Delayed or Retarded Ejaculation

[darkdiablo]

I masturbate about 3 times a day, with great speed and friction for sometime. I masturbate at least once per day when I was a teenager, and several times per day when I was bored. I'm 19 now. Although I easily cum with my hand motion, its much more difficult to achieve climax during regular sex with my girlfriend. I think its because my penis is so used to the hand motion that regular foreplay and intercourse doesn't arouse it anymore. I was hoping maybe an abstinence from masturbation can help me reduce or cure my delayed ejaculation problem.

Can abstinence from masturbation cure delayed or retarded ejaculation?

Anyone here knowledgeable on this topic that can answer my question?

 

[coldmeat]

3 times a day? WTF? That's not normal dude.

 

[conorvansmack]

An addiction you have, yes?

 

[SociallyChallenged]

Originally posted by: darkdiablo
I masturbate about 3 times a day, with great speed and friction for sometime. I masturbate at least once per day when I was a teenager, and several times per day when I was bored. I'm 19 now. Although I easily cum with my hand motion, its much more difficult to achieve climax during regular sex with my girlfriend. I think its because my penis is so used to the hand motion that regular foreplay and intercourse doesn't arouse it anymore. I was hoping maybe an abstinence from masturbation can help me reduce or cure my delayed ejaculation problem.

Can abstinence from masturbation cure delayed or retarded ejaculation?

Anyone here knowledgeable on this topic that can answer my question?

Yes, abstinence from masturbation will decrease your threshold over time. It sounds like you're having some sort of death grip on it and desensitizing your neurons or something. Either way, a break from masturbation will help in regaining arousal and sensitivity (to some extent). Your body adapted one way. It can adapt back.

 

[coreyb]

Of course you will go quicker if you cut down on jacking. I personally try not to masterbate at all when I'm having regular sex. Save your chi for your woman!

 

[CKent]

Originally posted by: coldmeat
3 times a day? WTF? That's not normal dude.

Jesus :laugh:

Yeah, masturbation is for when you don't have a girlfriend. I've never even remotely wanted to when I've been getting regular 'tang.

 

[StageLeft]

There is another guy on these forums who's addicted to porn and wanks constantly and can only do his business with his hand. Do you want to be him? It sounds like you're on a crash course toward that.

If you're raw dogging your gf and can't do your business, either she's not attractive or you're polishing the bishop way too much.

Not sure if anybody here actually thinks you'll cut back though, even if we all say the same thing.

 

[mk52]

are you using a condom when you're nailing your gf?

 

[BeauJangles]

Stop jerking it so much.

 

[InflatableBuddha]

*paging FBB*

 

[Kromis]

Originally posted by: InflatableBuddha
*paging FBB*

Win

 

[KingGheedora]

Yes, abstinence will help with this. You need like 4 weeks off, good luck achieving that.

 

[darkdiablo]

Originally posted by: KingGheedora
Yes, abstinence will help with this. You need like 4 weeks off, good luck achieving that.

I can achieve this since cumming while having sex with my girlfriend would be a good motivator. And according to SociallyChallenged, are you sure this will resensitize my penis?

 

[darkdiablo]

Originally posted by: mk52
are you using a condom when you're nailing your gf?

No, she's on the pill because she has acne problems, but it lets us do it without condoms too.

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: darkdiablo

Originally posted by: KingGheedora
Yes, abstinence will help with this. You need like 4 weeks off, good luck achieving that.

I can achieve this since cumming while having sex with my girlfriend would be a good motivator. And according to SociallyChallenged, are you sure this will resensitize my penis?

It's the best shot you have.

 

[Kirby]

Originally posted by: darkdiablo
with great speed and friction

:laugh:

 

[Safeway]

Stop wanking so much. Every other day would be okay -- but you should try to go two weeks without masturbating. Have sex a few times to climax within that period. When you begin masturbating again, keep it to once daily, maximum. It'd be better if you did it one to four times a week, depending on sex.

 

[SociallyChallenged]

Originally posted by: darkdiablo

Originally posted by: KingGheedora
Yes, abstinence will help with this. You need like 4 weeks off, good luck achieving that.

I can achieve this since cumming while having sex with my girlfriend would be a good motivator. And according to SociallyChallenged, are you sure this will resensitize my penis?

It's not like your body will build more neurons to become sensitive again. I believe you've been either using a death grip or not been "into it" enough because you've been masturbating so much. You need time off. Sex and orgasm is largely perception rather than sensation. If you perceive something as meh, then it will be meh and you won't get off. If you take a break and your body stops being used to constantly getting off, your perception will change and sex will seem like an exciting novelty. My bet is that quitting wanking will help, but I can't guarantee that it will 100% help. It's the best option you've got right now either way.

 

[PricklyPete]

Are you wearing a condom? You just need to have more sex with your girlfriend...and find positions that stimulate you the most. You are correct that you trained your "set" to get off on certain stimulation that is not replicated during normal sex with your girlfriend. You can train it to get off with the normal stuff as well. Condoms definitely effect the amount of stimulation you get...so that could also be making a big difference. I know that it makes a big difference for me.

 

[SociallyChallenged]

Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Are you wearing a condom? You just need to have more sex with your girlfriend...and find positions that stimulate you the most. You are correct that you trained your "set" to get off on certain stimulation that is not replicated during normal sex with your girlfriend. You can train it to get off with the normal stuff as well. Condoms definitely effect the amount of stimulation you get...so that could also be making a big difference. I know that it makes a big difference for me.

He already stated above he doesn't use a condom. It seems to mainly be an overuse kinda thing. If you use it too much in other situations then you have little drive or even physical ability to use it when you want.