Give me tips on HOW to slow down my relationship.. we are going way too fast.

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: schizoid
I almost touched a girls boobs once.

.......wow....

 

[tantos]

Koing, who the F*ck cares about your body man.

 

[BoberFett]

I used to think it was just because you're a foreigner. Now I know you're fricking retarded GoodGuy.

If this woman is really madly in love with you, then there's something seriously wrong with her. So please, for the love of god, both of you get sterilized if you do decide to have sex. We don't need Bride of GoodGuy using your seed to bring more of your kind into this world.

 

[Tsaico]

Woah hey all.... I know I threw in my jab at TGG, but he is a nice guy. I have met him a few times and he has never done anything but be helpful and kind to everybody he runs into. Don't trash him as far as to say he he has no taste in women, is ugly, and or should be sterilized.

 

[The Stigenator]

I just re-read 10 pages of posts.. and I missed a few things.

first I am 23, she is 20. Yes she is in love with me, she had a long time crush on me and she liked me but she put me off effectively by saying she was still in love with her ex. I took that into consideration for a long time until I noticed suttle hints from her, and that's when i repursued her to see if there was anything there. Initially she said there was nothing there but two days later she took that all back by kissing me. She was scared, scared for several reasons - because she knows we are moving away from each other in teh fall etc etc. For one she wasnt scared of dating someone who isnt from her background. Which is very good for me because she is very open about things.

Frankly I must say that I lost all confidence inmyself after the fact that she totally denied teasing me into getting attracted in her. I thought i was loosing my mind for all this time she was doing all this cutesy things just so to get my attention and now she was denying it all.. well two days later things changed and now my confidence level has gone back to full.. Koing is right.. I was feeling really really depressed with my love / dating life. I mean I ended up with so many "girl friends" but never a girlfriend. It seemed girls liked to have me as their friend and never really wanted me upfront.

One difference between vanessa and the other girls.. I told her upfront that if things change.. she has to let me know up front with no games.. and her way of letting me know was either to talk to me and kiss me.. well she ended up kissing me and doing the talking later. I then realised that lots of girls in teh past probably were shy also about things... they probably liked me but denied things. Well I cant mourn after them because i really dont give a flying fsck.

Things between vanessa and I are really good now. We talked things out and are taking it slower than what ended up on thursday night. She met my parents, and they like her. Her parents like me already though they did give me the "talk". The talk ofcourse consisted stuff like if I got her pregnent then what will be the only way out etc etc. Since she and I have talked about sex much before her parents gave me the talk I just basically told them not to worry and even so if things happen we would make sure that pregnency is not one of aftereffects of things. At this point we are just rediscovering ourselves.. I think I was a bit scared over things.. having talked to my friends I have to say they got me back on the right track of things. Yes I wanted to back out.. because I was afraid about a lot of things. But I think at this point she and I agreed that she wont push me into things and we woudl take it slow. She is a very loving and understanding girl. Which girl do you know will sacrifice seeing a girly movie just so she can go see biker boyz with her biker boyfriend. I woudlnt have mind seeing that girly movie but she insisted on this .. and since my mind wasnt made up I just took her pick.

Koing, Taisco and others.. thanks for staying by me guys..

 

[KEV1N]

I'm trying to read your posts but all I can see is "balblablabalbalbalbalblablablablaba". You are seriously the worst.

By the way most complaining is really boasting.

 

[T2T III]

Some tips (if they haven't been posted already):

1) Stay in public with your relationship. However, people have been know to have articles of clothing removed in public. :Q

2) Repeat to yourself constantly during your date: "Down Willy."

You should be fine.

 

[Mookow]

Originally posted by: bolido2000
You basically are saying you don't want to lose your virginity anytime soon, right?

Then do the same as other girls and bang her blackhole instead of the "right" hole and voila!! you are still technically a virgin!

linked!

 

[iispeedyii]

Good guys finish last.

 

[SnapIT]

I can't believe how this thread about this guy who doesn't want to have sex can go on an on and on and on and on....


*SCREAMS*

 

[dejacky]

first, FART
second, $TAB HER!

 

[Night201]

Originally posted by: Mrfrog840

Originally posted by: joshsquall I want to never hear this again from a guy. Josh

complaining about a girl that comes on to you?

Sounds more like he was "coming" onto her...

Now go clean up that car! That's an order!

 

[Muse]

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: Muse
I haven't read the whole thread, maybe the first 25 posts, but I want to say something. I think you guys should realize that what is right for this guy may not be right for you. It's not all that easy to put yourself in his shoes. Every situation is different. For some reason, and it's complicated by who HE is, AND who SHE is, he's nervous about what's going on, he feels things are spiraling out of control. It bothers me that some people just tell him to take it all casually. He asked for ways to slow down the heated up situation. I don't think you should put him down and I'm hesitant to second guess his motivations or what's really going on. I'm sure he knows some ways to slow things down, but for some reason he went here for advice.

You must've missed all the other posts where he's complained about not getting any and now that he is, he's complaining about that, too.

I never got into so much trouble as when my motivation was to get over my virginity. I know it's not the same for everybody, but I'd say beware.

 

[Muse]

Originally posted by: The_good_guy
i agree with muse on things.. because that's what I came here for..

this is an area i have never been before.. needless to say last nights meeting with her family wasnt all on a silver platter.. i was grilled on the fact that if I get her pregnent i would have to marry her etcetfc.. all the more why sex isnt part of the equation... and why i want to delay this as much as possible...

she is totally in love with me.. and unfortunatley i cant say the same for me.

Oh well I will take it day at a time.. i dont want to rush into things so fast.. and while i feel like backing out i dont want to be like a bitch and make her hate men all her life.

I would gracefully retreat, no question about it. After a meeting like that with the family, as you describe it (!) you should cool it. Move on. Don't be in such a big hurry. Get your feet under you and hopefully next time you (and she, yeah a different she) will be more ready. I don't normally do the Ann Landers thing, but this one looks clear enough to me. Personally, I'd get as cold as an icecube after the family laying down the law like that.

 

[Mrpilot007]

I think that the problem with relationships these days is that people treat them like a marriage. When you are dating you are dating. Dont let her even try to control you, if so, you walk and don't look back. Because one day you will end up happily divorced.

If you are not ready for marriage then just take this one as a learning experience and see where you can go with it. But remember once you cross the line there is no turning back! Because neither one of you will want to stop

 

[JOSEPHLB]

LOL

man... just get laid already...

 

[MuffD]

You should show this to your chick and see what she thinks
BTW, don't forget..."Oral is not immoral"

 

[NutBucket]

Hey bro. Nice job landing the girl. But screw what some of these @sshats are saying. They'd give up a nut to be in your place. Just do what feels right and leave it at that. Who cares what anyone else thinks. I will say this; In my experience, the girls my parents like end up being great, the ones they don't like end up being a pain

 

[BoberFett]

Originally posted by: NutBucket
... But screw what some of these @sshats are saying. They'd give up a nut to be in your place.

Anybody who is in Good Guys position has already given up their nuts.

 

[BD231]

How do you slow things down? No is a good start dude, if your to uncomfortable to say that just use humor to calm things down.

 

[beefjerky911]

are you gay? if you wanna slow down keep the clothes on you idiot

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Mwilding
TGG ...

About time this got brought up again.

- M4H

 

[element]

Is she chasing you with a strap on or something? Dood resist the snausage!

Run Forrest RUN!