Divorce sucks :(

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: Stark
do you have custody?

Joint custody ... or "shared parenting" as it's called now. By the custody agreement, I'm supposed to have them 8/14 overnights. In practice it's more like 10/14.

 

[Miramonti]

Relive her childhood? Who wouldn't like to relive it, just take care of #1 and the hell with the rest from now on!

Dang those were the days...which btw reminds me, my mom is late giving me this weeks allowance! :frown:

 

[blodhi74]

my dad cheated on my mom and they sapareted when I was 17 .... hated my dad for years ..... as I matured me and him had a few long talks and forgave each other .... but it really fuvked me up ... the transition from a normal life to utter chaos ( thats what it seemed to me ) ...... I feel for UR kids .... maybe thats why I married a widow with a 4 year old ... he never knew his dad and now he is the love of my life ( my son )... I hate when people just go selfish and fvck everybody around them

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: blodhi74
my dad cheated on my mom and they sapareted when I was 17 .... hated my dad for years ..... as I matured me and him had a few long talks and forgave each other .... but it really fuvked me up ... the transition from a normal life to utter chaos ( thats what it seemed to me ) ...... I feel for UR kids .... maybe thats why I married a widow with a 4 year old ... he never knew his dad and now he is the love of my life ( my son )... I hate when people just go selfish and fvck everybody around them

Yea, I grew up in a single parent home also. My mom died when I was 11. My dad was great, there wasn't anybody to blame, no "two houses" shuffling around bullsh|t, etc. But it was still terrible, and scarred me to this day. Just thinking of my kids future makes me sick. I know people deal with this, and turn out ok. But it's not what I wanted for my kids.

 

[anno]

they're beautiful.

and they'll be ok.. just keep loving them, and keeping them out of the messy stuff.. it'll get easier.. their world is rockin' right now and they don't now what to believe in anymore, but they'll figure out what's safe and what's risky before too long. just keep loving them. once they're sure they can count on that.. something is safe and constant.. they'll be fine.

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

They're cute!!!!!!!

 

[Ricochet]

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

Cuteness factor++

Respect for Armitage++

That actually put tears in my eyes. :beer: Here's to you for being strong and being a good father.

 

[onza]

quick question, how old is your wife and yourself?

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: onza
quick question, how old is your wife and yourself?

Armitage: 35
Ex: 41

FWIW, I just called her and gave her a brief piece of my mind. Yea, I know it was stupid and pointless. I knew that before I called but did it anyway. No it didn't make me feel any better.

 

[Rudee]

My best friends parents just got divorced after 30 years of Marriage. His Dad said to his Mother "I don't love you anymore" and that was it. He moved out and she went into heavy depression. I couldn't imagine what that must be like.

 

[NightCrawler]

Is she a crack whore ?

 

[FelixDeCat]

Originally posted by: NightCrawler
Is she a crack whore ?

A leggless crack whore?

 

[Dacalo]

Beautiful childeren Armitage!

Hope they will provide you much courage and strength when times are hard for you.

 

[IGBT]

...yeah...but look at the racket the lawyers get to enjoy..even more so when the ohmos get to get married..and divorced..and so on and so forth...

 

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

Dude, you should be stoked, stupid x or not....

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

awww.... sad story.

My parents divorced when i was young (there was more to it) and that made me realize i won't marry anyone unless there no chance of that happened. Divoring when you have kids is just horrible

 

[viking66]

I was 5 years old when my dad had to move out because of a devorce and then my mother married my step dad, devorced him married my dad back, devorced him and married my step dad back.. shoot i remember watching my dad and step dad fight several times. I also remember my mother saying bad stuff about my dad and sometimes she wouldnt let him see me and my sister just because they were fighting..

but in the end it did not matter my dad hung in there and tried to see us kids as often as he could.. finally when i turned 16 I told my mother I wanted to live with my dad to spend some time with him.. and all the stuff during my childhood did not effect the love i have for either parent.. i am 38 years old now and i have learned from living in the situation.. looking back it was both of my parents faults but more my mothers than my fathers.. I still love them just the same..


keep a good relationship with your baby girl and it will all work out..

 

[Rudee]

Originally posted by: halik

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

awww.... sad story.

My parents divorced when i was young (there was more to it) and that made me realize i won't marry anyone unless there no chance of that happened. Divoring when you have kids is just horrible

Looks like you wont marry then, because there is no such thing as "no chance of divorcing"

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: dquan97

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

They're cute!!!!!!!

Thanks folks ... they're great kids. I just worry alot.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Spend as much time as you possibly can with your children & tell them you'll always be there for them & that you'll always be their daddy.

You also need to decide what direction your life will take from here on out. I took serious career hits for my choice to stay near my child, an

Only thing to keep in mind is being able to look your children in the eye when they're adults & say you did the absolute best you could under the circumstances.

Children need to completely understand your unconditional love for them, despite whatever you & your ex have going on @ any given time.

Be a man & take it, don't bitch out the ex, she's already proven she's not worth it.

It sucks bad, made me cry my eyes out, but you owe it to your children.

Be their rock, they deserve it.

 

[rudder]

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

Wow some veryy happy children! Hopefully your ex won't use them to hurt you and they can have a happy childhood despite the divorce.

 

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by: Armitage

Originally posted by: rocadelpunk
aw, that's so sad : (

do you have a picture of your daughter?

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/big_smile.jpg
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/Armitage/kids.jpg

Very cute kids!!!

 

[cheesehead]

Gee, that must stink. My folks have managed to hold their marriage together for nearly 20 years, but the endless fighting is driving me batty. My dad's making chump change because of the lack of jobs for artists, and my mom's working for kerry, but completely forgetting about all the stuff she normally does because my dad's busy doing both a part-time job and supervising the remodeling of their house, which is no small task. I now spend more money on stuff for myself than they do, which is pretty sad consedering that I'm only spend an hour or two a week working.
See if you can get your kids some counseling...it sounds like your daughter needs it. Having a helpful, caring parent can make a world of difference, but a profession child psychologist has been dealing with this stuff for most of his/her life, so you can bet they know a thing or two about helping your kids. You can get it through your kid's school, although it's usually covered under most health plans as well.
Also, remember that your folks are often big helps at times like these. A grandfather is not only another source of emotional security, but he can do day-care, too.
Best of luck,
Cheesehead.

P.S: Your wife is a nasty individual. She even makes Fidel Castro look positively freakin' benevolent.

 

[Descartes]

Over time, the relationship I had with my parents grew after they were divorced. Their constant fighting was miserable for everyone, and they simply were no longer good together. I was actually happy when they split, and it meant I could spend some quality time with each of them independently.

It's not always a bad thing, imo, but I was older at the time (~13). I can't imagine how it must feel for such a young child.

 

[azazyel]

I don't actually remember when my parents got divorced, I have blocked it from my memory. It think it was between when I was 13 and 15. It was that time in a kids life when they are trying to figure out who they are so I already didn't like my parents. Over time I got closer to them but never that close. Neither my mom nor my dad have ever seen a place I have live in for the past 7 years (28 now). With my dad it's a "cat in the cradle" kinda thing and with my mom, I see her a maybe once a month. I don't do it out of spite but I guess I just got used to not needing them.

Personally, I am never even getting married unless I want kids. IMO that is the only reason to get married in the first place. Armitage, it sounds like you are doing a good job at being there for your kids and I applaud that. Keep active in their lives because it seems like your ex won't and they need to know that someone cares.