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[LivinLaVivaPollo]

 

[Spineshank]

Knowing my temper and depending on the day i woulda packed up and left.

 

[jdini76]

this sounds like a letter for Dear Abby.

 

[Ausm]

WTF??? You gf should tell her sister to get a life and fullfill her OWN responsibilities! Pushing her injured husband off on her sister to go on a cruise is lame.



Ausm

 

[lokiju]

You state you were planning in proposing to her, that being the case I'd assume you two are pretty serious, I'd be very pissed off also.

You should be her #1 not her sisters husband and just so her sister can go on a cruise? WTF that's B.S!

 

[LivinLaVivaPollo]

Originally posted by: lokiju
You state you were planning in proposing to her, that being the case I'd assume you two are pretty serious, I'd be very pissed off also.

You should be her #1 not her sisters husband and just so her sister can go on a cruise? WTF that's B.S!

Word. I was going to save up for the next few years so we could buy a house together. But screw that, I'm going to buy an Escalade. It's all about me now.

 

[PingSpike]

I agree with you.

 

[booger711]

the sister = b1tch

 

[JS80]

i would be suspect of her if she DIDN'T HELP HER OWN FAMILY BECAUSE HER SISTER IS AN IRRESPONSIBLE DOUCHE. at least she's not like her sister, who goes on a cruise by herself with an injured husband at home and has her sister take care of her family.

which means when you're sick and dying she will be tending to your needs. you're a selfish jerk. you don't deserve her.

 

[BooGiMaN]

well then i think that as a soon to be brother in law you need to take care of your gf's sister's needs seeing as the husband is incapable of fullfilling her sexually...im sure she will be understanding.

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[NatePo717]

Originally posted by: JS80
i would be suspect of her if she DIDN'T HELP HER OWN FAMILY BECAUSE HER SISTER IS AN IRRESPONSIBLE DOUCHE. at least she's not like her sister, who goes on a cruise by herself with an injured husband at home and has her sister take care of her family.

which means when you're sick and dying she will be tending to your needs. you're a selfish jerk. you don't deserve her.

:thumbsup:

 

[Dacalo]

Just going by what you have written, the fault is not your GF's, it's your GF's sister's. The sister is irresponsible and selfish enough to put your GF in that position. Put yourself in her shoes, how can she just ignore her sister's children and her injured husband? I am sure she feels partly responsible because her sister is such a dumbass. I understand your anger, and I would be too, but direct your anger at her sister, not your GF. It seems like your GF is a keeper, she seems like a very caring person. You really think she enjoys driving around like that and wasting her vacation away?

EDIT: Don't be a prick, be a man and try to understand her. If you can't, you don't deserve her.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: JS80
i would be suspect of her if she DIDN'T HELP HER OWN FAMILY BECAUSE HER SISTER IS AN IRRESPONSIBLE DOUCHE. at least she's not like her sister, who goes on a cruise by herself with an injured husband at home and has her sister take care of her family.

which means when you're sick and dying she will be tending to your needs. you're a selfish jerk. you don't deserve her.

I can see your point didn't think about it that way But still her sister is lame and that fact cannot be changed


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[Ramma2]

You sure there's not something more going on than what you know? I would be concerned.

 

[maximus maximus]

You guys are taking this a bit too far...

I think the OP is lucky to have such a nice and caring girlfriend. Now she has helped her sisters husband so much during difficult times... I just cannot imagine the extent of love and affection she would show towards the OP, if something happens to him (god forbid).

Its the OP's girlfriend who should be doing the whining now.. Why?
1) She has been doing all the hard work, with little or no help from anyone.
2) She does not get any appreciation from her loved ones for her deeds. Instead, she gets criticised?

Agreed, that her sister is stupid to leave her husband and go on a cruise, but look at this girl, she is such a gem of a person.. who did all the things that were never even expected out of her..

OP, if you plan to dump this girl based on the comments you are getting here.. you are making a big mistake. Trust me.

 

[LivinLaVivaPollo]

It's an issue of responsibility. It's not her responsibility. He HAS family, they just choose to do nothing because my GF is taking care of everything.

 

[DougK62]

It sounds like your GF is just being a good sibling (even though her sister sounds like an ass). I'd be angry that she had two weeks and did nothing, but you can't be too mad about her wanting to help out her family after an accident that was unexpected.

 

[wheresmybacon]

Boy your GF's siter really loves her husband. HTF can she go on a cruise and leave that poor dude at home? /boggle

 

[NatePo717]

heh. If you don't want her I'll take her.

 

[montanafan]

Granted the sister sounds pretty bad for going off and expecting her sister to take care of her family, but I have learned that family matters are never really cut and dried.

If my sister asked me to do something like that I might roll my eyes and think she was irresponsible, but I'd still do it because she's my sister and she's helped me out in the past and I'll probably need her help in the future. You have to be able to count on family and even though they can drive you crazy at times, they're still there for you when you need them and vise versa.

OP, though I can understand you being a little angry with your GF because of the moving problem, and angry at her sister for dumping her responsibilities on your GF, it doesn't really seem to warrant your reaction to it. Everything has worked out as far as the moving goes and now it seems like you're just mad that she's not there at your beck and call, and so it does sound a little selfish on your part. Do you really expect her or any girl in your life to tell her family she can't help them out when they ask because her BF... why exactly is it that she can't help a member of her family out?

 

[imported_Zeke]

Originally posted by: Dacalo
Just going by what you have written, the fault is not your GF's, it's your GF's sister's. The sister is irresponsible and selfish enough to put your GF in that position. Put yourself in her shoes, how can she just ignore her sister's children and her injured husband? I am sure she feels partly responsible because her sister is such a dumbass. I understand your anger, and I would be too, but direct your anger at her sister, not your GF. It seems like your GF is a keeper, she seems like a very caring person. You really think she enjoys driving around like that and wasting her vacation away?

EDIT: Don't be a prick, be a man and try to understand her. If you can't, you don't deserve her.

Hes right. The situations sucks, but you girlfriend is trying to be a good person.

 

[oogabooga]

Originally posted by: JS80
i would be suspect of her if she DIDN'T HELP HER OWN FAMILY BECAUSE HER SISTER IS AN IRRESPONSIBLE DOUCHE. at least she's not like her sister, who goes on a cruise by herself with an injured husband at home and has her sister take care of her family.

which means when you're sick and dying she will be tending to your needs. you're a selfish jerk. you don't deserve her.

:thumbsup:

YES it is your GF's job to take care of her family. Her sister ran off on a cruise, someone needs to take care of the brother. You're GF can't be procrastinating her time if her sister isn't doing her job.

Why don't you swallow your pride, understand that even if you are the #1 man in her life - sometimes she is obligated to help other people. You're the man, do the moving for her. Be supportive instead of making what i'm sure is a difficult situation that much more difficult you f#!*ing ass.

I'm sure all selfish people love having to help out their siblings family, tending to the every need, when they are supposed to be moving. That's everyone's idea of stressfree.


I hope for your sake she never reads this thread. I hope for her sake she does.

 

[MustangSVT]

meh. i would like to hear her side before making any judgements.

 

[maximus maximus]

Originally posted by: LivinLaVivaPollo
It's an issue of responsibility. It's not her responsibility. He HAS family, they just choose to do nothing because my GF is taking care of everything.

So, is it your girlfriends mistake for being such a nice person?
You should be proud of her for going out of her way and helping someone.

Damn... if you ever break up with this girl, please be kind enough to pass me her phone nbr.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: LivinLaVivaPollo
Just had a huge fight with my GF. Been with her for six years, was gonna propose to her on her birthday in a few months. Eff all of that.

I'll try and make this short because I want to call her and yell at her some more. She got a job as a teacher in the central valley, and I'm working in the bay area, but since she got her job first, I said that it would be safest to go ahead and move here first in case I couldn't secure anything in the bay.

Anyway, she has been off for the past three weeks, so she was supposed to move stuff from our old apartment (Santa Cruz) to our new one (Manteca). The first two weeks, she didn't do crap. The last week, her brother in law got injured in a motorcycle accident - a lot of scrapes, can't move around. Her sister had a cruise planned for herself, but she wasn't going to give that up, even though her husband got injured. So she went on the cruise anyway, leaving her injured husband and kids at home.

Basically, she was there a week tending to the husband's every need. Putting ointment on his body, taking him to the doctor, and taking his kids to school, making dinner, etc. She basically never came home.

She did come back to SC to move stuff to Manteca. Since I still had summer school and final exams, I couldn't do anything. It was her job to move stuff since she had three weeks off. She came back for one day so we could do a 36 hour no sleep move from SC to Manteca. I bitched at her. She said I wasn't being understanding and was being childish.

We move to Manteca, I spend a few hours with her. Then, she leaves again to take care of them. Not coming back until next week.

Wtf. This isn't her job. This is her sister's job. If her husband got injured, too bad, you can't go on the cruise anymore. You don't get your younger sister to replace you. I'm so angry. I'm about to stuff everything I can into my car and move away from here. She says I'm not being understanding... is she serious?

Cliffs:
1. GF is taking care of her sister's family because brother in law got injured and her sister decided to leave on a cruise anyway.

2. I'm angry because she procrastinated her time away and subjected me to move 1000 sq. feet of stuff through the night and move it across CA.

3. When we get here, within hours, she leaves again.

4. She says I'm not being understanding.

yup, start going to bars and looking for another one since this relationship is done. your gf is an idiot. she should have told her selfish sister to shove it...