Friends Dad Died - Send Dinner to His Family?

[Squisher]

Send over a clown...everybody loves clowns and it's at least as arbitrary as sending them dinner.

If they need an ass clown are you volunteering?

 

[Pepsi90919]

I'm surprised there are any smartass comments. Pretty common practice for close friends as far as I'm concerned.

As far as I am, it's pretty insane

 

[JohnCU]

I'm surprised there are any smartass comments. Pretty common practice for close friends as far as I'm concerned.

well it is ATOT

 

[Ksyder]

I'm surprised there are any smartass comments. Pretty common practice for close friends as far as I'm concerned.

I agree... I'm surprised about the smart ass comments too but, hey, I'm sure some people have never heard of doing that before.

Taking dinner over is a very nice thing to do and I can't see why anyone would have a problem with it.

 

[biggestmuff]

Sign the family up for Boys Club. Another dad will drop by.

 

[sjwaste]

Yeah, we used to do that in the neighborhood when someone had a death in the family, illness, etc. It's one of the nicer things you can do for someone going through a tough time, certainly more than some words.

 

[TheVrolok]

As far as I am, it's pretty insane

Are you confused regarding the definition of insane? I'm curious as to how accounting for some of the daily minutiae for a friend during a time of grieving .. is insane?

 

[Pepsi90919]

Are you confused regarding the definition of insane? I'm curious as to how accounting for some of the daily minutiae for a friend during a time of grieving .. is insane?

alright maybe not INSANE but maybe slightly bizzare

 

[oiprocs]

alright maybe not INSANE but maybe slightly bizzare

I think you need more Prozac. :whistle:

 

[SKORPI0]

Here's a interesting thread... Food "etiquette" after a death.

http://chowhound.chow.com/topics/569558

 

[manlymatt83]

Hey Guys -

My childhood best friends father died... Is it appropriate to send his family dinner. I know when my grandmother died we were all ordering food all the time because no one wanted to cook. I just want to do something nice for them to take a load off of them. If this isn't appropriate are there any other ideas?

Who?

 

[Mo0o]

Would you be cooking the dinner yourself? I think if it was a homecooked meal (an you were a decent cook), it would be a really nice gesture that pretty common in a lot of regions. But if you were just gonna order some delivery, I'd probably save it and just give your friend a call or meet him for a drink or something.

 

[Q]

nevermind

 

[LTC8K6]

You would normally make something yourself and take it over. But if you can't cook, it's okay to have it made, but you should take it over there yourself if that is feasible.

Here in NC, if a family member dies, you can be inundated with food.

 

[BoomerD]

It's pretty "old school," but YES, send a meal.

My neighbor's dad died about a month ago. My wife sent a large chicken caserole, a greeen salad, and a cake. To my great surprise, we were the only ones who did this.

When I was a kid, this was SOP when anyone died. Everyone prepared a dish of some sort and took it to the family.

I guess it's fallen out of style in today's faster paced world.

 

[Printer Bandit]

you're a good friend, necine.

 

[skyking]

Yes we have done that, and been on the other end of that deal. I remember when my brother died the neighbors brought food. People want to help, and at the same time are totally powerless to do anything. Truth is you don't feel much like eating at a time like this, but you feel even LESS like cooking.
It is a comfort to open the fridge up and find something.

 

[TruePaige]

It's pretty "old school," but YES, send a meal.

My neighbor's dad died about a month ago. My wife sent a large chicken caserole, a greeen salad, and a cake. To my great surprise, we were the only ones who did this.

When I was a kid, this was SOP when anyone died. Everyone prepared a dish of some sort and took it to the family.

I guess it's fallen out of style in today's faster paced world.

Sad state of events. It's basic, common courtesy to help make life a little easier so people can grieve properly.

I never thought I was old fashioned, but this is one custom I really believe in.

 

[silverpig]

Bring it over yourself if you can. Whenever something similar happens here my mom makes up a big lasagna, cooks it, then brings it over with reheating instructions.

 

[Abe Froman]

OP, this is a very thoughtful act you've done. You're a great friend, and I am sure that they recognize this.

 

[SpiderWiz]

Good gesture, but it would mean more if you brought it over yourself. It's not just making it easy that helps, it's having company to stave off the depression.

Here is you answer.