Corn
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- Nov 12, 1999
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Well Robert, I understand your concern about the cost of University.......but let me ask you a serious question: Why do you feel compelled to cover the entire cost of this education to your (then) adult daughter?
As a youngster, my parents sent me to a private non-denominational Christian junior and high school. They offered to pay for my college educaiton, but with one caveat; that I must attend a private Christian college.
I declined their offer.
Both my wife and I funded our own college educations, albeit using slightly different strategies: My wife qualified for several aid grants which I did not (due to my parents income) and supplemented the rest of her educational costs via student loans and went to a state university full time. I, on the other hand, funded the entire cost of my education up front without financing any of it. I moved out of the family home at 18, got my own place, took a full time job, and attended community college until I had saved enough $$ to attend a state university full time to earn my degree.
While I would, and do, plan on assisting in the educational endeavours of any offspring (that I hope to have, still trying...) I don't feel it necessary to provide a car and "incidentals"--ain't gonna happen. Hopefully my kid(s?) follow my example and own their own cars before graduating HS if they want a car in college. Funny, when I attended university I was the only one of my roommates who had his own car, yet I was the only one of my roommates who paid for his own education......
As far as "incidentals" goes, well that's why part-time employment was created.
My kid is probably gonna hate me. Alas, I wasn't all too thrilled with my parent's requisite either......but 20 years later I've come to the realization that I've always been somewhat independent, this just helped cement the success of defining and understanding who I am. Hey, my mid-life crisis was over at 23, life's been gravy ever since.
As a youngster, my parents sent me to a private non-denominational Christian junior and high school. They offered to pay for my college educaiton, but with one caveat; that I must attend a private Christian college.
I declined their offer.
Both my wife and I funded our own college educations, albeit using slightly different strategies: My wife qualified for several aid grants which I did not (due to my parents income) and supplemented the rest of her educational costs via student loans and went to a state university full time. I, on the other hand, funded the entire cost of my education up front without financing any of it. I moved out of the family home at 18, got my own place, took a full time job, and attended community college until I had saved enough $$ to attend a state university full time to earn my degree.
While I would, and do, plan on assisting in the educational endeavours of any offspring (that I hope to have, still trying...) I don't feel it necessary to provide a car and "incidentals"--ain't gonna happen. Hopefully my kid(s?) follow my example and own their own cars before graduating HS if they want a car in college. Funny, when I attended university I was the only one of my roommates who had his own car, yet I was the only one of my roommates who paid for his own education......
As far as "incidentals" goes, well that's why part-time employment was created.
My kid is probably gonna hate me. Alas, I wasn't all too thrilled with my parent's requisite either......but 20 years later I've come to the realization that I've always been somewhat independent, this just helped cement the success of defining and understanding who I am. Hey, my mid-life crisis was over at 23, life's been gravy ever since.