Originally posted by: Azraele
The whole idea of pre-arranged scares me. It sounds like a disaster in the making.
Can't be any worst than the 50% divorce rate in America.
Originally posted by: Azraele
The whole idea of pre-arranged scares me. It sounds like a disaster in the making.
Originally posted by: Kaieye
One of my 48 year old friend who married a nice lady from China about 8 years younger than him had a pre-arranged marriage. They have a five or six year old boy now. They are now in the process of getting a divorce...
Originally posted by: SubZeroX
Originally posted by: CTrain
You know marrying for love is great and everything but when:
1) I don't hang around Asians and I like to have an Asian wife......thats kinda hard.
2) I work about 55-65 hrs a week and when I'm off work, I so tired that I just sit around the house and do nothing.
So with those 2 scenarios, I'll be hitting 40 before you know it and still be single.
I know about alot of these mail order brides that doesn't work out but I not talking about just finding some random girl.
Like I was saying my family still knows alot of people back home, and it'll be someone that my family knows her family sort of thing.
My 2 biggest fear in life:
1) Getting old and still with NO career
2) Getting old and still single and lonely
Just need to worry about #2 for right now.
Ctrain, are u my long lost twin brother??
u and I think almost think exactly the same! Although I have an opportunity to meet a girl coming up (see my YAGT thread), i do have trouble meeting girls also.
hey, check out friendster.com, lot's of girls on there. You can put me down as a friend (PM me).
Good luck dude.
Originally posted by: CTrain
Originally posted by: beamme84
Originally posted by: CTrain
Originally posted by: Soybomb
Seems a little desperate to me, instead of complaining about how you never get out why don't you quit posting and go meet some ladies? Why do you work so much? Start working less.
I don't considered myself desperate.
For Asians in particular, arranged marriages work quite well.
I'm a store manager at a restaurant, I CAN'T work less.
I can always demote myself but I got to this position so it'd be stupid for me to go backward.
Man, you're a restaurant manager, then there are plenty of women at your age who would look into you. The thing is you need to approach them.
Again, you need to make time available. No wife would want a husband so busy with work and have no time for them.
LOL, sorry I didn't want to say it so LOUD, but I'm a store manager at a McDonalds.
Not much to choose from if you know what I mean.
And no, I'm not going for those underage females
I'm not that deperate man. Just an idea I've been thinking since I saw my cousin did it.
Originally posted by: Soybomb
You work 55-65 hours a week as a mcdonalds manager and then are too tired to do anything else. Are you really happy living your life like that? Can't you cut back to 40-50 hours and get an assistant manager to help you out? Whats a career worth if you don't have a life? A wife isn't something to have to have like a sports car or big screen tv. If you're too tired to go out and do stuff now, why do you want a wife? You're presumably going to be too tired to go out and have fun doing stuff with her then too. Sounds like you're looking for either sex or a maid more than companionship to me.
How much do McDonalds store managers make? Walmart store mgr's make $110k on avg. the #2 guy makes $60k. and asst mgr (dept mgr) makes ~$35k. It's goes up if it's a Super Walmart
Originally posted by: weezergirl
I can see where you are coming from. Once you get out of college and start working it's REALLY hard to meet someone that you click with. I think more and more people are ending up old and single. It just doesn't work like in the movies where one day you wake up and meet "the one". I think if you are that old and ready to settle down then pre-arranged marriages can work. I've seen them work. But I have also seen them not work. You are lucky though because "most" viet girls straight from vietnam are very docile, obedient, quiet, etc. Easy to get along with. If that's the type of wife you are looking for (which I can imagine there are guys out there who prefer this type of wife) then go for it.
Of course there are downsides to this situation. It's not easy being married to someone, let alone a complete stranger. My uncle did the go back to viet and pick up a wife thing and although their relationship works, she's really stupid and lazy. She does NOTHING all day long and refuses to do anything. She doesn't work, clean, or cook.
Originally posted by: HotChic
What if you brought her over and got to know her before actually committing to marrying her?
Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
Originally posted by: HotChic
What if you brought her over and got to know her before actually committing to marrying her?
Can't bring someone here without first being married to them.
Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
Originally posted by: HotChic
What if you brought her over and got to know her before actually committing to marrying her?
Can't bring someone here without first being married to them.
For a visit?
Originally posted by: CTrain
Anyhow, I not getting any younger(33 in August).
The problem is that I'm Asian(Vietnamese) but I grew up here and pretty much Americanized.
So most everyone I know is are non-Asian.
Ive pretty much ruled out marrying someone non-Asian.
1) I don't know if the culture diferences gonna work(too mmany divorces here)
2) My parents would be very disappointed.
3) Plus, I'm very attracted to Asian women.
I like to marry an Asian girl but I don't hang out with Asian, hence my problem.
Plus, I work so damm much now that I hardly go out anymore(hence I'm here)
Anyway, a few months ago, a cousin of mine went back to Vietnam and married some girl he was set-up with.
He brought back pictures and I was truely impressed. She was beautiful and educated.
It got me thinking that this is the best way for me to go.
My mom knows alot of peole back home and she can pretty much find me someone that I'll find incredibly attractive.
I'm a decent looking guy with a stable career so I can pretty much pick who ever I want.
The biggest PLUS about the situation is that I'll be able to have that sweet, wholesome wife that most guys are looking for.
The NEGATIVE is the time it'll take for us to know each other and my native language is not strong.
Anyone else ever thought about going this route ????
Originally posted by: fatbaby
I have a little comment about going to asia to pickup a wife.
A neighbor of mine recently got hooked up with a girl in china. Now this guy is kind of flaky, and probably won't get any of the high maintanence women here..
Well, they got married and now have kids. My neighbor owns this restuarant that is about a 1.5 hour commute from their home. The wife does not speak english. She cannot get a job. She doesn't understand anything about american life.
All she does is stay home and take care of the kids.
Would you really want to put someone in that position? They have nowhere to go in life. They have reached the top of their ladders.
Originally posted by: weezergirl
I can see where you are coming from. Once you get out of college and start working it's REALLY hard to meet someone that you click with. I think more and more people are ending up old and single. It just doesn't work like in the movies where one day you wake up and meet "the one". I think if you are that old and ready to settle down then pre-arranged marriages can work. I've seen them work. But I have also seen them not work. You are lucky though because "most" viet girls straight from vietnam are very docile, obedient, quiet, etc. Easy to get along with. If that's the type of wife you are looking for (which I can imagine there are guys out there who prefer this type of wife) then go for it.
Originally posted by: fatbaby
I have a little comment about going to asia to pickup a wife.
A neighbor of mine recently got hooked up with a girl in china. Now this guy is kind of flaky, and probably won't get any of the high maintanence women here..
Well, they got married and now have kids. My neighbor owns this restuarant that is about a 1.5 hour commute from their home. The wife does not speak english. She cannot get a job. She doesn't understand anything about american life.
All she does is stay home and take care of the kids.
Would you really want to put someone in that position? They have nowhere to go in life. They have reached the top of their ladders.
Originally posted by: fastz28
Sure. Why not.
The traditional way isn't working any better, as evident by the divorce rate. Arranged marriage, on the other hand, tend to have better records.
Originally posted by: HotChic
I think, if you trust your mom to know you and look to your interests, that arranged marriages really can work. Love is a learned skill anyway, IMO (not the feelings, the day-to-day living) and the feelings follow the actions. If you and your bride are resolved to make it work, I think it can truly make a wonderful marriage. The people I know (no close friends) who had arranged marriages have terrific relationships. [edit] What if you brought her over and got to know her before actually committing to marrying her?