Originally posted by: Rudee
Originally posted by: shortylickens
Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
I'll create one -- just a sec.
Fictional situation -- you've been in this relationship for say, 2 years, and you both still feel strongly on getting married.
I swear we just had this issue come up within the last week.
How long have we been living together?
I still maintain that marriage is bad unless I've dated her for at least 2 years and lived with her for ONE WHOLE YEAR (12 months). Nothing less.
I agree with the living together before marriage part. A year minimum, preferrably 2 or more. I've dated women in the past that I thought were marriage material UNTIL I let them move into my house with me. Things quickly fell apart and within a year I was regretting it. My current gal whom I plan on marrying has been living with me for a few years now and things are so incredibly comfortable it's going to be a painless transition to marriage when that day comes.
The problem with living together before getting married is that most people can't make the leap from a "sure, we can split the bills" relationship to a full-on marriage responsibility. They get in the mindset of, if things don't work out I can "break the lease and bail". That being said, my wife and I lived together first...we dated for 6 years, engaged for the last 2 and lived together for the last 2.5 years...we moved intogether when we knew we were going to get married (just a matter of when I was going to get a ring and propose).