please guys, no joking around this is very serious to me.
well, i have been going out with my gf for a year and a half now, and we have been so great together. We laughed, we fought, we worked, and we did alot of other things together. I really think she is the one for me, the one to keep forever. On the other hand, she feels the same towards me, she loves me a lot, she really believe that I am like no other. But then, this past saturday we got into a conversation about prom (she is a senior in high school and i am just in college), we kind of talked about it, but i could sense something is bothering her. So i confronted her and asked what was it that is bothering her. She told me she didn't want to take me to Prom, she wants to take this other guy,...say..Mr. X... to prom. I was so upset, i felt so betrayed. I never liked Mr. X, i can say that i hate that person. Everytime i get upset is because of him. She spends time with him in school and they are good friends (she told me best friend), they do projects together and hangout together in school, and i really object to that. i don't like it at all. what makes it worse is that he used to like my gf 2 yrs ago ( i have been confirmed that he still does).
saturday ended, sunday came, she never called (shes the kind of girls that doesn't like to call or make the first move). So i called her and see whats going on. I asked her if she still wants to take him, all she told me was that she needs time to think. What? time to think? she knows that he upsets me alot, but she is still wanting to take him to prom? whats going on? so we ended the phone call shortly.
Monday came, i could not concentrate in school work, all i could think about is what happened. That night, i called her up and went over to talk to her, and wants to fix the problem. We talked for a while, then i asked her if she has feeling for Mr.X that is more than a friend. She hesitated, then softly said yes. oh my god. that was so heart shattering. i don't know what to do. i asked if she still love me, she said yes, and she said not any less. but she likes Mr. X too. She said she is really greedy, and something is up with her. to me, this behavior would make me think that person is rotten to the core. but she is my gf, i don't want to give up what we had, so i want to fix it. It makes me upset because she has to choose between us, her bf over mr. x. did all this time we have been together mean nothing to her? am i not worth choosing over? Then after a long while of talking, she insisted that she wants to go single and see how things work out, she wants to experience new things, but she still want me to be by her side. (greediness) So i said no, she is having problems with herself and she wants to work it out by herself, but i want to work with her to be with her. If we are ever broken up, things will only get worse. i convinced her that we should still be together until she can think and sought things out by herself then make the final decision.
Prom, suppose to be the highlight of all high schooler's career, has been the most dissappointing event that she has to look forward to. Its either she choose me, or she can take Mr. X, but i will leave her for good. To me, this decision would be like choosing an apple from oranges. why is it so hard?
this is really eating me from the inside, i really need the ATOT goodness to help me through this. please, this reall means alot to me.
*sorry about the spelling or grammatical errors*
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well, i have been going out with my gf for a year and a half now, and we have been so great together. We laughed, we fought, we worked, and we did alot of other things together. I really think she is the one for me, the one to keep forever. On the other hand, she feels the same towards me, she loves me a lot, she really believe that I am like no other. But then, this past saturday we got into a conversation about prom (she is a senior in high school and i am just in college), we kind of talked about it, but i could sense something is bothering her. So i confronted her and asked what was it that is bothering her. She told me she didn't want to take me to Prom, she wants to take this other guy,...say..Mr. X... to prom. I was so upset, i felt so betrayed. I never liked Mr. X, i can say that i hate that person. Everytime i get upset is because of him. She spends time with him in school and they are good friends (she told me best friend), they do projects together and hangout together in school, and i really object to that. i don't like it at all. what makes it worse is that he used to like my gf 2 yrs ago ( i have been confirmed that he still does).
saturday ended, sunday came, she never called (shes the kind of girls that doesn't like to call or make the first move). So i called her and see whats going on. I asked her if she still wants to take him, all she told me was that she needs time to think. What? time to think? she knows that he upsets me alot, but she is still wanting to take him to prom? whats going on? so we ended the phone call shortly.
Monday came, i could not concentrate in school work, all i could think about is what happened. That night, i called her up and went over to talk to her, and wants to fix the problem. We talked for a while, then i asked her if she has feeling for Mr.X that is more than a friend. She hesitated, then softly said yes. oh my god. that was so heart shattering. i don't know what to do. i asked if she still love me, she said yes, and she said not any less. but she likes Mr. X too. She said she is really greedy, and something is up with her. to me, this behavior would make me think that person is rotten to the core. but she is my gf, i don't want to give up what we had, so i want to fix it. It makes me upset because she has to choose between us, her bf over mr. x. did all this time we have been together mean nothing to her? am i not worth choosing over? Then after a long while of talking, she insisted that she wants to go single and see how things work out, she wants to experience new things, but she still want me to be by her side. (greediness) So i said no, she is having problems with herself and she wants to work it out by herself, but i want to work with her to be with her. If we are ever broken up, things will only get worse. i convinced her that we should still be together until she can think and sought things out by herself then make the final decision.
Prom, suppose to be the highlight of all high schooler's career, has been the most dissappointing event that she has to look forward to. Its either she choose me, or she can take Mr. X, but i will leave her for good. To me, this decision would be like choosing an apple from oranges. why is it so hard?
this is really eating me from the inside, i really need the ATOT goodness to help me through this. please, this reall means alot to me.
*sorry about the spelling or grammatical errors*
Creating second accounts isn't allowed here.
AnandTech Moderator