Does anyone here regret having kids?

[AreaCode707]

I know you're asking the question of a different audience, but I honestly believe some people simply aren't built to have kids. I'm one of them. I've known with absolute certainty since I was 12 years old that I don't want (my own or young) kids. It's only been 14 years but I've never had a single moment of doubt.

I do want to work with foster/adopted teenagers though, someday.

 

[SunSamurai]

I hate kids. I doubt I'll ever want kids TBH.

And lo, did the world rejoice.

 

[JS80]

And lo, did the world rejoice.

Amen.

 

[kindest]

no1's going to admit regret... come on now.

 

[IronWing]

Nope. Not even one bit of regret. Of course, I don't have any kids so... life is good, very, very good indeed.

 

[biggestmuff]

I hate kids. I doubt I'll ever want kids TBH.

I hope you keep that beta mindset.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I don't want to get married or have kids... but it's inevitable. It probably will happen one day.

The only "kid" I ever want is a pet. My cat gives me next to no trouble. Some vomit here and there to clean up, litter to empty which is much less gross then diapers and I have to play with her for maybe 10 minutes a day. Then she goes lie down LOL. That's about it. She also does not wake up every 2 hours.

 

[KeithTalent]

I don't think I would be a good Father, so no kids for me. I do commend those that are good parents though, we need as many of those in the world as we can get.

KT

 

[JS80]

I don't think I would be a good Father, so no kids for me. I do commend those that are good parents though, we need as many of those in the world as we can get.

KT

Shens.

 

[Regs]

I don't think I would be a good Father, so no kids for me. I do commend those that are good parents though, we need as many of those in the world as we can get.

KT

When given a different part in the play, Keith did not realize his acting skills for that particular character.

 

[KeithTalent]

When given a different part in the play, Keith did not realize his acting skills for that particular character.

I'm not really sure what that means. :hmm:

KT

 

[bas1c]

If we put up a poll on whether people wanted kids or no...I wouldn't be surprised if more than 65% said no. That is my assumption on the mindset of the average anandtech member.

 

[umbrella39]

Every day.

 

[dawp]

Not the kids but who I had them with. She turned out to be an alcoholic.

 

[Regs]

I'm not really sure what that means. :hmm:

KT

All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players.

Erving Goffmans, a sociologist who came up with the dramaturgical analysis , states we are constantly engaged in role-playing. A server in a restaurant must dress in uniform and address a customer in a scripted like manner. A police officer also dressed in uniform in a role of authority. These are all roles governed by social norms just like parenting.

There is a difference between front stage roles and back stage roles, and that is we are less aware of the roles we are playing in the back stage but none the less they are there. We all have different roles through-out the day and express no "true" self but the ensemble of roles we play in various social contexts.

Many fathers did not plan on having kids. Parenting is a ascribed status, not a achieved status. It's a role you will grow into. Your roles will change with your status. Your sense of self will do the rest.

Read it in a fortune cookie once.

 

[nickbits]

No kids but im pretty sure i wouls regret having one. Will never have one on purpose.

 

[rpanic]

Have a 1 and 3 year old, sometimes I do for a sec at 2 in the morning

 

[F1N3ST]

I don't think those kinda people post here

they probably dont even own a PC

Mac? D:

 

[amdhunter]

Nope. Don't want to pay child support.

 

[MJinZ]

I like kids, but I don't want any of my own. My wife feels the same way. We won't be changing our minds, either. There are too many things we want to do and goals we need to accomplish in this life.

Then you'll get old and all of your friends will drop like flies left and right...

Kids have practical uses when they're older . :sneaky:

 

[Sluggo]

Kids have practical uses when they're older .

That's right, at least you will know who isn't visiting as you waste away in a Medicare nursing home.

 

[lxskllr]

no1's going to admit regret... come on now.

My girl rocks. I've never regretted her for a second. She's my favorite travel companion, and I enjoy all my time with her. It'll be a sad day when she leaves for good :^(

 

[MotionMan]

I have two and wish we could have more.

We got two puppies in December and sometimes I wonder about that decision. But I never for a moment regret having kids.

I tell my kids, especially after we have had a fight or tough day, "I love you all the time.", and it's true.

MotionMan

 

[PrinceofWands]

I wish I hadn't had a child with whom I did. I regret all the pain and crap she's had to endure because of it. If I had it to do over again, I would still want kids just as much, I just would have been a bit more selective about who with. Hopefully that would mean having more than one by now.

 

[BarkingGhostar]

When people are young, sometimes they think they'll never want kids. Or sometimes, kids come accidentally, or they get married expecting not to have kids, and then end up having them anyway.

Does anyone on here have a kid and/or kids but truly wish their life could have been much better without them?

I doubt that will be the case. There will be anomalous responses, but they will be treated as true exceptions.

Humans are a selfish species. They know, for the most part, that they cannot 100% afford their first child, but they continue to burden their local society by having more children.

If every parent had to pay 100% of their child's educational cost you would find it that the majority of parents couldn't afford the first one, let alone the last one.

Selfish is as selfish does. And I have no children because I am too busy affording everyone else's in my county.