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I've got this friend, we've known each other almost a decade, we're both in our mid/late twenties. I hang out with him because 50% of the great times I've had in my teens/early twenties came when we would hang out, and vice versa. He's a chill guy to hang out with. But the problem is he's an absolute sociopath at times. He always used to casually throws his friends under the bus with girls..you?d never even know he was doing it he does it so nonchalantly. . Later on he?d actually say things like, ?sorry?I mean?I didn?t know hooking up with the girl you?re taking to prom when she was drunk would piss you off?. And he?d be serious. I assume he's outgrown this, for the most part.
He also used to make plans early in the day with 3 different groups of people. He?d pick the group he felt like hanging out with, then call people from the other 2 and say something like ?yeah I?m tired, I?m just gonna go to sleep?. Then the next day if he saw anyone from the 2 groups he ditched he?d say something like, ?oh yeah man last night was crazy at this party?.
Now over the last year or two I thought he'd outgrown it. So when a room came up in the 3-man apartment I live in, I figured I'd ask if he was interested. He lives with 2 other friends of ours but expressed an interest in mixing it up and living elsewhere. 3 weeks ago he says "I like the guys I live with now but I'm sick of living with them....so yeah I looked for apartments as cheap as the one you live in, but they're all in awful neighborhoods, so if the offer still stands I'll take the room at your place. When can I move in?" I told him cool, the lease would be coming in a few weeks. So the lease comes...I tell him...and now he's doing the same shit again. He's like "oooh I think I may just stay put. I think I like it here fine. I don't think I ever actually said that I would take that room at your place anyway". Again he does this without any anger in his voice, just casually. I tell him, no, you definitely said it, I remember your specific words. He says, "oh well...sorry. Not sure what to tell you".
AAAAAAARG. I figured that by his mid-20s he'd outgrow this sociopathic, no-remorse, no-guilt screwing friends over shit. I'm pissed off because even though we have a blast when we hang out, the guy clearly can't be counted on STILL, but I don't feel like I can trust him or be his friend anymore if he seriously fucks me & my other room mate over after saying emphatically that he would take the room at our place. Now we don't have a 3rd man and might lose this apartment.
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I've got this friend, we've known each other almost a decade, we're both in our mid/late twenties. I hang out with him because 50% of the great times I've had in my teens/early twenties came when we would hang out, and vice versa. He's a chill guy to hang out with. But the problem is he's an absolute sociopath at times. He always used to casually throws his friends under the bus with girls..you?d never even know he was doing it he does it so nonchalantly. . Later on he?d actually say things like, ?sorry?I mean?I didn?t know hooking up with the girl you?re taking to prom when she was drunk would piss you off?. And he?d be serious. I assume he's outgrown this, for the most part.
He also used to make plans early in the day with 3 different groups of people. He?d pick the group he felt like hanging out with, then call people from the other 2 and say something like ?yeah I?m tired, I?m just gonna go to sleep?. Then the next day if he saw anyone from the 2 groups he ditched he?d say something like, ?oh yeah man last night was crazy at this party?.
Now over the last year or two I thought he'd outgrown it. So when a room came up in the 3-man apartment I live in, I figured I'd ask if he was interested. He lives with 2 other friends of ours but expressed an interest in mixing it up and living elsewhere. 3 weeks ago he says "I like the guys I live with now but I'm sick of living with them....so yeah I looked for apartments as cheap as the one you live in, but they're all in awful neighborhoods, so if the offer still stands I'll take the room at your place. When can I move in?" I told him cool, the lease would be coming in a few weeks. So the lease comes...I tell him...and now he's doing the same shit again. He's like "oooh I think I may just stay put. I think I like it here fine. I don't think I ever actually said that I would take that room at your place anyway". Again he does this without any anger in his voice, just casually. I tell him, no, you definitely said it, I remember your specific words. He says, "oh well...sorry. Not sure what to tell you".
AAAAAAARG. I figured that by his mid-20s he'd outgrow this sociopathic, no-remorse, no-guilt screwing friends over shit. I'm pissed off because even though we have a blast when we hang out, the guy clearly can't be counted on STILL, but I don't feel like I can trust him or be his friend anymore if he seriously fucks me & my other room mate over after saying emphatically that he would take the room at our place. Now we don't have a 3rd man and might lose this apartment.
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