I can relate to this problem. Its not anything to do with you.. its the girl.
I am not bashing any of the women on this board, but just telling it like how I see it.
I am fortunate enough to drive several cars, a BMW is one of them in the stable. Yet I am not rich. I do not consider myself wealthy, however just because I do drive a BMW once in a while I am classifed rich. Yes I like to take it out once in a while, but the car's not mine. The car is registered to my brother. Infact my toyota (my daily driver) is also registered to my brother. The only thing that is registered to me is my motorcycle.
Anyway people see the BMW keys in my key chain and go "oh you have a BMW? What year is it?.. etc .. etc".. its like having the BMW puts me in the higher income range. The only reason we can afford toys is by strategic financial planning and its subquent execution.
Anyway back to topic. When I joined college, lots of girls were not interested in me, I used to drive the toyota every where and I never got the look. One day I happened to drive the BMW to school, and someone saw it. Next thing I know women were trying to get to know me and be all friendly.
Now most women in the age group of 16-21 are not yet mature in their thinking. While some dont want playa's, they all want "a knight in shining armor".. and the fact that someone drives a nice car makes the knight in shining armour. So much of this world is based on what you do and what you drive that the reality of a person is lost. I remember girls asking me stuff about if I was rich or not. Yes they come from middle class family and the fact that there is someone around them who makes money they automatically become their prince. As I said, I am not rich.. since the defination is not solid, and I have always classifed myself to come from an upper middle class family.
So far I have stayed away from these kinds of women. They can be friends, and if their attitude towards me is genuine and not towards the car, I might even take them for a ride.
The whole point I want to make is that the perception of what a woman thinks can be all so true when you visit one of these sites where women are seeking men, for example
www.love.com . Most women go like "Be my knight in shining armour" or "Where is my prince" or what not.. and then you go to sites like
www.collegeclub.com and look up the match-u profiles. See their best date section. While most women havent had a best date, guess what they all want the guy to pay at an expensive restaurant, a moon light beach walk. I swear its true, go check for yourself.
As best put in the book called "A guys guide to dating Women", "Women are cats, if they were bigger they would eat us".
..that means.......Women who have grown up playing with barbie toys and watching little mermaid grew up to be reading books like " Mills and Boons " and ended up fantasizing that their grown up lives would be very similar to it.
Now as for scrapster's question, I may not agree with lykis 101, but in this case showing them that your not a nice person will help them think of you more.. show them your a bad boy and they will come. Being nice to a 16 yr old wont help
Note: the "Mills and Boons" portion of it.. I cant rmemeber the book.. I will try and find it and replace it in a few minutes.