Yeah his mom just died and their funeral is tommorrow.
I'm going to the funeral, which he'll most likely be there.
It's going to be a very awkward moment, and I can't think of anything to say to him yet..
UPDATE:
Here's a long regurgitation of everything I remembered there.
I went to the funeral, and he was there. Before seeing him, I was pretty emotionless about it. But once I saw him.. all my emotions came in, and I just thought about how it would have been like to have a dad. Tears streamed down my face for a few minutes.
Afterwards, when he went up to his mom's casket, I noticed that he was carrying a little boy in front of him(around 7). At this point, my heart began pounding fast and heavy at the thought of having a little brother and from the anticipation of his reaction when I tell him that I'm his son.
Later he walks out to talk to relatives/friends. I see the boy alone, so I asked him if that guy he was with is his dad. And he says yes. It was a bit of a shock to know that I still have a younger sibling. I kinda wanted a little brother, and I wanted to be his friend.
My sister walked out to talk to our "DNA donor", and I followed her. My aunt that I met 5 years ago came out and introduced my sis and I to him, since he obviously doesn't recognize us. His first reaction was to his arms around my mom and my sister. My sister quickly dodged away with disgust. Then my sister said to him, I'm just here to remind you that you still have a daughter, and a son. She briefly walked away afterwards.
He approached me next while we were by the door about to leave, and my mind just went blank. He came off with an apologetic tone. He said owes my sister and I more than he could ever repay. He tells me that he cannot explain the reason why he left us, and it's the past anyways so he doesn't want to discuss it.
Then he starts bullsh!tting to cover himself. He says that he misses us, and he even has pictures of us by his bed. Then he says that it was my mom's fault that she took the kids without his consent and that there's nothing he could have done for us.
While he says all of this, my mom is standing next to me. So you can probably imagine that she goes into a rage, a pandemonium. She starts rebutting the BS that he said. She refutes that he could have at least paid child support(he is pretty wealthy considering his occupation).
Upon hearing this, he raises his voice and says.. oh so you came here to ask for money huh? My mom and my sister comes to defend, and says that we just came to show that he still has two kids that he hasn?t met in 17 years. We tell him that we are leaving, and we walk out.
He follows us out while we walk to the car. By now, everyone has heard my mom screaming and follows us out also. My aunt that introduced us earlier yells at my mom for making the scene. My mom yells back in defense that my dad should be responsible for his kids.
The aunt begins to get violent here and she swings her purse at my mom. My mom gets pissed off and swings her purse back. Everyone is comes to break it up. But then the grandma?s youngest son comes to attack my mom. He slaps her on the face. I get outraged by this and I get ready to punch him on the face. Then all of the sudden, I get pulled back by my dad, which I quickly push him away.
By now, this big guy that works at the cemetery tells everyone to break it up, and they stopped. We left after that.
Cliffs
Dad showed up and he was apologetic. Although he started BSing to justify himself, and make himself look innocent. My mom standing next to me heard it, and got pissed off. She yelled at him for about 30 seconds and we leave..
Then as we are about to get onto the car, his sister comes(my aunt), and swings her purse at my mom. Then she retaliates and swings her purse back, and a few more family members joins into the brawl. A big guy that works at the cemetary came to break it up. No one really gets hurt badly, except my mom has a pretty sore face from getting slapped by his brother. We go home and will probably never see him again.
I'm going to the funeral, which he'll most likely be there.
It's going to be a very awkward moment, and I can't think of anything to say to him yet..
UPDATE:
Here's a long regurgitation of everything I remembered there.
I went to the funeral, and he was there. Before seeing him, I was pretty emotionless about it. But once I saw him.. all my emotions came in, and I just thought about how it would have been like to have a dad. Tears streamed down my face for a few minutes.
Afterwards, when he went up to his mom's casket, I noticed that he was carrying a little boy in front of him(around 7). At this point, my heart began pounding fast and heavy at the thought of having a little brother and from the anticipation of his reaction when I tell him that I'm his son.
Later he walks out to talk to relatives/friends. I see the boy alone, so I asked him if that guy he was with is his dad. And he says yes. It was a bit of a shock to know that I still have a younger sibling. I kinda wanted a little brother, and I wanted to be his friend.
My sister walked out to talk to our "DNA donor", and I followed her. My aunt that I met 5 years ago came out and introduced my sis and I to him, since he obviously doesn't recognize us. His first reaction was to his arms around my mom and my sister. My sister quickly dodged away with disgust. Then my sister said to him, I'm just here to remind you that you still have a daughter, and a son. She briefly walked away afterwards.
He approached me next while we were by the door about to leave, and my mind just went blank. He came off with an apologetic tone. He said owes my sister and I more than he could ever repay. He tells me that he cannot explain the reason why he left us, and it's the past anyways so he doesn't want to discuss it.
Then he starts bullsh!tting to cover himself. He says that he misses us, and he even has pictures of us by his bed. Then he says that it was my mom's fault that she took the kids without his consent and that there's nothing he could have done for us.
While he says all of this, my mom is standing next to me. So you can probably imagine that she goes into a rage, a pandemonium. She starts rebutting the BS that he said. She refutes that he could have at least paid child support(he is pretty wealthy considering his occupation).
Upon hearing this, he raises his voice and says.. oh so you came here to ask for money huh? My mom and my sister comes to defend, and says that we just came to show that he still has two kids that he hasn?t met in 17 years. We tell him that we are leaving, and we walk out.
He follows us out while we walk to the car. By now, everyone has heard my mom screaming and follows us out also. My aunt that introduced us earlier yells at my mom for making the scene. My mom yells back in defense that my dad should be responsible for his kids.
The aunt begins to get violent here and she swings her purse at my mom. My mom gets pissed off and swings her purse back. Everyone is comes to break it up. But then the grandma?s youngest son comes to attack my mom. He slaps her on the face. I get outraged by this and I get ready to punch him on the face. Then all of the sudden, I get pulled back by my dad, which I quickly push him away.
By now, this big guy that works at the cemetery tells everyone to break it up, and they stopped. We left after that.
Cliffs
Dad showed up and he was apologetic. Although he started BSing to justify himself, and make himself look innocent. My mom standing next to me heard it, and got pissed off. She yelled at him for about 30 seconds and we leave..
Then as we are about to get onto the car, his sister comes(my aunt), and swings her purse at my mom. Then she retaliates and swings her purse back, and a few more family members joins into the brawl. A big guy that works at the cemetary came to break it up. No one really gets hurt badly, except my mom has a pretty sore face from getting slapped by his brother. We go home and will probably never see him again.