First Date Advice

[Pyxis]

I finally got the nerve to ask this girl out yesterday. As you can tell she said yes but now I'm nervous as hell about our date.

This will actually be my second date and I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 13 (I'm 20 right now, she's 21). I know I'm a loser

Anyway I just want some general advice on how to make a good impression with her. I like her alot and have wanted to go out with her since high school. The only other date I've been on sucked big time (her fault trust me).

This girl is so perfect. I like her personality, which is way different than mine. I'm shy, quiet, and basically keep to myself. And she is outgoing. And she has the best body. NO PICS!!!, NO PICS!!!, NO PICS!!!


I asked her out yesterday at work. We both work at this restaurant. I was having a bad day yesterday and dropping plates and stuff just because I was thinking of asking her out. Toward the end of the night I just said what the hell and asked her. My heart was coming out of my chest because I was so nervous. She didn't even hesitate when she said yes, I guess that's a good sign. We are going to the movies and out to eat on Tuesday.

Oh and on a first date, do you usually kiss the girl (short kiss, long kiss)? I know it depends but what is usually appropriate. Should I give her a flower when I pick her up?

Help my sorry a$$ out because I really like this girl.

 

[gotsmack]

normally i drop trou and say "Well, it's not going to suck itself!"

but that might explain my lack of dates. T

here is no real set standard for first dates. you just have to go with the moment, can't ever go wrong with a kiss on the cheek. But if you don't get a kiss by the third date then you're not going anywhere. and I assume you know the phone rule. if you say you are going to call her either give an exact time and day or call her no earlier then 2 days after the date. unless you didn't set up the second date at the end of the date the i guess its ok to call her when you get back.

 

[UberNeuman]

First, don't turn it into "THE MOST IMPORTANT DATE EVER" - just go out and have some fun, be yourself - and she'll let you know if a kiss is expected...

 

[Renob]

I was going to say PICS buy I wont... YOu need to calm WAY down dont make it out to be such a big deal, just go out and have fun........

 

[mesonw]

Yeah, just try and relax and be yourself. It's easier to screw things up if you try too hard

I'm busy telling myself the same coz a girl I met about 5wks ago has just come back from holiday and I'm going to see her tonight <gulp>.

 

[littlelee]

yeah man if your not yourslef who can you be ???

just take it one step at a time

 

[greenfirs]

Take a shower.

 

[littlelee]

what am i saying your married already lol

to your pc i mean , *sigh* like us all

 

[Sir Fredrick]

The most important thing to do is also the hardest thing to do: relax. If you're relaxed, you'll both have fun.
Also you should try to look nice, but for god's sake don't overdo it. If you get all slicked up, put on a gallon of cologne, bring her a dozen roses, and generally lay it on real thick, it'll be a turn off to her.

A single flower, or a boquet of non-roses might be ok though. Some girls think that's sweet, others think it's a bit much...so I guess it sorta depends on what kind of girl you think she is.

Also, if the first date goes well, I reccomend that you do NOT play games like what gotsmack is reccomending. If you like her, call her - just don't be overbearing. Honestly it sounds like you're not the kind of guy who is constantly chasing tail, and it sounds like this girl means something to you, so do it right.

 

[LordJezo]

Personally I hate the movies as a first date... too quiet and akward. Although it does give you something to talk about over dinner I always liked doing something more social on a first date, like going to the tracks (good date place, I swear!) or mini golf or something.

My opinion (which means jack but oh well): keep the flowers for the second date. See if the first one goes well and if it does then they will work much better then.

As for the resturant, go someplace fun and noisy.. that way you wont feel the silence as much.

 

[Pyxis]

<<normally i drop trou and say "Well, it's not going to suck itself!">>

LOL

I'm trying not to think of this date as THE MOST IMPORTANT but I just really like this girl. Actually I guess the date will go good because at work we usually talk alot, and I make her laugh alot.

You guys are probably right. I'll just try to be myself.

Damn it's late I got to get to class. I'll be back around 5 and I expect to see alot of replies

 

[SpecialEd]

<< just go out and have fun........ >>



exactly... this is the most important thing about a first date. Just have fun!! and relax! I wouldn't worry about romantics yet. The goal is just to have a good time and thats it. Flowers and kisses come later, not on the first date.

If she thinks your fun to hang out with... she'll want to see you again.

Dinner and a movie sounds good. Not too overbearding...

good luck! and have a good time!!

 

[jjones]

relax, enjoy yourself, enjoy being with her, and just go with the flow. if you feel like buying her a flower then do it. if you feel like kissing her and the moment presents itself then do that too. she obviously likes you for who you are because she already knows you and agreed to a date.

 

[pulse8]

Be confident, relax, have fun and DON'T FART!

 

[franksta]

Well my first date with my first (and only!) girlfriend was nearly two years ago as a sophomore in college. Well I didn't plan on any physical contact between us but we went back to her dorm room to watch a movie after we ate and she ended up kissing me. However the tongue action was my idea. Two year anniversary in Feb.

I was nervous like a mofo that day. Especially since I fixed the clutch cable on my '57 Beetle earlier that day and didn't know if it was gonna work right + it being my very first date and all. Good luck to you sir.

 

[MaxDepth]

You're going to eat her out on Tuesday? Sounds like you two already know each other...

 

[weezergirl]

on the first date kiss: u've heard of girls that get turned off of guys who kiss them on the first date, but i've never really heard of a girl getting turned off cuz she didn't get kissed on the first date (better reason to get a second date..!)

basically a kiss can wait. better to be safe then sorry. BUT, if the moment is right, usually u can tell...go for it! or if u had a really awesome time, and u can tell she did too, give her a kiss on the cheek.

but if there's any hesitation, just wait til the second date. it won't kill u.

oh, and i think a single flower is really really cute.

 

[GasX]

Make sure you rub out a batch before the date.

It'll help you stay relaxed and focused on her rather than her breasts.

 

[yOyOYoo]

give her a nice kiss on the hand. you can't go wrong with that.

 

[Vladimir0]

Don't bring flowers. It will make you look soft.

Definitely kiss her at the end of the date. If she doesn't like you it won't matter anyway, and if she does like you then she will be disappointed if she doesn't at least get a kiss. You will be able to tell if she wants more.

 

[stingbandel]

the only thing I can recommend you is to be yourself.








Darno

 

[MaxDepth]

Mwilding

I think the proper quote is :


<< Going out with Mary, without cleaning your pipes, is like going out with a loaded gun! >>

- There's something about Mary

and



<< Is that hair gel? >>



And if the date goes south, you've always got us.
Okay, that thought was depressing...

 

[yobarman]

buddy you gotta know how to work it..

First off...beforehand, just relax...CLean the pipes, if you know what i mean.

You do have to be yourself, be funny, Confidence in yourself is a must.

Touching: This is completely up to you, but if you know how to work this then, pa~DOW. put your hand on her leg or something if think it's right..hold hands walking around if you've hit it off..

The kiss?? hmm, really depends...A kiss on the cheek AT LEAST! i mean, only if it has gone well. Always away with confidence and a smile on your face...they're always watching you walk away.

 

[boyRacer]

<< First, don't turn it into "THE MOST IMPORTANT DATE EVER" - just go out and have some fun, be yourself - and she'll let you know if a kiss is expected... >>



Exactly. Dude if you kept on dropping plates just thinking about her how much more when you are with her?... First of all, you need to get rid of this "I'm a loser" attitude... that's why you feel so imtimidated... and trust me... the worst things happen when you feel intimidated and you end up losing an opportunity. Relax like what everyone's been saying... it sounds like you have an altar for this girl. You have to play the game right... just be cool... and have fun... this isn't the only pretty girl in the world.

 

[BigJohnKC]

Good luck buddy It looks like I'll have to worry about this kind of stuff soon too as I am recently single once again :|