I am so sorry for your loss. While I cannot relate to the loss of a spouse, I have lost both parents (My mother less than a month ago) and can somewhat imagine how hard this is for you. You lost the love of your life, and I have lost the only true, 100% unconditional love I will ever know.
There has been a lot of loss this year. 2008 has turned out to be a fairly shitty year for both of us.
If you need someone to talk to, PM me. I'm going through a lot myself right now, but it may help to talk to someone who has had a loss recently.