Happiest moment of your life~~

[Isla]

TRP....

It's not that I don't think weddings are beautiful... I do!

I just got so nervous before mine I ended up w/ diarrhea.

 

[Isla]

Unexpur8d....


Nothing could possibly beat that. Thank God Almighty is all I have to say....

 

[Locutus of Board]

Every time I go to hit that reply button.

 

[Athanasius]

About bloody, squirming babies:

My wife and I have been blessed with birthing five children. . .

Child #1: Perfect baby boy. Tears of joy.

Child#2: Petite, five pound girl who came through last minute complications unharmed. Tears of relief and joy.

Child #3: Beautiful baby boy. Tears of joy.

Child #4: Precious baby girl. Died in last few hours of the delivery process. No medical tests revealed any problems. Stillborn. Saddest day of my life. As the Red Hot Chili Peppers sang, "I don't EVER want to feel like I did that day."

Child #5: Healthy baby boy born after multiple life threatening complications and hospital stays. The sorrow of the loss of our precious girl only multiplied the joy of the birth of this child.


Lesson learned: Tears of sorrow can actually water the soul for a harvest of more highly appreciated joy later on.

 

[Yeeny]

unxpurg8d: Oh, you must have been so shocked to hear that laugh. Hopefully I will never know how that feels, I could not even imagine. And stop laughing at me, I do have a maternal side occasionally. Like when they are sleeping, or spending the night at grandma's. Then they just seem to be so special to me...

 

[Total Refected Power]

Athanasius:

I give you a lot of credit in your situation with your stillborn child. My sister-in law had a stillborn boy almost 2 years ago and just had TRIPLETTS!!!!!!!!. However, they are still grieving over the child they lost. I hope I never understand such grief but their attitude still troubles us from time to time. They have such a strong desire to keep the memory alive that they had another son that it is quite sad.

 

[Isla]

<< Lesson learned: Tears of sorrow can actually water the soul for a harvest of more highly appreciated joy later on. >>



True, true... I'm bawling my eyes out now, but I know this is true...

 

[Raspewtin]

This may sound a bit religious, but for me the happiest moment of my life was I first really understood what Buddha was teaching. It really gave me a happiness I never even knew was possible.

 

[Isla]

From Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet, which I highly recommend... Every single chapter goes deep and rings true...

On Joy and Sorrow

...your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the self-same well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.

And how else can it be?

The deeper the sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?

And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?

When you are joyous, look deep in your heart and you shall find that is is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, &quot;Joy is greater than sorrow&quot; and others say &quot;Nay,sorrow is the greater&quot;

But I say unto you, they are inseparable.

Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.

Only when you are empty are you at a standstill and balanced.

When the Treasure Keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.

 

[unxpurg8d]

I think Athanasius highlighted the whole real point about happiness - that until you've known real sorrow and loss you probably won't appreciate the happier moments in life as fully. I know I took a lot of things other people would've been thrilled about for granted until I learned what real pain was.


If you're having trouble being happy why not concentrate on making OTHER people happy instead? Try donating time at a senior center, nursing home, homeless shelter, etc. I've found that I'm usually happiest when I'm doing something for someone else and see how happy they are that someone thought enough about them to give their time. Weird how that works.

 

[Optimus]

The night after the birth of my daughter - my wonderful, beautiful wife and I sat together holding this tiny, perfect little life we had made in our arms.

We had had some slight complications at the delivery (she came out &quot;shocky&quot, but all was fine after a minute or two - still, they had to wisk her over to an incubator because thats policy. I followed (my wife wanted me to) and I stood in the Critical care nursery surrounded by premies, sick babies, and worried, tired parents. Some babies had been there weeks/months due to premature births. And there, in an incubator in the corner, was my daughter. She was the only one not either crying or sleeping - she was just looking. I stood at the glass and looked into her eyes and she simply looked right back into mine. She was so awake and alert from day one! As I looked into her little eyes - I said, simply, &quot;Hi.&quot;

And promptly burst into tears.

Less than an hour later, the nurses brought her back to our room (she was completely fine) and we were a family.

 

[starlitt]

Happiest? To many to count, I know its more then my fingers and toes

 

[MuffD]

First was my bachelor party, then my wedding day, then finding out I was gonna be a father for the first time

 

[Athanasius]

Isla:

Good words. In biblical tradition, the Gentle Man of Sorrows is the Source of Happiness. Or in the words of Job, &quot;Shall I accept good (&quot;positive experiences/emotions) form the LORD and not evil (negative experiences/emotions). Only when I can receive both can I be free to love God/The Good for who He Is and not for what I feel like he gives or I feel like He takes. When I love the Truly Good simply because it is truly good, then I am assured true happiness.

In my opinion, most people are caught between what they think is &quot;good&quot; or &quot;right&quot; and what they think will make them happy. In accepting that false divide, we doom ourselves to being neither good nor happy, since both attributes derive from the same Source.


Raspewtin:

The Four Tenets of Buddhism, or the Eightfold Path referenced in the fourth tenet, are things that probably every reputable religion in the world would accept as having merit.

 

[theplanb]

I'm so tired now.. tired of living that is. I wish I was never born..
(yeah.. if my mom knew how I feel right now, she would be very angry..)
I'm looking for an answer but I don't remember what the question was any more.
The hopeless, helpless, meaningless, life of mine doesn't know how to get back on the track. I thought I believed in god, thought I knew him.. but now come to think of it, it was all a lie. The only thing kept me going was the satisfaction I get from helping friends.. but I'm tired it as well.
The fear of failure.. inherited from my parents is finally taking its toll.
The fear to be happy.. the fear of failing to be happy.. the fear of consequence after being happy.. I can't let myself to be happy..
I know the only one person who can help me up.. but the person is too tired..after years of denying his own happiness...
wow.. that was so.. depressing... sorry guys.. I hope you didn't read this..

 

[shiznut123]

when i got a p3 computer

 

[Weyoun]

theplanb

i generally feel the exact same way about life. Fear of going further then i have already come, could lead to the point where i wouldn't be able to come back to my previous existance. This is what's holding me back from doing things. The point of my life just left for another country, she was and still is my best friend, even if we didn't talk often. What she gave me was something far greater than anyone else had ever given - someone to strive to be friends with, someone to be alike, someone who would truly understand, instead of just saying 'Tough sh!t kid, get over it'. Now, in her absense i can only think of the times I had wronged her - how i could have made the short time we had better, and now knowing that you can't do a damn thing about it.

Ever since we had become friends my life became her, i learned off her every day, the way she thinks, why she thinks that, her actions, and her conclusions about life. I had never met someone so ALIKE and RIGHT in her conclusions in my entire life. She thought perfectly, she acted perfectly, justified everything she did, yet still managed to have a sense of fun. This is the one thing i lacked. Fun. As she became my life, everything in it's place slowly moved out. Computers, my 'friends', my thoughts. And just at the time when my feelings for her were at greatest, away she went. My life went with her.

Now, i build my life around a memory, but a picture of someone i knew, and try to make her proud in what she would have wanted. It's very hard to have someone that was so close, so loved by me for the person she truly was and is, to live on, but only in my head, at least in my existance.

So happiness? No, with her coming invalidated my 'happiness' because all previous happiness was but a false illusion. I was truly happy to know her, that is my last and only happiness. But knowing her has also brought saddness and sorrow, although that sorrow is welcome, for it brought psychological change to me.

 

[sweetrobin]

I would say the happiest moment in my life was the day that E_mc_2 asked me to marry him. The next happiest moment in my life was the first time we kissed. It fell like coming home. It felt like we had kissed a thousand times before and we were meant to do so a thousand more. I knew that I had found the person I had been searching for my whole life.

 

[Raspewtin]

Athanasius


I agree re: Buddhism. To me, it's remarkably straightforward, providing profound insight with a gentle persuasiveness.

 

[nateholtrop]

Shiznut you are a simpel person arent you.


Mine would be when I finally got to drive my first car and it was in my name.

Nate

 

[Sunny129]

theplanb and Weyoun, i was just wondering your ages? depending on age, some would say you're too young to feel this way about life. i try not to get too personal in the forums, but i hate to hear from people that they are tired of life. an ex-girlfriend of mine said that once, and i later found out after we broke up that she had suicide motives...good thing she's OK now. but you never know what people are implying when they say that they are tired of life. i cant pick out the happiest days of my life b/c there are too many to remember, but i can tell you that being w/ my GF truly makes me happy. she is away at school right now and so am i, which puts us hundreds of miles apart. but we spent winter break together, and i was happy just to be in her presence...just to have her around. her presence is all it took to make me happy. it doesnt matter what we are doing, i'm happy. i have to say i miss her alot when she's not around, but i have friends at school, and they make me happy. there is happiness everywhere, and if you've succeeded in not finding, then i have to give you props, b/c that isnt an easy feat. there must be something that makes you happy, b/c it isnt healthy to be unhappy all the time, let alone not be able to recall one time that you were truly happy...

 

[Weyoun]

Sunny129

With saying that it has to do with age, there is some validity to the statement, as i dont exactly regard my existance as the most experienced out there. I'm just over 16.5 years old. To my eyes, which may be limited, yes, because of my lack of experience, I can't see an end to this. My feelings for her are still as great as ever, yet I have countless people telling me I ought to, to quote, 'forget her and move on'. I have NO intention of doing this unless it is to her wish, as it wouldn't be anything but an insult to her memory.

So yes, I could be unexperienced, and maybe if I keep myself alive it may just get better, but for every case in this world, there are two sides to the coins, and either side isn't black or white. I can easily see myself just plodding along, sh!tkicking for the rest of my life, yet it somehow feels comfortable. I feel at home.

BTW, PM me if you want to take this any further

Blessed be...