it, donate it to charity, or give it away on Craigslist?

Where is the fun in that?