Yeah it's not for everyone. I personally feel that to really get the most out of EVE you have to put way too much time into it. Just not worth it.
I feel similarly, it would have been a great game had it existed when I was in junior high/high school. To get the most out of it, you just need to put in so much time. I simply can't do it as an adult now, and amazed at the adults with jobs/families that do. No idea how they do that without neglecting their families to some degree.