Well, KIDS have no choice in these matters.Kids should go to the schools they want to, not the ones their parents want them to go to. Self determination is fundamental to personal development and life satisfaction.
Well, KIDS have no choice in these matters.
GROWN UPS can do what they want. And parents can barter with them. If they're paying the bill and part of the deal is the newly made grown up has to go where they say, thats the deal.
Or they can do like I did and leave home, make their own way, figure things out for themselves.
Well that depends on who is making the payment. The payer gets to choose.
IMO.
HORRIBLY!how did that work out for you, Mr Lickens?
Fine.
Glad you agree. "My way or the highway" is authoritarian.
Yes I agree. Children should have a proper authority figure.
Yet yours had you.Yes I agree. Children should have a proper authority figure.
They aren't parenting if they have that attitude. A child could be admired for rebelling against them. Better to maintain your personal integrity than bend to someone else's will for their money.And if your parents are loaded part of that self determination is going to the school they want you to go to, otherwise they shut off the money.
Yeah, like that.Well, KIDS have no choice in these matters.
GROWN UPS can do what they want. And parents can barter with them. If they're paying the bill and part of the deal is the newly made grown up has to go where they say, thats the deal.
Or they can do like I did and leave home, make their own way, figure things out for themselves.
I feel sorry for your kids, if you have any. They will become "legal adults" but totally ill prepared to actually be an adult. "What would daddy want" training you advocate is clearly setting them up for failure. Perhaps that's a family tradition?No, that is how it should be.
From an early age parents should encourage their kids to think for themselves. Kids are going to ask questions, and a parent should be on tap for that, but the kid should know (at least sense) that the parent is fully aware that they don't have all the answers and that the kid is always encouraged to find out for themselves more information, and yes, so that they know more than their parent. I don't have kids, but have enough imagination to know that this is wisest.I feel sorry for your kids, if you have any. They will become "legal adults" but totally ill prepared to actually be an adult. "What would daddy want" training you advocate is clearly setting them up for failure. Perhaps that's a family tradition?
I feel sorry for your kids, if you have any. They will become "legal adults" but totally ill prepared to actually be an adult. "What would daddy want" training you advocate is clearly setting them up for failure. Perhaps that's a family tradition?
From an early age parents should encourage their kids to think for themselves. Kids are going to ask questions, and a parent should be on tap for that, but the kid should know (at least sense) that the parent is fully aware that they don't have all the answers and that the kid is always encouraged to find out for themselves more information, and yes, so that they know more than their parent. I don't have kids, but have enough imagination to know that this is wisest.
My son had a full scholarship for his college education and has a very successful career and family, but thanks for your concern.
Thanks also the snide comments and insults coming from your blatant ignorance. I feel sorry for you when all you have in life is to go around insulting people.
"I don't have kids"
Well, It appears to me your qualifications are lacking.
Umm, it appears you lacked the experience as well.
Please explain. How did I lack the experience as well?
It wasn't your money.
Yes, my son earned his scholarship through his hard work and dedication. I didn't need to pay for his education, nor did he rack up hundreds of thousands in school debt. He was raised to be responsible for himself and to not depend on others for his needs. That is a good thing in my opinion.
So I guess you are correct, I didn't have the "experience" of paying for my dependent children going to college. He took care of that himself.
Good for him, but you never had to have the conversation that you flippantly assume would have been a particular way.
Maybe consider others situations before assuming an opinion without experience. That's what being a parent has taught me.
I didn't flippantly assume anything. I know how our conversation would have gone had I been paying for his college education.