Did/are you waiting for marriage to have sex?

[BruinEd03]

I'm not advocating either (though preferably i'd like to wait till marriage but i'm flexible i guess), but someone said something to me before and I thought it was kinda interesting:

If you have sex with someone and you don't marry that person, just remember you're probably sleeping with someone else's future wife/husband.

-Ed

 

[jeweleeann]

I had every intention of waiting until marriage but I didn't. I do not regret what I did but I think that it is good if you can wait. I am very impressed at all the people here talking about waiting. If you can't wait for marriage at least wait until it is somebody that you really love then you won't regret it.

 

[mosdef]

At this rate yeah.

-mosdef

 

[EvanFerguson]

Bruin; hmmmmm, I guess I know a lot of people sleeping with future spouses then hahahaha



whether it's wait for marriage or just love, i think it's definately to wait to some extent

 

[Anghang]

nope didn't wait...do i regret it..hmm..somewhat, but i'm still enjoying life

 

[MrCodeDude]

Yes.. It just seems right, I mean, what's the point of meaningless sex?
-- mrcodedude

 

[EvanFerguson]

because at the time it seems like it means A LOT

 

[weezergirl]

i'm waiting for marriage and no, religion did not influence me.

i don't really see what's wrong with waiting. i can think of a lot more reasons to wait rather than to not. i don't look down on other people who do, except for irresponsible sex, but as a personal choice i'd like to wait. i think the man i do intend on marrying will be worth the wait.

 

[EvanFerguson]

actually yes weezergirl (nice name btw) someone mentioned it earlier


i'm glad you've made up your mind, good luck to you!

 

[weezergirl]

oh oops. sorry! this thread is too long i couldn't read it all hehe.

cool, do u like weezer too?? what's your favorite song?

 

[EvanFerguson]

yeah i don't expect anyone to read the whole thing, hehe


fav song of all time or off the new album?

all time would have to be...........yikes, ummmmm the good life probably

the album is crab, island in the sun is nice too but crab is better imo

(haspipe is overplayed, agreed??)

 

[weezergirl]

wow, you're the first person i know who likes crab the best! good life is an awesome song, one of my top 5. sorry, but i don't think weezer can be overplayed hehe. i've listened to at least one song from the green album since 2 weeks before it came out. at least it's better than the other rubbish on the radio . . .

 

[EvanFerguson]

yeah, agreed


i like a lot of their stuff, i'm glad you're into them too

 

[RanDum72]

Waiting to get married before having sex should be used as foreplay.

 

[EvanFerguson]

hmm??

 

[RanDum72]

The waiting itself IS the foreplay. You build up the anticipation, you deprive yourself and when the drought is over, the more you appreciate it.

 

[JupiterJones]

My wife and I are celebrating our 11th anniversary tomorrow. We were both virgins when we married. I was 25, and she was 20. Our love life is incredible.
Did religion play a part? Neither my wife nor I were Saved at the time, but we were both influenced by a Christian worldview.
Nothing good comes from sex outside of marriage. There is the momentary pleasure, but it can't last. Any of you men who complain that your married sex lives are unsatisfying need to enrich your marriages. Become the spiritual leaders of your household and your wives will not be able to keep her hands off you. Initialte going to church, and pray with your wife on a regular basis. It works.

Don

 

[AncientPC]

I'm sure this has already been posted before but here it is again.

 

[bigd480]

<< Waiting to get married before having sex should be used as foreplay. >>

that's true... there are a LOT of things you can do other than sex to see how sexually compatible you are, so that whole test drive notion is B.S.

But since y'all like car metaphors: &quot;You don't need to test the top speed on a car you've been driving at 80 for years to see if it'll do 100 when you need it in a rush&quot; (no pun intended and sorry, bad metaphor)

 

[Emulex]

Yah but if your SCHLONG is too big, you'd have to chop it down.

Some girls are really small and tight. You'll hurt them, over and over with sex.

Of course, there's the opposite, if you are too small, it would be like a ruler in a mason jar..

 

[Red Dawn]

Sure save yourself for Marriage, there's plenty of time to have sex with other women/men after you get divorced.

 

[VRoOMdesigns]

I don't understand these threads.

But I do understand why they occur.

And to that, I say wait until marriage! However, if you want to be able to last.. you might have to practice going solo for a while. Otherwise your new pride could be very dissatisfied on the honeymoon.

 

[Carbo]

<< You can't get married in kindergarten. >>

Sure you can. In Arkansas, but only to a first cousin.

 

[CigarSmokedByClinton]

I'm waiting, but the wait is almost up!!!!!!

I'm getting married in 7 days!! FREAKING OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I was waiting mainly for religious reasons, but also becuase it just seemed like it was/is a good idea.

And I agree, there is a lot of &quot;stuff&quot; you can do do test out you compatability.

Cigar

 

[Athanasius]

By saying &quot;no&quot; to all others, I say &quot;Yes&quot; to the woman I married in away that is powerful, sacred, and amazingly intimate.

By sharing the most intimate part of my physical nature uniquely with my wife, I pave a road of intimacy and trust that eventually flows into every aspect of our relationship.

By abstaining until I commit to her in marriage, I go a long way in proving to her that I am committed to her as a person and not just to getting my own desires met. If my focus is on getting my desires met, then I am really not loving her as a person; she as a person is simply reduced to being the necessary apparatus for achieving my own selfish goals. Real relationships take sacrifice, commitment, and self-denial.

Sex is ultimately communication. By refraining from that one physical aspect of communication, my wife and I (before we were husband and wife)were able to establish so many other ways of communicating and getting to know each other. If your basic communcation skills are in place, and if you are transparent and humble, then the sexual aspect will take care of itself. perhaps not without some tension or conflict, but by then such a foundation of trust and commitment has been established that the couple can talk through the conflict and come out more strengthened by it. Trials can be positive opportunities for growth, change, and greater intimacy.

We've been married eleven years, have four children, and have overcome a miscarriage, a stillbirth, and many conflicts. And our marriage, in all aspects, is still great. It is great because I am amazed again and again at how ferociously loyal and committed my wife is to me, even in the hard times.