Do women at your work have work husbands?

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: sygyzy

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

Your husband was a necro?

haha thats what i was thinking :beer:

Could have been a carpenter

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: amcdonald

Originally posted by: Aharami

Originally posted by: Descartes

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

off topic, but are you a professor? or a public speaker? you words are very eloquent

Its called graduating high school.

funny, i spoke and wrote better english after graduating high school than i did after completing my CE degree

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You do realize that your ex-husband still controls you and your life. He may not be there anymore, hurting you...but you're still letting him ruin your life by holding onto this pointless bitterness. It serves no purpose now. Your solution to lash out at the entire male gender is both illogical and counterproductive. You are ruining yourself.

I'm not "lashing out" at anybody,just making the point that if I had it to do over I would have done things far differently.

I don't think you would have. I think you're just angry and venting. You're angry at yourself for not throwing him out of your house a long time ago and instead putting up with it. You can't let others lack of integrity erode your own morals, because if you do then you never really had any to begin with. And since you claim that you were faithful throughout your piss poor marriage it is safe to assume that you carried your values with you. Why would you cast them away now, when it serves no purpose but to hurt you? You need to bury that dead horse, not let its stink consume you. (ok, that was a crappy metaphor)

 

[amcdonald]

Its hard to say what I would have done in your situation geekbabe. I didn't know you had kids.
Sorry you got a crappy husband.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: amcdonald

Originally posted by: Aharami

Originally posted by: Descartes

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

off topic, but are you a professor? or a public speaker? you words are very eloquent

Its called graduating high school.

Heh, I'd probably use words like 'affirmation' and 'contingent' more often if I knew how to spell them. affrimination or contengint just don't do the intended meaning justice.

 

[StageLeft]

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

Sure it did: it left you with a bitter taste of being cheated. It by no means supports the idea that infidelity is a good idea. Find out how many of these cheaters, who subsequently found themselves in the middle of divorce proceedings, regret their actions?

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You must have an unusual boyfriend to condone such a stance from you...

I'm saying that guys have reserved the right to step out for decades,I find it amusing that people here are so shocked when women choose the same option

I consider the actions equaly pitiful and sad regardless of who perpetrates them.

 

[erikistired]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

Sure it did: it left you with a bitter taste of being cheated. It by no means supports the idea that infidelity is a good idea. Find out how many of these cheaters, who subsequently found themselves in the middle of divorce proceedings, regret their actions?

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You must have an unusual boyfriend to condone such a stance from you...

I'm saying that guys have reserved the right to step out for decades,I find it amusing that people here are so shocked when women choose the same option

I consider the actions equaly pitiful and sad regardless of who perpetrates them.

i didn't realize guys had a right to cheat on their spouses. being a ho doesn't really make you any better than your ex husband does it?

and i think they call it an 'open relationship' skoorb.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You do realize that your ex-husband still controls you and your life. He may not be there anymore, hurting you...but you're still letting him ruin your life by holding onto this pointless bitterness. It serves no purpose now. Your solution to lash out at the entire male gender is both illogical and counterproductive. You are ruining yourself.

I'm not "lashing out" at anybody,just making the point that if I had it to do over I would have done things far differently.

I don't think you would have. I think you're just angry and venting. You're angry at yourself for not throwing him out of your house a long time ago and instead putting up with it. You can't let others lack of integrity erode your own morals, because if you do then you never really had any to begin with. And since you claim that you were faithful throughout your piss poor marriage it is safe to assume that you carried your values with you. Why would you cast them away now, when it serves no purpose but to hurt you? You need to bury that dead horse, not let its stink consume you. (ok, that was a crappy metaphor)

Back in the old days you didn't throw a cheating husband out of the house if you had kids,you stayed together,you looked the other way and did the daily count down praying for the day that your youngest turned 18.I wasn't the only one in my circle of friends in that position and to a point it was looked upon far more favorably than divorcing him would have been.Back then it was "boys will be boys what are you gonna do?" if I'd have divorced right off the bat I'd have lost mucho social support and become a pariah among the neighborhood ladies as a woman who divorced with young kids would have been considered a ho bag who cared nothing for the welfare of her children.

At any rate,I'm just making the observation that if I had it to do over,knowing what I know now I'd do things far,far differently

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

Sure it did: it left you with a bitter taste of being cheated. It by no means supports the idea that infidelity is a good idea. Find out how many of these cheaters, who subsequently found themselves in the middle of divorce proceedings, regret their actions?

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You must have an unusual boyfriend to condone such a stance from you...

I'm saying that guys have reserved the right to step out for decades,I find it amusing that people here are so shocked when women choose the same option

I consider the actions equaly pitiful and sad regardless of who perpetrates them.

Skoorb,I don't cheat on anybody what's changed about my stance is that I won't sit home meek and faithful while somebody steps out on me repeatedly.The double standard regarding fidelity doesn't cut it!

 

[erikistired]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

Sure it did: it left you with a bitter taste of being cheated. It by no means supports the idea that infidelity is a good idea. Find out how many of these cheaters, who subsequently found themselves in the middle of divorce proceedings, regret their actions?

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You must have an unusual boyfriend to condone such a stance from you...

I'm saying that guys have reserved the right to step out for decades,I find it amusing that people here are so shocked when women choose the same option

I consider the actions equaly pitiful and sad regardless of who perpetrates them.

Skoorb,I don't cheat on anybody what's changed about my stance is that I won't sit home meek and faithful while somebody steps out on me repeatedly.The double standard regarding fidelity doesn't apply anymore.

you can't call your cheating husband a double standard. just because he cheats doesn't mean everyone does. it's amazing you can't seem to get that thru your skull. there isn't some conspiracy against women and it's pretty sad that you seem to support more women cheating on their mates.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Skoorb,I don't cheat on anybody what's changed about my stance is that I won't sit home meek and faithful while somebody steps out on me repeatedly.The double standard regarding fidelity doesn't cut it!

I think you may have phrased your response poorly. I agree that someone who is cheating deserves no respect or reciprocal regard for fidelity; i think many here interpreted your words to mean that blanket cheating by women was acceptable, "because men do it".

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: fisher

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

Sure it did: it left you with a bitter taste of being cheated. It by no means supports the idea that infidelity is a good idea. Find out how many of these cheaters, who subsequently found themselves in the middle of divorce proceedings, regret their actions?

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

You must have an unusual boyfriend to condone such a stance from you...

I'm saying that guys have reserved the right to step out for decades,I find it amusing that people here are so shocked when women choose the same option

I consider the actions equaly pitiful and sad regardless of who perpetrates them.

Skoorb,I don't cheat on anybody what's changed about my stance is that I won't sit home meek and faithful while somebody steps out on me repeatedly.The double standard regarding fidelity doesn't apply anymore.

you can't call your cheating husband a double standard. just because he cheats doesn't mean everyone does. it's amazing you can't seem to get that thru your skull. there isn't some conspiracy against women and it's pretty sad that you seem to support more women cheating on their mates.

What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

Yes, she is, and women should never adopt that mindset. I've seen plenty of women friends and acquaintances go through that bs, and it's always been a situation I've urged them strongly to get out of. It's never forgiveable for someone to cheat, nor is there a "wink wink nudge nudge" type of thing going on between most men, at least me and my friends.

 

[erikistired]

What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

that's YOUR experience. that's not every guy out there. i dunno who told you that it's okay for "boys to be boys" but if i pulled that crap on my wife i'd be homeless in about 2 seconds, regardless of our kids. if you allow yourself to be disgraced like that it's no one's fault but yours, and would you rather your kids grow up to find out you put up with daddy running around on you? somehow i think they'd be better with just you instead of both of you.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

Yes, she is, and women should never adopt that mindset. I've seen plenty of women friends and acquaintances go through that bs, and it's always been a situation I've urged them strongly to get out of. It's never forgiveable for someone to cheat, nor is there a "wink wink nudge nudge" type of thing going on between most men, at least me and my friends.

The funny thing is that a friend of mine put up with her hubby's infidelity for almost 20 yrs,well she ended up having an affair herself,lol,he divorced her cause he just couldn't live with the idea that she
had the nerve to do that.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

So that justifies reciprocation of wanton behavior? Hardly.

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

What do you say when "morality" conflicts with human nature? Perhaps the institution of marriage was not the best arrangement for some people. Perhaps an open arrangement where each member relies on each other for certain things like financial/emotional support and companionship, yet are free to explore sexual liasons with other people, would better serve their needs and interests? That way, everyone's happy and there's no cheating, lying, and deception.

The classic Christian ideal of "marriage" is NOT always the best for everyone.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

Yes, she is, and women should never adopt that mindset. I've seen plenty of women friends and acquaintances go through that bs, and it's always been a situation I've urged them strongly to get out of. It's never forgiveable for someone to cheat, nor is there a "wink wink nudge nudge" type of thing going on between most men, at least me and my friends.

The funny thing is that a friend of mine put up with her hubby's infidelity for almost 20 yrs,well she ended up having an affair herself,lol,he divorced her cause he just couldn't live with the idea that she
had the nerve to do that.

Horrors! The man was a bastard and had a self-serving entitlist mindset, hopefully the fvcker gets what he deserved.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

Yes, she is, and women should never adopt that mindset. I've seen plenty of women friends and acquaintances go through that bs, and it's always been a situation I've urged them strongly to get out of. It's never forgiveable for someone to cheat, nor is there a "wink wink nudge nudge" type of thing going on between most men, at least me and my friends.

The funny thing is that a friend of mine put up with her hubby's infidelity for almost 20 yrs,well she ended up having an affair herself,lol,he divorced her cause he just couldn't live with the idea that she
had the nerve to do that.

Horrors! The man was a bastard and had a self-serving entitlist mindset, hopefully the fvcker gets what he deserved.

Actually both my friend and I found his attitude to be rather funny in an ironic way

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

So that justifies reciprocation of wanton behavior? Hardly.

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

What do you say when "morality" conflicts with human nature? Perhaps the institution of marriage was not the best arrangement for some people. Perhaps an open arrangement where each member relies on each other for certain things like financial/emotional support and companionship, yet are free to explore sexual liasons with other people, would better serve their needs and interests? That way, everyone's happy and there's no cheating, lying, and deception.

The classic Christian ideal of "marriage" is NOT always the best for everyone.

I completely agree with you. I was just under the impression that GB was defining her character by the actions of others (her husband in this case), and that can only lead to self-deception when that character is later determined to be malformed. People having wrongs perpetrated against them often feel the need to reciprocate that wrong; the proverbial eye for an eye. If someone were to cheat on me I wouldn't feel the need to suddenly compromise my notions of fidelity; those sometimes ideological notions exist independent of the actions of others. I also wouldn't feel the need to commit a hasty generalization and assume that all women are the same in that regard.

 

[Dufusyte]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

So that justifies reciprocation of wanton behavior? Hardly.

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

What do you say when "morality" conflicts with human nature? Perhaps the institution of marriage was not the best arrangement for some people. Perhaps an open arrangement where each member relies on each other for certain things like financial/emotional support and companionship, yet are free to explore sexual liasons with other people, would better serve their needs and interests? That way, everyone's happy and there's no cheating, lying, and deception.

The classic Christian ideal of "marriage" is NOT always the best for everyone.

First of all: why do so many posters on Anandtech quote the entire thread in their post?

Secondly: we choose our own spouse, and if spouse is a loser, it is largely our bad choice.

Thirdly: adultery is bad, and more adultery is not going to make anything better.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Dufusyte

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

So that justifies reciprocation of wanton behavior? Hardly.

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

What do you say when "morality" conflicts with human nature? Perhaps the institution of marriage was not the best arrangement for some people. Perhaps an open arrangement where each member relies on each other for certain things like financial/emotional support and companionship, yet are free to explore sexual liasons with other people, would better serve their needs and interests? That way, everyone's happy and there's no cheating, lying, and deception.

The classic Christian ideal of "marriage" is NOT always the best for everyone.

First of all: why do so many posters on Anandtech quote the entire thread in their post?

Secondly: we choose our own spouse, and if spouse is a loser, it is largely our bad choice.

Thirdly: adultery is bad, and more adultery is not going to make anything better.

Sometimes people don't get things till they are repaid in their own coin.If you cheat and the outcome is that you get to have your fun and have the faithful spouse still waiting at home that's pretty comforting isn't it? Perhaps a cheater would think a bit though if they knew that cheating would only result in them being repaid in the same way?

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Dufusyte

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

So that justifies reciprocation of wanton behavior? Hardly.

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

What do you say when "morality" conflicts with human nature? Perhaps the institution of marriage was not the best arrangement for some people. Perhaps an open arrangement where each member relies on each other for certain things like financial/emotional support and companionship, yet are free to explore sexual liasons with other people, would better serve their needs and interests? That way, everyone's happy and there's no cheating, lying, and deception.

The classic Christian ideal of "marriage" is NOT always the best for everyone.

First of all: why do so many posters on Anandtech quote the entire thread in their post?

Secondly: we choose our own spouse, and if spouse is a loser, it is largely our bad choice.

Thirdly: adultery is bad, and more adultery is not going to make anything better.

A couple of points to refute:

We choose our own spouse, but... sometimes people turn out NOT to be who they are advertising themselves to be. And, people change. Sure, you may be in love now, but 15 years down the line, who knows?

Second: The concept of "adultery" is a cultural artifact of the Christian ideal of marriage. Think outside your little moral sandbox for a moment and try to mentally embrace what I had said about an alternative arrangement. Forget your learned concept of morality and try to look at something that addresses human nature.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Dufusyte

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: JupiterJones

Originally posted by: Ranger X
I work in an engineering company and women here (if you can call them women) all have at least one work husband. They'll often go out to 1-on-1 lunches and have their lunches paid for by stupid men, go on these walks, and open up to each other and talk for hours on company time.

It's such an ego-booster for ugly women that work here. Some even develop b|tch-like attitudes that most gorgeous women have (that attitude like she's too good for you). Is it like that where you work?

This is very common. One reason why the stats on woman who commit adultry are on the rise. Work is often a surrogate for a husband that does not meet the emotional needs of his wife. This kind of activity can quickly lead to an affair.

A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age.

in 1953 - 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40

Looks like the women need to get busier!

According to the posted statistics, they already have. It says they have caught up to men and are just as likely. I read somewhere it was about 60% now.

Good for them! I was married for years and was faithful to a man who screwed everything that didn't move.The practice of one sided fidelty and monogamy didn't get me anything.

So that justifies reciprocation of wanton behavior? Hardly.

It sure does,If I had it to do over I'd have been stepping out every chance I got,enjoying myself instead of wasting my youth being faithful and responsible. He had a great time for himself,I was the fool for not following his lead.

It's exceptionally sad that your own moral character is contingent upon those around you. My morals stand independent of affirmation from others, so the transgressions of another certainly doesn't compromise my own.

What do you say when "morality" conflicts with human nature? Perhaps the institution of marriage was not the best arrangement for some people. Perhaps an open arrangement where each member relies on each other for certain things like financial/emotional support and companionship, yet are free to explore sexual liasons with other people, would better serve their needs and interests? That way, everyone's happy and there's no cheating, lying, and deception.

The classic Christian ideal of "marriage" is NOT always the best for everyone.

First of all: why do so many posters on Anandtech quote the entire thread in their post?

Secondly: we choose our own spouse, and if spouse is a loser, it is largely our bad choice.

Thirdly: adultery is bad, and more adultery is not going to make anything better.

A couple of points to refute:

We choose our own spouse, but... sometimes people turn out NOT to be who they are advertising themselves to be. And, people change. Sure, you may be in love now, but 15 years down the line, who knows?

Second: The concept of "adultery" is a cultural artifact of the Christian ideal of marriage. Think outside your little moral sandbox for a moment and try to mentally embrace what I had said about an alternative arrangement. Forget your learned concept of morality and try to look at something that addresses human nature.

I have no problem with people who choose open relationships as long as BOTH people are aware of what's going on and agree to it.I do wonder though if those who cheat in
relationships were exclusivity was the deal though do so because they feel confident that their
partner will remain faithful no matter what.Do you think that the idea of what you give will effect
what you will be given back would give people pause?I mean you cheat and you get rewarded by your partner remaining faithful?

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Sometimes people don't get things till they are repaid in their own coin.If you cheat and the outcome is that you get to have your fun and have the faithful spouse still waiting at home that's pretty comforting isn't it? Perhaps a cheater would think a bit though if they knew that cheating would only result in them being repaid in the same way?

Would you have been happy if he said "Who cares?" and you both kept on cheating?

 

[Ranger X]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
What I'm saying is that staying home meek and faithful while your mate steps out on you is a waste of time and energy,regardless of the genders involved.As far as the double standard goes it does exist"boys will be boys" "think of the children and forgive him" a man is far,far more likely to dump a cheating wife than a woman is to dump a cheating husband.

Yes, she is, and women should never adopt that mindset. I've seen plenty of women friends and acquaintances go through that bs, and it's always been a situation I've urged them strongly to get out of. It's never forgiveable for someone to cheat, nor is there a "wink wink nudge nudge" type of thing going on between most men, at least me and my friends.

The funny thing is that a friend of mine put up with her hubby's infidelity for almost 20 yrs,well she ended up having an affair herself,lol,he divorced her cause he just couldn't live with the idea that she
had the nerve to do that.

Horrors! The man was a bastard and had a self-serving entitlist mindset, hopefully the fvcker gets what he deserved.

Actually both my friend and I found his attitude to be rather funny in an ironic way

That is quite funny. Good for her for being upfront about the affair.