Do you think most arguments in a relationship are based on finances?

[kyrax12]

For anyone that are in a relationship right now, are most of the arguments you had with your S/O mostly have stuff to do with finances? (Assuming you have gotten into arguments)

I just read an article (shine.yahoo.com/work-money/a-typo-cost-this-woman-a-fortune-211812415.html?) that said that couples don't usually communicate much on their finances.

Is this mostly have to do with trust issues? Since being in a relationship with someone should already be a symbol of trust.
Seems to me that most arguments that most couples have are about finances. Just anything about finances.

It seems likely that most couples don't actually sit down together and plan their finances carefully. Like for example: highlighting who pays what share of rent/bills this month, whether to spend or save an income tax return, WHAT to spend on with an income tax return money, how much to withdraw from savings, What to buy.. etc.

 

[dud]

Honestly no. I've been married over 20 years and (through trial, tribulation and pain) believe that most (but not all) arguments relate to either a lack of communication or a misunderstanding between parties.

 

[DesiPower]

<--- L&R

We are a trusting financially responsible people, our arguments are mostly based on household chores or working or eating healthy . I never understood why people would not have open joint accounts, if you dont trust your spouse at that level why even marry... society is so screwed up...

 

[WiseUp216]

I've been with my current girlfriend for 5 years and we are still 100% independent of each other financially. We've also never had a 'fight' over anything in those five years so maybe it is somewhat related. I don't even remember the last instance that could be called so much as an argument.

We split all expenses 50/50 and we both pay on-time. I don't see any reason to combine finances and bring that dynamic into the relationship.

 

[Fenixgoon]

most divorces are, so at least the last argument probably is

 

[TeeJay1952]

IMHO Child Raising is the topic that is the cause of most marital distress.

 

[dank69]

No, we mostly argue about who is paying more attention to the hooker than to each other. Okay, it might have been me...

 

[rcpratt]

It's a source of stress, but we rarely argue about finances. Yay communication.

 

[phucheneh]

Most arguments seem to be based on 'I thought you said something mean about me, but actually you were just in the other room having a conversation with someone about cheese' or something of that nature. I.e. petty, retarded shit that escalates for no reason.

 

[Elbryn]

no issues here. both of similar finances mentality and we created our system early on. for whatever reason we're both of the habit of discussing any purchases over $50 bucks, never set just sorta happened.

 

[Baked]

No, most arguments are about infidelity.

 

[zerocool84]

Honestly no. I've been married over 20 years and (through trial, tribulation and pain) believe that most (but not all) arguments relate to either a lack of communication or a misunderstanding between parties.

Finances is the #1 reason why people get divorced. Whether that means no communication about what you're spending your money on or other things I don't know, but it's the #1 reason.

 

[Slew Foot]

Wife and I dont really argue about anything, especially money. We got plenty.

 

[Doppel]

For some people it sure is known to be.

 

[notposting]

I wouldn't say most of our arguments are about finances, but when we are stressed (which finances are usually the main cause of for us) it leads to more arguments. So financial stress will lead us to fight more about pretty mundane things.

 

[phucheneh]

I wouldn't say most of our arguments are about finances, but when we are stressed (which finances are usually the main cause of for us) it leads to more arguments. So financial stress will lead us to fight more about pretty mundane things.

Perhaps this is more accurate than what I said. I may simply observe the couples I know fighting over silly shit because there are more serious underlying stressors.

 

[Gunslinger08]

We don't argue about money. I think the fact that we have a decent amount of it and that we share everything limits the possibilities of arguments. Neither of us really have expensive lifestyles either. Most of our big purchases are home improvements that we discuss and research in depth.

 

[bigrash]

No, not a lot of our arguments are about finances.