first date

[gogeeta13]

Wow, the general populous of AT has no social expirience.

Take her to a strip club first, then go to a trashy buffet for dinner, then lastly, take her to see a crappy a movie and whip it out during the movie and point and say "wrap your lips around this, instead of that straw"

 

[frankierx]

Well, I called her and we made plans for next Sunday evening instead. I feel like I had poor execution by calling her late this Sunday afternoon when the weekend is already over. At least I didn't drop the ball and not call her at all. I have to thank her for being so generous and our mutual friend for caring to call me to encourage me.

 

[cressida]

23 year old and asking for advice on ATOT ... HEHE
Next time do lunch / dinner and something like PUTT PUTT

 

[Pliablemoose]

Are your pipes clean?

 

[slightlyhuman]

i dont know why some of you here hate on people even if they are 30, you have to start somewhere. hell 3/5 people have prolly never even talked to a girl on the phone much less a date.


and yes i have more game than the wnba draft:beer:


do dinner OP, before or after is fine, i wouldnt drink on the first date.

 

[OMGoddess]

Originally posted by: spanky
remember.... pics.

 

[MegaWorks]

Pics

 

[TheShiz]

movie is the most retarded first date ever, you dont talk during it, only morons go on a movie only first date.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: bobbybe01
Go to the movie first, then dinner or a drink afterwards, then you can talk about it.

That is exactly what I feel I should do, but I know I'm going to be hungry before the movie. I guess that means nachos, hotdogs, and soda concessions during the movie!!! yay! my favorite actually. Then afterwards, drinks and dessert at cheesecake factory! Thanks bud.

Originally posted by: DP
i dont know why some of you here hate on people even if they are 30, you have to start somewhere. hell 3/5 people have prolly never even talked to a girl on the phone much less a date.


and yes i have more game than the wnba draft:beer:


do dinner OP, before or after is fine, i wouldnt drink on the first date.

Okay; edit : no drinks after movie, just dinner or desert... what about some merlot wine for me? I get really talkative and funny while drinking a single glass of wine.

 

[Mandos]

Originally posted by: frankierx
I might have a movie date tonite. She mentioned that she wants to see the grudge. First off, this is a first date. I know for sure what movie she wants to see. I still have to call her today around 5 pm to seal the date. My question is whether to include dinner with the date or not. It would be better if we had a group of people coming along, but that's a luxury that we don't have at the moment. I want to make this as comfortable as possible, so not including dinner may take off the pressures of a date for both her and I.

However, If I include the dinner it will most likely please her, since we would both have a good meal out of the evening in case the movie is a flop.

Make her pay her half. This will unbalance her. Don't be a schmuck.

 

[Balt]

Definitely do dinner afterwards. You don't get much of a chance to talk during a movie. If the movie sucks, so much the better, you can both rant about it's cheesiness afterwards.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: Mandos

Originally posted by: frankierx
I might have a movie date tonite. She mentioned that she wants to see the grudge. First off, this is a first date. I know for sure what movie she wants to see. I still have to call her today around 5 pm to seal the date. My question is whether to include dinner with the date or not. It would be better if we had a group of people coming along, but that's a luxury that we don't have at the moment. I want to make this as comfortable as possible, so not including dinner may take off the pressures of a date for both her and I.

However, If I include the dinner it will most likely please her, since we would both have a good meal out of the evening in case the movie is a flop.

Make her pay her half. This will unbalance her. Don't be a schmuck.

I couldn't ever have a woman pay her half unless she really insisted on it.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: Balt
Definitely do dinner afterwards. You don't get much of a chance to talk during a movie. If the movie sucks, so much the better, you can both rant about it's cheesiness afterwards.

Okay, I will do exactly as you say next Sunday evening. We made plans for that time since I called her at 4:30pm today, and the weekend is already just about shot.

 

[faZZter]

Originally posted by: OS
man, if you're anything near this girl's age, why do you need to ask for first date advice on a computer forum?

 

[venk]

Are you in 16? If not, why the hell would you want to go on a first date with a 'group of friends?'

 

[Gooberlx2]

take her out for some drinks/dessert afterwards

Yeah. I think just drinks would keep things more comfortable than dinner. You can always order food if you want, but just don't label it as "dinner" since that has a stigma attached to it and basically confirms it's a date.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

take her out for some drinks/dessert afterwards

Yeah. I think just drinks would keep things more comfortable than dinner. You can always order food if you want, but just don't label it as "dinner" since that has a stigma attached to it and basically confirms it's a date.

You are right. I will take her to cheesecake factory for drinks and dessert after the movies. I will be hungry during the movie, so I believe nachos, hotdogs, and soda may be a good idea as long as she's okay having some too.

 

[hop12]

Originally posted by: frankierx

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

take her out for some drinks/dessert afterwards

Yeah. I think just drinks would keep things more comfortable than dinner. You can always order food if you want, but just don't label it as "dinner" since that has a stigma attached to it and basically confirms it's a date.

You are right. I will take her to cheesecake factory for drinks and dessert after the movies. I will be hungry during the movie, so I believe nachos, hotdogs, and soda may be a good idea as long as she's okay having some too.

Why does it matter if you make it look like a date? It IS a date. Take her to dinner. If you will be hungry before the movie, then ask her if she wants to grab something to eat before the movie. (FYI - as a girl i would be irritated if the guy pigged out during the movie on our first date rather than getting something to eat together) If she says yes, have a restaurant or two in mind and see if she is interested in going to either of them. If she says no to dinner (although I doubt she will), then eat before the movie but offer to get popcor. If things go well through dinner and the movie, after the movie you can ask her if she's up for grabbing a drink or coffee somewhere.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: hop12

Originally posted by: frankierx

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

take her out for some drinks/dessert afterwards

Yeah. I think just drinks would keep things more comfortable than dinner. You can always order food if you want, but just don't label it as "dinner" since that has a stigma attached to it and basically confirms it's a date.

You are right. I will take her to cheesecake factory for drinks and dessert after the movies. I will be hungry during the movie, so I believe nachos, hotdogs, and soda may be a good idea as long as she's okay having some too.

Why does it matter if you make it look like a date? It IS a date. Take her to dinner. If you will be hungry before the movie, then ask her if she wants to grab something to eat before the movie. (FYI - as a girl i would be irritated if the guy pigged out during the movie on our first date rather than getting something to eat together) If she says yes, have a restaurant or two in mind and see if she is interested in going to either of them. If she says no to dinner (although I doubt she will), then eat before the movie but offer to get popcor. If things go well through dinner and the movie, after the movie you can ask her if she's up for grabbing a drink or coffee somewhere.

Okay, I will do exactly as you suggest. Thank you.

 

[Howard]

Too late for more advice.

 

[NTB]

when did you meet my old girlfriend?

j/k - what would be the odds of that?

Nate

 

[Tom]

if you are going to be hungry during movie, she might be too. Why don't you just ask her if she wolud like you to pick her up a little bit early to get a sandwich or something ?

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Remember you are doing this to meet a person and have a good time. Just because she's a girl doesn't mean you have to meet some kind of standard like you will be get married next week.

Be yourself. if you like a glass of wine, tell her so. if she doesn't want to have a drink, that's fine too.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: Tom
if you are going to be hungry during movie, she might be too. Why don't you just ask her if she wolud like you to pick her up a little bit early to get a sandwich or something ?

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Remember you are doing this to meet a person and have a good time. Just because she's a girl doesn't mean you have to meet some kind of standard like you will be get married next week.

Be yourself. if you like a glass of wine, tell her so. if she doesn't want to have a drink, that's fine too.

Thanks Tom. I appreciate your advice. It is very personal but true.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
I don't like to go see movies for a first date. The point of the first date is to see if you want to see that person again. If you see a movie (no talking) and stop there, how can you possibly know? I'd rather meet for coffee or lunch, something casual to get to know that person so I can determine if I want to waste my time seeing her again.

edit: And call her already. It's so lame that people want to be perceieved as busy. If some lamer called me late in the afternoon, I might already have plans, because they never called. hmmm...

I think your plan and your execution suck. Hopefully your date will go better.

Ditto.

If your going to play games be prepared to take a few knocks and hits.

Always call a girl when ever you want. If she is p!ssed or whatever at your actions is she really the one you want to date longer term? If you play games they are more then likely to. BUT if you like the thrill of the chase and such well go for it .

And wtf? Always make sure the day before what the hell is going on. Or suprise her by calling late morning or early afternoon if she wants to do something. Late afternoon calls are mostly screwed to plans they could have made.

Just be honest and straight.

Call her Monday or Tuesday and chat for a bit if you want before you meet her on Sunday. Get to know her a bit. That will be good. Just make chit chat and ask her stuff ABOUT HER. If she is interested or just not really really shy she'll be able to carry the convosation well. If not then she either doesn't like to talk or is bored.

Mandos good fvcking luck getting a woman pay her half on the 1st date. I have a 3 strike rule when it comes to dating new women. If by the 3rd date they have not OFFERED to pay for ANYTHING, then man if your not tapping it then it isn't going to be lasting long or be anything meaningful. Just HOW fvcking rude and inconsiderate is that?!

Letting women pay for stuff is GOOD. Balances things out. You just can't force them.

You will be alright dude. Just be chilled and have some fun

Koing

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: Koing
Ditto.

If your going to play games be prepared to take a few knocks and hits.

Always call a girl when ever you want. If she is p!ssed or whatever at your actions is she really the one you want to date longer term? If you play games they are more then likely to. BUT if you like the thrill of the chase and such well go for it .

And wtf? Always make sure the day before what the hell is going on. Or suprise her by calling late morning or early afternoon if she wants to do something. Late afternoon calls are mostly screwed to plans they could have made.

Just be honest and straight.

Call her Monday or Tuesday and chat for a bit if you want before you meet her on Sunday. Get to know her a bit. That will be good. Just make chit chat and ask her stuff ABOUT HER. If she is interested or just not really really shy she'll be able to carry the convosation well. If not then she either doesn't like to talk or is bored.


Letting women pay for stuff is GOOD. Balances things out. You just can't force them.

You will be alright dude. Just be chilled and have some fun

Koing

Thanks Koing, I appreciate your advice too. It is down to earth and encouraging. You're right, I will call her Tuesday to chit chat with her and see if she voted. That show's I am interested in her. I may not want to call her Monday to make sure she knows to vote on Tuesday because if she hasn't gotten her voting card by Monday, then there's nothing I can do to help her for Tuesday.

But Koing, you're right, I should call her Tuesday to ask her questions about herself so I get a better picture of who she is. Thank you.