- Sep 20, 2007
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Spent the better half of my weekend cleaning out my grandma's (mom's mom) back garden yesterday. Used to be beautiful and well kept but it has become a jungle. Beds had be taken over by deadly nightshade and some other unidentified weeds. We filled four yard waste bags with weeds alone. Still not done but at least done enough for now.
We're in a bit of a conundrum over what to do with her house. She's turning 89 next month. Still mentally all there and still mobile. However, the house is starting to be way too much for her. It's a semi about the size of your typical town house. Back split so it has a lot of stairs. Built in the 1960 so it's getting old, and has a fairly large garden.
The house needs a lot of work. Kitchen and basement need to be renovated. The roof was leaking, again. Now she's got mice in the basement. She's starting to struggle with basic upkeep such as cleaning. It's obvious she's worried about it. She's not eating peoperly.
It's starting to become a major issue for us. That generation thinks you should be there every day to care for them, but that's just not possible. She lives out the other end of the city so it's a hike through heavy traffic getting there. I work and my mom is too busy taking care of my parents house. It's gotten to the point where we can't supplement anymore because there's just too much that needs to be done.
My dad thinks she should move into a seniors apartment like his mom did. However, my grandma has flat out refused to leave her house. We finally did get here to get someone in to cut the grass, but they don't weed or anything. If she could just get someone in to prepare meals and clean she'd be fine. But... She doesn't like strangers around the house. She was complaining this weekend about the grass guy coming too early. It's not a money thing, she can pay for help. She just doesn't want it. Besides, even if we did get her to move, there are no senior places available.
Another thing that bothers me is that she lives alone. She has a neighbour that keeps an eye on her. She can still move around but she has fallen a couple of times. Me fear is if she falls and nobody is there. We and the neigbours can't watch her 24/7.
Anybody else in this situation? Please share your stories. I'm at a loss.
Cliffs
-gran is 89, lives alone, can no longer the care of house
-is worrying herself sick because of it
-refuses to move, refuses to get people in to help her
-we can no longer help her and take care of ourselves at the same time, job is just become too out of hand.
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We're in a bit of a conundrum over what to do with her house. She's turning 89 next month. Still mentally all there and still mobile. However, the house is starting to be way too much for her. It's a semi about the size of your typical town house. Back split so it has a lot of stairs. Built in the 1960 so it's getting old, and has a fairly large garden.
The house needs a lot of work. Kitchen and basement need to be renovated. The roof was leaking, again. Now she's got mice in the basement. She's starting to struggle with basic upkeep such as cleaning. It's obvious she's worried about it. She's not eating peoperly.
It's starting to become a major issue for us. That generation thinks you should be there every day to care for them, but that's just not possible. She lives out the other end of the city so it's a hike through heavy traffic getting there. I work and my mom is too busy taking care of my parents house. It's gotten to the point where we can't supplement anymore because there's just too much that needs to be done.
My dad thinks she should move into a seniors apartment like his mom did. However, my grandma has flat out refused to leave her house. We finally did get here to get someone in to cut the grass, but they don't weed or anything. If she could just get someone in to prepare meals and clean she'd be fine. But... She doesn't like strangers around the house. She was complaining this weekend about the grass guy coming too early. It's not a money thing, she can pay for help. She just doesn't want it. Besides, even if we did get her to move, there are no senior places available.
Another thing that bothers me is that she lives alone. She has a neighbour that keeps an eye on her. She can still move around but she has fallen a couple of times. Me fear is if she falls and nobody is there. We and the neigbours can't watch her 24/7.
Anybody else in this situation? Please share your stories. I'm at a loss.
Cliffs
-gran is 89, lives alone, can no longer the care of house
-is worrying herself sick because of it
-refuses to move, refuses to get people in to help her
-we can no longer help her and take care of ourselves at the same time, job is just become too out of hand.
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