Finally encountered a gay hater

[amdforever2]

It's been common knowledge I'm gay to my friends and everyone I encounter since July of 2003.

The dramatic coming out, the lost friends, the conflict didn't happen. Surpising? Maybe.

I had maybe 5 people even mention some uncomfortableness, but when they saw I wasn't going to tie them up and paint their nails and cover them with rainbows they were ok. I'm still good friends with everyone.

So for a long time not one single negative side effect.

Well, today I found them.

Two people refuse to associate with me because I'm gay. I'm not particularly devastated, but it's a slight disappointment there are still a few people who choose their friends based on criteria such as these.


I'm in Kansas City, Missouri. It's a pretty conservative area I suppose. I guess I figured I'd run across people like these sooner or later.

*shrug*

 

[venk]

Sorry Man

:thumbsdown:

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: amdforever2
when they saw I wasn't going to tie them up and paint their nails and cover them with rainbows they were ok.

really?

/relaxes

 

[chuckywang]

sucks....it's sad that some people are so bigoted.

 

[vshah]

Originally posted by: chuckywang
sucks....it's sad that some people are so bigoted.

instead of being big-other-thing-ed

glad to hear you're not too bothered by it amdman. don't let it get to you

 

[Ryan]

I have yet to hit that stumbling block - but I expect it someday. The only kinds of reactions I've recieved are usually along the lines of "is this some kind of joke?", at first everybody I knew thought I was just messing with them

 

[otispunkmeyer]

im not gay but i have no probs what so ever.....3 of my friiends are gay tho not all together......tho scary thing is ive had 2 gay people try to come on to me which was abit :S for me but they get the message when i show them a pic of my girlfriend and everythings fine again....theyre all jus quality people

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: otispunkmeyer
im not gay but i have no probs what so ever.....3 of my friiends are gay tho not all together......tho scary thing is ive had 2 gay people try to come on to me which was abit :S for me but they get the message when i show them a pic of my girlfriend and everythings fine again....theyre all jus quality people

For soe reason, reading those sentenses makes me think of Dr. Suess.

 

[Wanescotting]

meh..............Some people are just a**holes. I don't care about someones personal prefrences, all I care about is whether or not they are decent folk. Actually, my sister is gay. When I go visit her, we will go to a bar, and she will point out a girl and say something like: "wow, she has a hot ass" , cracks me up everytime.

 

[acemcmac]

pardon me if this sounds ignorant, but what would be so bad about keeping your orientation to yourself?

I had a gay roomate for 9 months and he never felt the need to tell me and I never felt the need to pry. I was the last person to "know." I don't see what's so wrong with that.

 

[chuckywang]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
pardon me if this sounds ignorant, but what would be so bad about keeping your orientation to yourself?

I had a gay roomate for 9 months and he never felt the need to tell me and I never felt the need to pry. I was the last person to "know." I don't see what's so wrong with that.

Do you feel a need to keep your heterosexuality to yourself?

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
pardon me if this sounds ignorant, but what would be so bad about keeping your orientation to yourself?

I had a gay roomate for 9 months and he never felt the need to tell me and I never felt the need to pry. I was the last person to "know." I don't see what's so wrong with that.

One thing I don't understand about this argument is it's nearly impossible to keep it to yourself. In just day to day chit chat with my family, friends, and even coworkers soemthing comes up that is pertinent to sexuality. Hell, even my hair stylist asks me "So, do you have a girlfriend" every time I see her, I just say no. She followed that with "why not", and I just said that I was discreetly looking for a boyfriend. She laughed, and continued cutting my hair.

"What are you doing today?" - Why shoudl I feel the need to NOT answer the question with "Going out tonight with some guy I met" for fear that you would react immaturely, when if I had said the same statement, but was talking about a girl, you wouldn't have any second thought about it?

 

[acemcmac]

Originally posted by: rbloedow

Originally posted by: acemcmac
pardon me if this sounds ignorant, but what would be so bad about keeping your orientation to yourself?

I had a gay roomate for 9 months and he never felt the need to tell me and I never felt the need to pry. I was the last person to "know." I don't see what's so wrong with that.

One thing I don't understand about this argument is it's nearly impossible to keep it to yourself. In just day to day chit chat with my family, friends, and even coworkers soemthing comes up that is pertinent to sexuality. Hell, even my hair stylist asks me "So, do you have a girlfriend" every time I see her, I just say no. She followed that with "why not", and I just said that I was discreetly looking for a boyfriend. She laughed, and continued cutting my hair.

"What are you doing today?" - Why shoudl I feel the need to NOT answer the question with "Going out tonight with some guy I met" for fear that you would react immaturely, when if I had said the same statement, but was talking about a girl, you wouldn't have any second thought about it?

I'm not trying to make an argument out of it, but if I managed to live with a gay person for 9 months without him ever feeling the need to make it an issue.......

I'm agnostic. I am being ruled by a christian government. Most people I know are christian and would have problems wrapping their mind around, or respecting what it means to be agnostic- not unlike straight people having a hard time wrapping their mind around homosexuality? How do I deal with it? I keep a low profile unless I'm ready to deal with the sh!t. How is my situation with religion any different from your situation with sexuality?

The world is full of bigots and ignoramuses in all shapes and colors.... you just have to find a way to deal with it....

I think you'll find the bigots who hate us both are the same group

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: rbloedow

Originally posted by: acemcmac
pardon me if this sounds ignorant, but what would be so bad about keeping your orientation to yourself?

I had a gay roomate for 9 months and he never felt the need to tell me and I never felt the need to pry. I was the last person to "know." I don't see what's so wrong with that.

One thing I don't understand about this argument is it's nearly impossible to keep it to yourself. In just day to day chit chat with my family, friends, and even coworkers soemthing comes up that is pertinent to sexuality. Hell, even my hair stylist asks me "So, do you have a girlfriend" every time I see her, I just say no. She followed that with "why not", and I just said that I was discreetly looking for a boyfriend. She laughed, and continued cutting my hair.

"What are you doing today?" - Why shoudl I feel the need to NOT answer the question with "Going out tonight with some guy I met" for fear that you would react immaturely, when if I had said the same statement, but was talking about a girl, you wouldn't have any second thought about it?

I'm not trying to make an argument out of it, but if I managed to live with a gay person for 9 months without him ever feeling the need to make it an issue.......

I'm agnostic. I am being ruled by a christian government. Most people I know are christian and would have problems wrapping their mind around, or respecting what it means to be agnostic- not unlike straight people having a hard time wrapping their mind around homosexuality? How do I deal with it? I keep a low profile unless I'm ready to deal with the sh!t. How is my situation with religion any different from your situation with sexuality?

The world is full of bigots and ignoramuses in all shapes and colors.... you just have to find a way to deal with it....

I think you'll find the bigots who hate us both are the same group

But if you were a Christian, you would certainly not feel pressured to keep a low profile about it. It's all about being comfortable (not threatened) in the environment you're in.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: rbloedow

Originally posted by: acemcmac
pardon me if this sounds ignorant, but what would be so bad about keeping your orientation to yourself?

I had a gay roomate for 9 months and he never felt the need to tell me and I never felt the need to pry. I was the last person to "know." I don't see what's so wrong with that.

One thing I don't understand about this argument is it's nearly impossible to keep it to yourself. In just day to day chit chat with my family, friends, and even coworkers soemthing comes up that is pertinent to sexuality. Hell, even my hair stylist asks me "So, do you have a girlfriend" every time I see her, I just say no. She followed that with "why not", and I just said that I was discreetly looking for a boyfriend. She laughed, and continued cutting my hair.

"What are you doing today?" - Why shoudl I feel the need to NOT answer the question with "Going out tonight with some guy I met" for fear that you would react immaturely, when if I had said the same statement, but was talking about a girl, you wouldn't have any second thought about it?

I'm not trying to make an argument out of it, but if I managed to live with a gay person for 9 months without him ever feeling the need to make it an issue.......

I'm agnostic. I am being ruled by a christian government. Most people I know are christian and would have problems wrapping their mind around, or respecting what it means to be agnostic- not unlike straight people having a hard time wrapping their mind around homosexuality? How do I deal with it? I keep a low profile unless I'm ready to deal with the sh!t. How is my situation with religion any different from your situation with sexuality?

The world is full of bigots and ignoramuses in all shapes and colors.... you just have to find a way to deal with it....

I think you'll find the bigots who hate us both are the same group

I live under the philosophy that is someone asks, I feel no need ot hide it from them. I to am Agnostic, and don't have any problem with talking about it if the situation is pertinant. With family and friends, there's not "hiding it" or "flaunting it", if something comes up that deals with sexuality, it happens. There's nothing to hide, this is part of who I am.

 

[imported_Leaf]

Two people refuse to associate with me because I'm gay. I'm not particularly devastated, but it's a slight disappointment there are still a few people who choose their friends based on criteria such as these.

And this is supposed to be a bad thing? Just because they don't want to give cheap relationships based on sexual desires their stamp of approval. Cos by pretending to be ok with it means you condone it.


for you.

 

[SearchMaster]

Originally posted by: Leaf

Two people refuse to associate with me because I'm gay. I'm not particularly devastated, but it's a slight disappointment there are still a few people who choose their friends based on criteria such as these.

And this is supposed to be a bad thing? Just because they don't want to give cheap relationships based on sexual desires their stamp of approval. Cos by pretending to be ok with it means you condone it.


for you.

Heh - 'cause the homosexual community has SOOOOO many more sluts than the heterosexual community

 

[amdforever2]

Originally posted by: Leaf

Two people refuse to associate with me because I'm gay. I'm not particularly devastated, but it's a slight disappointment there are still a few people who choose their friends based on criteria such as these.

And this is supposed to be a bad thing? Just because they don't want to give cheap relationships based on sexual desires their stamp of approval. Cos by pretending to be ok with it means you condone it.


for you.

Who the fvck are you to decide our relationships are cheap and based on sex?

Our relationships are based on the same things as straight ones you bigoted piece of shit.

 

[Wanescotting]

Heh - 'cause the homosexual community has SOOOOO many more sluts than the heterosexual community

Don't worry about what he has to say, he recently obtained the title of "grand wizard" in his beloved Alabama

 

[blurredvision]

I've known a few gay people in my life that I've worked with in the past. I didn't choose not to associate with them because of their sexual preference, I didn't associate with them because I didn't like their personalities and the way they acted. Not sure how much the stereotype fits all gays, but for the 3 I've known, gay stereotypes have been in full effect. One guy basically was a loud talker in the so-called "gay" voice, and had no qualms at pointing out guys walking by who he'd "do". The other guy acted as if he was better than all hetero males because he was gay. And the one lesbian I've worked with was more of a man than I was, including facial hair and all. Plus, her personality always left a bit to be desired, and she turned out to be one of the most hateful people I've ever known in my life. Luckily she was fired not long ago because of continued rudeness to customers .

(I do not mean this to be an insult, just sharing my experience. I know how people can get pissed off at harmless posts like mine in threads like these.)

 

[vood0g]

Originally posted by: Wanescotting

Heh - 'cause the homosexual community has SOOOOO many more sluts than the heterosexual community

Don't worry about what he has to say, he recently obtained the title of "grand wizard" in his beloved Alabama

LOL

 

[amdforever2]

blurredvision, rest assured, i'm not a big fan of flamers either.

 

[jjones]

Those 2 probably have other issues than homophobia and are probably not worthwhile associating with anyway.

 

[MidasKnight]

Two people refuse to associate with me because I'm gay.


Are you saying that " because they refuse to associate with you " They Hate you ?


Have they said hateful words to you ? Made fun of you or intimidated you in anyway because you're a gay person ?


If someone who doesn't want to " associate " with a person who is gay a hater ? ( if they have not done the above mentioned ? )

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Leaf

Two people refuse to associate with me because I'm gay. I'm not particularly devastated, but it's a slight disappointment there are still a few people who choose their friends based on criteria such as these.

And this is supposed to be a bad thing? Just because they don't want to give cheap relationships based on sexual desires their stamp of approval. Cos by pretending to be ok with it means you condone it.


for you.

And a nice warm glass of STFU for you.