Finding closure with a bully high school teacher

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tcsenter

Lifer
Sep 7, 2001
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WTF? I had a couple teachers who were fervently anti-Republican and anti-Reagan, made no secret about it. One of them even put-up big photos or posters of their favored Democrat candidates during election years. It irked me for a while that public school teachers could use their classrooms as their own little political stumps. Also had a couple teachers who liked to harass me about everything or told me I was just wasting oxygen, but damn, I haven't thought about these things since a few years after I graduated high school.

You're going to say something that will probably end-up just affirming for him "Yep, I was right about that one!"
 

Sinsear

Diamond Member
Jan 13, 2007
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OK OP; so far we've got about 6 pages of nonsense and fluff.

No one cares about your issues, or the religious biology teacher "forcing his beliefs on you". We want lulz, so stop being a pussy and send the email; put a copy here and the reply too.

Thanks in advance for not wasting anymore of our time.
 

HamburgerBoy

Lifer
Apr 12, 2004
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To what extent does it really still bother you? Like, wake up with cold sweats and a hard-on for vengeance kind of trauma? Merely unpleasant memories every time abortion is mentioned? Occasionally thinking of him and thinking, "Gee that guy was an ass"? Because I've had a vaguely similar experience in 6th grade against a vice principal and some students, but even I'm well past what I would consider to be trauma (although sometimes I still think to myself "Haha I'm glad that bitch's grandfather died of cancer" when I'm in a bad-reminiscent mood). That was only 12 years ago for me, btw.
 

Rinaun

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Dec 30, 2005
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This is not the best place to ask for advice.. Have you not learned that yet??

Do whatever you think is going to make you feel best.

This probably needs to be stickied here in OT. This forum has gone so downhill that posting anything on here becomes incinerated and retardedly torn apart. If you want advice check the more subtle forums if you must or go elsewhere. ATOT is really the nerds version of bodybuilding forums and it's pretty pathetic.
 

OverVolt

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Aug 31, 2002
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Send him the second complaint, not the first.

I can sit through any video, its just a video. I'm not worried about being exposed to different ideas warping my mind or anything.

The friend thing is messed up for him to be getting involved in that crap. Especially since you are still friends its a pretty good point to make.
 

rockyct

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Jun 23, 2001
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Maybe instead of possibly beating him to death, you just wait a few months (to not connect it to your email) and sign him up for some gay porn email spam like others have suggested?

Either that, or fake guilt him saying that you forgive him for taking advantage of you as a young boy (hoping that he doesn't actually know who this is). About how the "special" attention he gave you in class, the eye contact, the accidental touches were about both of you discovering your own identity and how you are happy that he himself has finally come to terms with those true urges. Invite him out to a coffee double date so you can meet each other's partners and so that your partners can meet the first person to spark those true desires. Thank him again for allowing you to free yourself 27 years ago.
 

steve wilson

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Sep 18, 2004
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Send the letter and get it off your chest. If you have had this in your head for 27 years, it's unlikely for it to go away if you do nothing. Doing something might help you finally deal with it and then you will be able to let it go.
 

mikeford

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Jan 27, 2001
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Not a troll thread. I never use the <serious thread> tag on troll threads.

I feel this teacher was a bully towards his students. Especially students who did not listen to his religious rants.

You need some therapy, maybe its covered under Obamacare, but your hatred is irrational and you should get some help to get past it.

Showing the nasty details of a medical procedure is no more a religious rant than showing the nasty details of a slaughter house is for PETA, its merely exposure to a reality you feel more comfortable not knowing.
 

shadow9d9

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Jul 6, 2004
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Unresolved issue type of bother.

I feel like the teacher took advantage of his authority to push his agenda on a group of people who had no choice.

He did. You had a chance to do something about it back then. You could have gone to the principal and/or had your parents get involved. Instead, you did nothing.
 

manimal

Lifer
Mar 30, 2007
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Let it go. Its in the past. Dont dwell on those things that you cant change. Will talking to this person change them or you? Its an empty desire devoid of reality and your current life. Maybe what really bothers you is you never learned this lesson.
 

BikeJunkie

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Oct 21, 2013
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Shitty teachers, there are a lot of them. It's tough to just tell someone to "get over it" because we weren't in each other's shoes. If you're scarred because of his actions, only you can decide if the scarring warrants verbal retribution decades later.

I had a Spanish teacher throw my textbook at me from across the classroom when I was in the 7th grade. I was struggling in class and did a lousy job in my workbook. When she spot-checked it and saw how bad it was, she took it. She marched to the front of the class, showed it to everyone, and told them "this is how NOT to do your workbook."

Naturally, I objected to her methods every bit as publicly as she objected to my work. Enraged, she threw the book at me from 20+ feet away and then stormed out of the classroom.

If I saw her today, I'd probably tell her she was a c***. But I don't have a burning desire to get it off my chest, because she knew at the time she was a c*** (or she wouldn't have stormed out and hidden from her class for the remainder of the session). She knew she was a c***, I knew she was a c***, the other students knew she was a c***, and we ALL knew that she was damn lucky to keep her job after that.

I don't know if that makes you feel better. There are a lot of shitty teachers out there. Most of them are teachers because they didn't know what else to do with their lives, and becoming a teacher isn't exactly an atom-splitting challenge. The profession attracts people who don't want to ever leave high school and/or people who can't think of a better idea. Every once in awhile, it attracts someone who loves their subject and wants to share that passion with others. Cherish the latter and try not to dwell on the former.
 

Vampirrella

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I dunno if posting this type of thing on ATOT and expecting a serious answer(s) is the best idea... lol
 

Exterous

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Jun 20, 2006
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This probably needs to be stickied here in OT. This forum has gone so downhill that posting anything on here becomes incinerated and retardedly torn apart. If you want advice check the more subtle forums if you must or go elsewhere. ATOT is really the nerds version of bodybuilding forums and it's pretty pathetic.

Someone's bitter about their Taco Bell thread
 

Capt Caveman

Lifer
Jan 30, 2005
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This probably needs to be stickied here in OT. This forum has gone so downhill that posting anything on here becomes incinerated and retardedly torn apart. If you want advice check the more subtle forums if you must or go elsewhere. ATOT is really the nerds version of bodybuilding forums and it's pretty pathetic.

He could post in L&R but he wouldn't be allowed to troll.
 

Texashiker

Lifer
Dec 18, 2010
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He did. You had a chance to do something about it back then. You could have gone to the principal and/or had your parents get involved. Instead, you did nothing.

Like going to the principle ever accomplished anything, ever.

More like I would get my ass spanked just for talking to the principle.
 

BikeJunkie

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Oct 21, 2013
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He did. You had a chance to do something about it back then. You could have gone to the principal and/or had your parents get involved. Instead, you did nothing.

You're measuring a child's actions against adult expectations. Not to mention, it was a very different time then than it is today. That's the obvious go-to response for a problem like that today. 30 years ago, not at all.
 

mammador

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Dec 9, 2010
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<serious thread>

This may sound trivial, but a certain public high school teacher has been on my mind for the past 27+ years. The guy was a coach and biology teacher. He used his teacher status to promote his religious and personal beliefs.

Example 1 - he once showed a video about abortion. The video was rather disgusting as it showed a fetus being torn apart into little pieces. I decided not to watch the video, put my head on my desk and took a nap.

When the video was over and the lights came on, the teacher told me I got a zero for sleeping through the video.

My thoughts on the video then and now, I should not be forcibly subjected to someones religious beliefs. Since I could not walk out of the class taking a nap was my way of opting out. To be forced to sit and listen to someone spew their religious beliefs was not acceptable to me then or now.

The video was not shown as part of the biology class, it was him trying to promote his christian anti-abortion agenda. He made that very clear when he was talking to the class.

Example 2 - this was harmful and still hurts my feelings 27+ years later, I overheard the teacher telling a buddy of mine he needed to stay away from me. My buddy and I were friends outside school, and are still friends to this day. I am 45 years old, he is 44 and we still go camping and fishing together.

Last weekend I found the teachers email address posted on a church website. I sent him an email asking if he is the same guy and he said yes.

Before I send the guy an email telling him how much of an asshole he was and getting closure, I thought I would ask advice here.

Let this go, or send the teacher a venom filled email telling him exactly how I feel?

Big deal.

And frankly, your friend is still hanging out with you, so the guy's advice stuck, right?

You're a pussy. Sorry to sound mean, but come on, people in your country as youths can get shot up, raped, murdered, have absentee parents, live on only $20 a day, etc. and YOU are complaining about a video (albeit graphic) of an abortion?

The teacher must be an old man now. I doubt highly he would give a shit.

Unlike others in this thread, I don't condone abuse and whilst morals don't exist, people shouldn't hurt others. Even still, my honest belief here is that what this man did was very mild, and you should have got over it by now.
 

AViking

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Sep 12, 2013
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Like going to the principle ever accomplished anything, ever.

More like I would get my ass spanked just for talking to the principle.

I just looked it up and Texas still has corporal punishment in their schools.

LOL

No seriously. LOL

LOL
 

atotnine

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My mom did this with a teacher that raped her, it gave her some closure I think. Confronted him about 40 years later and told him about how it fucked her up.
 
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