Good Deed and then Brag

[mitchelt]

I read a post a friend of mine put on Facebook were they say:

"I did a good deed today by giving the trash man a tip so they could have lunch on me today...what good deed have you done?"

I think the best good deeds are the ones you do because it makes someone else feel better and not to make yourself feel or look better.

What do you think?

 

[TuxDave]

I think the best good deeds are the ones that are done and not just thought about. Brag or not, a good deed was done.

 

[balloonshark]

I totally agree with you! I'm getting tired of seeing "Tipping a waitress $200" and similar videos on youtube.

It makes me lose faith in humanity but I know there are plenty of people who help out others on a daily basis and don't need recognition for it. These are the real heros.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

i dont believe in altruism, people always do things for selfish reasons. at the end of the day they did something nice so why are people bitching?

 

[SKORPI0]

No need to brag about any good deed you've done. Those who do are just people who seek attention, "Hey look what I did today". :\

 

[Tweak155]

I bought my waitress a shot last weekend because she looked down and out. It perked her right up.

Maybe he's trying to promote a pay it forward?

 

[natto fire]

I read a post a friend of mine put on Facebook were they say:

"I did a good deed today by giving the trash man a tip so they could have lunch on me today...what good deed have you done?"

I think the best good deeds are the ones you do because it makes someone else feel better and not to make yourself feel or look better.

What do you think?

Judging by your post count, you haven't got in on this new "be as loud as possible without thinking about content" craze.

They wanted to double-dip, feeling good for giving the money and feeling smug on the internet. Plain and simple.

 

[PottedMeat]

you're supposed to respond

'i took some cash out of the tip jar when the cashier wasn't lookin to balance things out'

 

[Dirigible]

I think you need to stop using facebook. Then you won't see annoying crap like that.

 

[KidNiki1]

i dont believe in altruism, people always do things for selfish reasons. at the end of the day they did something nice so why are people bitching?

+1

so what? they did something good.

 

[z1ggy]

Garbage men get tips??

 

[Ricochet]

I bought my waitress a shot last weekend because she looked down and out. It perked her right up.

Maybe he's trying to promote a pay it forward?

No good deeds go unpunished. Your waitress got fired.

 

[lxskllr]

They wanted to double-dip, feeling good for giving the money and feeling smug on the internet. Plain and simple.

^^^This

It's bad form bragging about how awesome you are. The net good got an overall raise, but not as high as it would be if the person just STFU. I'd just accept it as notice that person isn't someone I really want to hang out with.

 

[NFS4]

Garbage men get tips??

 

[slag]

No need to brag about any good deed you've done. Those who do are just people who seek attention, "Hey look what I did today". :\

Yes, and no. I see it also as maybe it will spur someone else to do a good deed. 2 good deads is better than 1, right?

 

[Fritzo]

This is similar to the "humblebrag".

The same type of people tend to do both. "Hi...I'm Mr NeedValidation..."

 

[TecHNooB]

on the flip side, denying your impulses can make you feel sick.

 

[lxskllr]

Yes, and no. I see it also as maybe it will spur someone else to do a good deed. 2 good deads is better than 1, right?

It's a matter of phrasing. I encourage people to donate to projects they appreciate without saying what I did. Give a good argument why people should do something, and your own actions are irrelevant.

 

[thraashman]

I've considered posting on Facebook about the different charities I donate to hoping to get others to feel compelled to look into charitable donations themselves, but it always feels like it'd be bragging that I donate to charities.

 

[DrPizza]

The funny thing - some garbage men make more money than the OP's friend probably does. Do a google for salaries, and you'll see there's a lot of variation. In some states, they barely make more than minimum wage. But, in some areas of the country, salaries of $75k or more are common. (And, often, with great pension benefits.)

 

[KeithTalent]

I totally posted in this thread today. You're welcome OP.

KT

 

[lozina]

I taught a man how to fish, so he may be fed for a lifetime

 

[Juddog]

If it came down to either more good deeds coupled with posts on facebook versus less good deeds, I'd go with the more good deeds coupled with facebook posts every single time.

 

[_Rick_]

My good deed for today was posting in this thread without making a fuss. You may applaud me now. Thank you.

 

[SlitheryDee]

I never bother anyone. I never ask anyone for anything without appropriate compensation. I don't try to stop anyone from doing anything that doesn't directly affect me. I don't whine. I don't lie. I don't cheat. I don't steal. I put far more into society than I take out of it.

I don't do any good deeds though. Then again, I think most good deeds are really just token gestures people make in order to live with the shitty behavior they engage in the rest of their lives while still believing they are decent people. Maybe I'm too cynical.