Flowers on a first date?

[isaacmacdonald]

Originally posted by: Koing
Flowers for a girl of 17y/o is a bit much imo. For a woman of 27y/o that is fine. She'll be expecting more as she probably has dated much more and also be more level headed with things.

Koing

I agree. At 17, it comes off as kind of awkward. When you're older (and dating older women), there aren't so many insecurity issues to deal with and it becomes more acceptable.

 

[EngenZerO]

no.

 

[Geekbabe]

I love getting flowers,unfortunately I never get them unless I buy them for myself.

 

[Regs]

I think the girl would be flattered. If flowers scare her off or makes her think that you're a push over, then I wouldn't date her the second time around anyway. Girls like that are only good for one thing. Tragically, however, she would only be 17 in this instance.

*smacks himself in the face*

But I'm sure she'll be flattered.

 

[Squisher]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I love getting flowers,unfortunately I never get them unless I buy them for myself.

Aww, I would have thought there was a legion of pimple farmers sending their un-dieing love to you.

 

[Axon]

First date - bring nothing. Gifts create pressure.

Suggest some nice resturants and ask her opinion. Women won't admit it, but they want you to plan everything and be in control. Have a primary option and some back up plans. Pick a good Italian place, a good Sushi place, and a good "general" resturant, just to have options. Have some ideas in mind for after dinner - mini-golf is a classic, but it's winter. If she's athletic, suggest something like bowling or even Ice Skating if it's early enough. If she's very feminine, she'll probably prefer a movie. BRING MORE THAN ENOUGH CASH. I always carry $500 on every date. She's going to want to see the tip you leave - let her.

At the end of the night, say you'll call her in a couple days. If it's Friday, call Sunday. Tuesday? Call Thursday. Gauge her reaction when you say this.

If there's a second date, then you bring some flowers. Nice flowers. Girls can pick up cheap sh*t in a heartbeat.

 

[dman]

I once bought a girl I wasn't interested in (she was a co-worker) flowers for her birthday. A few weeks earlier she had mentioned she'd never gotten flowers from a man to a group of us chatting, so, I did it just to be nice. Cheap <$10 boquet from the grocery store, looked nice but wasn't anything fancy. I just wanted her to have a happy birthday.

Of course, next thing I know--like every women worker in the place is telling me how sweet I was and I need to ask her out. I was single at the time, and she was a hottie, so I persued but really we weren't meant to be. But I hope it raised her standard in men so that her future SO('s) treated her right.

My point is, flowers can be very powerful. Never a bad idea. But they are better as a surprise and not for an occasion. So, you might skip it for the first date... but it won't hurt either (if you don't go overboard, as discussed above).

I hope everything works out. Like you said, if it's meant to be that won't make a difference.

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: Axon
First date - bring nothing. Gifts create pressure.

Suggest some nice resturants and ask her opinion. Women won't admit it, but they want you to plan everything and be in control. Have a primary option and some back up plans. Pick a good Italian place, a good Sushi place, and a good "general" resturant, just to have options. Have some ideas in mind for after dinner - mini-golf is a classic, but it's winter. If she's athletic, suggest something like bowling or even Ice Skating if it's early enough. If she's very feminine, she'll probably prefer a movie. BRING MORE THAN ENOUGH CASH. I always carry $500 on every date. She's going to want to see the tip you leave - let her.

At the end of the night, say you'll call her in a couple days. If it's Friday, call Sunday. Tuesday? Call Thursday. Gauge her reaction when you say this.

If there's a second date, then you bring some flowers. Nice flowers. Girls can pick up cheap sh*t in a heartbeat.

Uh...yeah, I'm 17, I don't have $500. I'm bringing plenty of cash, though. The problem about having a plan is that I'm not familiar with her area-I don't know what there is to do. But yeah, I figured I'd suggest "types of food" like you said, then suggesting bowling, billards, etc. Who knows.

I feel like a dork putting all this out on the web-I'm just nervous I guess. She's cool, I'm pretty sure she's into me, and I don't want to fvck it up.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: Axon
First date - bring nothing. Gifts create pressure.

Suggest some nice resturants and ask her opinion. Women won't admit it, but they want you to plan everything and be in control. Have a primary option and some back up plans. Pick a good Italian place, a good Sushi place, and a good "general" resturant, just to have options. Have some ideas in mind for after dinner - mini-golf is a classic, but it's winter. If she's athletic, suggest something like bowling or even Ice Skating if it's early enough. If she's very feminine, she'll probably prefer a movie. BRING MORE THAN ENOUGH CASH. I always carry $500 on every date. She's going to want to see the tip you leave - let her.

At the end of the night, say you'll call her in a couple days. If it's Friday, call Sunday. Tuesday? Call Thursday. Gauge her reaction when you say this.

If there's a second date, then you bring some flowers. Nice flowers. Girls can pick up cheap sh*t in a heartbeat.

DAMM!!!! $500 on a date. It sounds liek you are not on a date but more of a "So you looking for a DATE......." type thing. Where are you picking these girls up from

 

[Ness]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I love getting flowers,unfortunately I never get them unless I buy them for myself.

How are we supposed to know where to send them

 

[Axon]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Axon
First date - bring nothing. Gifts create pressure.

Suggest some nice resturants and ask her opinion. Women won't admit it, but they want you to plan everything and be in control. Have a primary option and some back up plans. Pick a good Italian place, a good Sushi place, and a good "general" resturant, just to have options. Have some ideas in mind for after dinner - mini-golf is a classic, but it's winter. If she's athletic, suggest something like bowling or even Ice Skating if it's early enough. If she's very feminine, she'll probably prefer a movie. BRING MORE THAN ENOUGH CASH. I always carry $500 on every date. She's going to want to see the tip you leave - let her.

At the end of the night, say you'll call her in a couple days. If it's Friday, call Sunday. Tuesday? Call Thursday. Gauge her reaction when you say this.

If there's a second date, then you bring some flowers. Nice flowers. Girls can pick up cheap sh*t in a heartbeat.

DAMM!!!! $500 on a date. It sounds liek you are not on a date but more of a "So you looking for a DATE......." type thing. Where are you picking these girls up from

I said I bring $500, not that I spend that much. A typical dinner here in NYC will run 50-80; then whatever else can cost as little as $10 or much as $100. You never know.

The last, last, last thing you want to do is run out of money. So I always bring more than I need.

 

[Corporate Thug]

first date = one flower

 

[johnjohn320]

Well, I thought I'd just give a small update if y'all happen to be interested: I went with no flowers, just decided it was a bit much for a first date, especially in high school. We had a fantastic time, definitely the best first date I've been on....probably ever.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[silverpig]

A bottle of grass stain remover for the back of her dress...

 

[tooltime]

i agree...play it cool, slow! if it's meant to be you'll have a lot of opportunities for flowers...on the other hand if you feel driven to then DO IT MAN!

 

[Tonix]

It depends on the type of girl, but if you do the rose thing, just give her one - It's inexpensive and a nice gesture.

I did it on the first real date with a girl I met on a blind date and she seemed to appreciated it - she immediately put in a vase.

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: silverpig
A bottle of grass stain remover for the back of her dress...

 

[dquan97]

of course! go for it

 

[zuljinAF]

@->-- flower for geekbabe....




Zuljin

 

[Evadman]

Originally posted by: silverpig
A bottle of grass stain remover for the back of her dress...

LMAO!

 

[The_Dude8]

give her one dead rose, and ask her, do u accept this rose, like bachcelor bob did.

johnjohn320, where did u and her go on the 1st date?

 

[IgoByte]

Just pick a single flower somewhere or buy a nice single rose or something... I think it's more effective than buying a cheap bouqet at a grocery store.