Girl Problem

[Kroze]

What would you do if you're with a girl that show you unconditional love but she's not that smart?

Like i can't normally hold a conversation with her at all. i believed in the 20 iq rule (a person cannot get along/friend with another if they have the diff of more than 20 in iq).

she have no vision or dream to better hersel (college, work)

she believed that to make more money, you just work more. currently she's working @ 2 jobs (arby & boston market)

and no vision to go to college ot better herself. she's just happy with the simple life.

i just don't know...she just show me unconditional love and that's hard to come by..

vs my ex.

 

[sixone]

If your brain needs a partner, then she's not the one for you. Nothing wrong with that. But don't drag it out for weeks, tell her straight up and now.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Is she slow, or just uneducated? Perhaps she is not yet understand the value of a college education.

 

[AdamSnow]

Originally posted by: sixone
If your brain needs a partner, then she's not the one for you. Nothing wrong with that. But don't drag it out for weeks, tell her straight up and now.

Exactly...

 

[KK]

:camera:s??

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: sixone
If your brain needs a partner, then she's not the one for you. Nothing wrong with that. But don't drag it out for weeks, tell her straight up and now.

:thumbsup: It wouldn't be fair to her to drag it out, especially if she is a nice girl.

 

[Patt]

You're not being shallow, you're realizing that an intelligent, involved conversation with her is difficult to come by, and that your goals in life are different. Good luck.

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: Kroze
she just show me unconditional love and that's hard to come by..

Pardon my harsh phrasing, but unconditional love can be found in the gaze of most any dog. Unconditional love is a great thing, but without compatibility (which it sounds like is missing from your relationship) it is not worth a whole lot.

 

[sonz70]

This is the worst, but either...see if she is only uneductaed, or just plain unintelligent, if it is the first, talk to her, if its the second, leave now. Unintelligent people seem to become more and more attached, very quickly, it will hurt her later if you do not do it now.

 

[Lola]

only you can really make that decession.
Being simple is completely different from having no drive.

I am not nearly as smart as my husband on certain levels but we can hold conversations and the like.
I guess its up to you. I do not know how you feel about her and if something like this is bothering you now, there is a good chance that it will not go away.

also, what you said "vs my ex" you should not be comaring her with an ex.

 

[crystal]

Education is overated. Getting a degree will not guarantee you a good job or that you will be happy with job. BTW, there is no way one could know/learn everything there is.
The important question is, do you love her? Are you able to talk/discuss...

 

[Ares2600]

Just the fact that you're contemplating this probably means that she's not for you. Usually people that are 'borderline' incompatible in this regard wouldn't even admit it to themselves. I was with an idiot for 7 years because she was hot and it was comfortable/convenient. Like they said, if it's just lack of experience then encourage her to move forward. If it's really that she just can't keep up with you, then end it. The latter is likely considering they way you've described it.

EDIT: Crystal is right too... I'm not just talking about the college degree. I'm talking about the ambition and ability to hold a conversation that interests you.

 

[sonz70]

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Kroze
she just show me unconditional love and that's hard to come by..

Pardon my harsh phrasing, but unconditional love can be found in the gaze of most any dog. Unconditional love is a great thing, but without compatibility (which it sounds like is missing from your relationship) it is not worth a whole lot.

My dog loves me..but...not that kinda love :shocked:

 

[Feldenak]

I could not be with a girl that is not intellectually stimulating in a relationship. For that, I am eternally grateful for my wife. She's a smart cookie...even if I have to kinda just nod my head when she starts talking about PCRs, capillary arrays, etc...

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: sonz70

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Kroze
she just show me unconditional love and that's hard to come by..

Pardon my harsh phrasing, but unconditional love can be found in the gaze of most any dog. Unconditional love is a great thing, but without compatibility (which it sounds like is missing from your relationship) it is not worth a whole lot.

My dog loves me..but...not that kinda love :shocked:

He can't afford you.

 

[cherrytwist]

I misread shallow as swallow.

*slowly backs out of thread*

 

[MaxDepth]

Can you transform this unrefined, dirty Cockney flower girl into a lady, Professor Henry Higgins?

 

[nakedfrog]

If you're having girl problems, I feel bad for you, son.
Sounds like you're not happy, though, I don't really know that it's an issue of shallowness.

 

[rh71]

You have the answer to this as you're the only one who knows why she's showing you unconditional love. A person like her would likely do the same to someone else who shows any interest in them in the first place to keep them around. So if you can tell that's true, then this "unconditional love" really doesn't mean much... and obviously you could cut ties with less guilt.

 

[Kroze]

how shallow am if i told her...yea i can't see you anymore because i need someone smarter

 

[rondor]

After reading the original post, I find it hard to believe you would have any concern about another individual's intelligence. Your post is full of grammatical errors and your sentence structure is unbelieveable. People in glass houses...

Unconditional love is NOT that hard to come by. Check out God's love for you. Having a relationship with someone you obviously consider inferior to you will not work, even if she loves you unconditionally.

 

[PurdueRy]

Originally posted by: Kroze
What would you do if you're with a girl that show you unconditional love but she's not that smart?

Like i can't normally hold a conversation with her at all. i believed in the 20 iq rule (a person cannot get along/friend with another if they have the diff of more than 20 in iq).

she have no vision or dream to better hersel (college, work)

she believed that to make more money, you just work more. currently she's working @ 2 jobs (arby & boston market)

and no vision to go to college ot better herself. she's just happy with the simple life.

i just don't know...she just show me unconditional love and that's hard to come by..

vs my ex.

Are you sure her IQ is lower than yours? Seems like English isn't your thing...

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Kroze
how shallow am if i told her...yea i can't see you anymore because i need someone smarter

Don't do that. The problem is that you need someone who shares your ambition and desire to improve yourself - and that's what you tell her.

 

[Saint Nick]

PoB

well, tell her whats on your mind, that would be best.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: rondor
After reading the original post, I find it hard to believe you would have any concern about another individual's intelligence. Your post is full of grammatical errors and your sentence structure is unbelieveable. People in glass houses...

Unconditional love is NOT that hard to come by. Check out God's love for you. Having a relationship with someone you obviously consider inferior to you will not work, even if she loves you unconditionally.

*waves to rondor through his house*