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Lifer
- Jan 3, 2001
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I think that is the wrong way to go about making new friends. Forcing yourself to do something you wouldn't otherwise won't lead to real friends, just more acquaintances. I tried this method for a while by going to meet-up groups and such but it never accomplished anything except to make me feel even more lonely because I always felt like a third wheel.
To make new friends you need to do something you want to and like doing, during the course of which you will eventually become friends with others in the same activity. For me, I started swing dancing. I didn't go to dances and classes as an excuse to meet people, I went because I wanted to learn it for myself, and over time managed to make a bunch of friends.
I AM doing something I like doing- going to a car meet I own a Mini Cooper and we're having a Mini Owners meeting...it's my first time attending. I just have a hard time with social situations where I don't know what to expect.
What's funny is if this were a work function, it wouldn't bother me at all. I'm weird :\