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Originally posted by: dabuddha
Be the bigger man and go to the dinner. But don't apologize for anything.
100% agreed.
Originally posted by: dabuddha
Be the bigger man and go to the dinner. But don't apologize for anything.
Originally posted by: griffis
Ok, so I went to the dinner. It started off kind of rocky, him saying he didn't agree with us having a child so young, saying he thought his daughter's life was ruined and so on and so forth. Before he even finished I interrupted and said " Listen, I understand this is alot to take in but the best thing for you to do is embrace this child, after all that is what we are doing. Your daughter wants you to be a part of her life but in order for you to do that, just deal with the fact she is pregnant and will be having your grandson. If you have a problem with that you need to let me know." Obviously that wasn't word for word but somethign along those lines. Anyways, he suprisingly admitted to me that his actions were overreactive and as a father he should have not walked away from her or the unborn child. He ensures he will aplogize to her but we shall see. There was obviously alot more things discussed over the 2 hour period but me and him both got alot off our chests and laid the law of the land down for both sides. I'm still hesitant of him of course because of his past actions but I believe for my lady this is something good for her. He is trying and I can't force him out of her life casue she will end up hating me. Basically, things are now kind of in his court. He agreed to help pay for the wedding if we wanted, I dont, and now wants to come to the baby shower. ATOT, don't think I have changed my opinion on this guy but I will give him a chance under extremely strict supervision. It is her father after all. Im just happy I walked away with the dinner without punching dude in the face, thats an accomplishment for me, haha. Ok, ready for the trolling, any thoughts questions and comments?
Originally posted by: franguinho
interesting story dude... first off that's downright WRONG what he did... I don't agree either with having parents just give you a car... I'd much rather work for my car cause that way i'll appreciate it more... but either way that's done...
if both of you are certain about what you are doing with the marriage, kid etc then go nuts! I wouldn't get over-excited though... I'm not sure how long you've been together and whether you live together or not but personally I'd want to spend lots of time together with my girl and live together and enjoy being a couple before having a kid... you realize that having a kid means you'll barely be able to go out together and it'll take a huge emotional and physical toll on you but i'm sure having a kid is awesome and rewarding!
basically what i'm saying is just cause your fiancé is pregnant right now doesn't mean you have to have a kid right now!!! it's great that you're both excited about it but i'd maybe pull the plug on this one (prepares flame suit) and wait till you are more stable financially and as a couple to be able to provide everything your child needs!
gl dude!