True. All good points. But think of the big picture. Nobody lives to be miserable - we're all seeking the ideal way of living. I personally think, the ideal way of living is to give. In return, I get a sense of being, a sense of contributing, etc - and if people give to me in return that's a bonus. But this doesn't take away from the fact that it is a personal moral that I'm resorting to fulfilling. So in a sense, my giving is derived ultimately from a self-centered ideal.
Does anybody see what I'm saying? I'm not disagreeing with you guys, I'm just saying that ultimately all our actions are derived from us in order to achieve what we find to be the right path in life.
When a married couple suffers a tragic accident, and one person is a vegetable physically (and perhaps mentally), often the spouse that sticks around is the one that sticks with his/her morals that are self-centered in that living by his/her morals will ultimately make him happy. This isn't selfish, but self-centered in origin. The opposite end of the spectrum is a selfish person whose actions are also self-centered in origin. Their morals are different but they stick with them and just leave their spouse finding no benefit to staying.
Another example would be a couple where one person falls out of love and just does nothing for the relationship. The other spouse may stick around, but only to fulfill their own morals of keeping promises, or due to religious conviction. But their decision would have little to do with the other person's needs in mind.
Does anybody see what I'm saying? I'm not disagreeing with you guys, I'm just saying that ultimately all our actions are derived from us in order to achieve what we find to be the right path in life.
When a married couple suffers a tragic accident, and one person is a vegetable physically (and perhaps mentally), often the spouse that sticks around is the one that sticks with his/her morals that are self-centered in that living by his/her morals will ultimately make him happy. This isn't selfish, but self-centered in origin. The opposite end of the spectrum is a selfish person whose actions are also self-centered in origin. Their morals are different but they stick with them and just leave their spouse finding no benefit to staying.
Another example would be a couple where one person falls out of love and just does nothing for the relationship. The other spouse may stick around, but only to fulfill their own morals of keeping promises, or due to religious conviction. But their decision would have little to do with the other person's needs in mind.