Has anyone ever been threatened by a business owner who you wrote a bad online review about?

[Nik]

Jesus christ. I never would have believed it if I didn't see the video. You actually got married? Holy shit.

 

[sactoking]

Two items:

1) Depending on the agreement you signed with her, she may have the right to display her work without your permission.
2) Depending on where you live a comment of "I'll remove it if you remove your negative review" could easily be considered blackmail or criminal coersion.

 

[Geekbabe]

She totally ruined your video and her posting it only proves what a crummy job she did.

You walking down the aisle with your dad, with that big guy totally blocking the view? totally unacceptable!

 

[Zensal]

Originally posted by: sactoking
Two items:

1) Depending on the agreement you signed with her, she may have the right to display her work without your permission.
2) Depending on where you live a comment of "I'll remove it if you remove your negative review" could easily be considered blackmail or criminal coersion.

This. Check the agreement. Laws can vary by state, but here it is illegal to post pictures or videos of someone else FOR PROFIT. Hence you can post what you want but a business has rules about it.

If you did sign a contract with a release, then you personally authorized it.

 

[OILFIELDTRASH]

The more I thought about it, legal or not, it isn't right the bitch posted your video. That is something private and if you wanted other people to see it you would of invited them. I believe she did it out of spite.

Then again I did watch it.

 

[OCGuy]

You did the right thing. Now people can look at your video and decide if they want that quality from that particular company.

You may feel wierd that your video is on that site, but what is really going to happen? Who is really going to see it other than a few couples who want a wedding video?

Maybe you could have made a more informed decision if someone else had done what you did, and you got to see a real sample.

 

[MrsBugi]

Originally posted by: Nik
Jesus christ. I never would have believed it if I didn't see the video. You actually got married? Holy shit.

Heh. If there's one good thing that comes from this, it's that my status as a married women has finally been confirmed for skeptics.

 

[KeithTalent]

Isn't that what all wedding videos look like? I guess it depends on how much you paid, but it looks like every other wedding video I've had the misfortune of watching.

Everyone looked very nice though and congrats!

KT

 

[MrsBugi]

Originally posted by: OILFIELDTRASH
The more I thought about it, legal or not, it isn't right the bitch posted your video. That is something private and if you wanted other people to see it you would of invited them. I believe she did it out of spite.

Then again I did watch it.

Thanks, I think, oilfieldtrash. I actually started shaking when I saw what happened. She took one of the most private, intimate and vulnerable moments of my entire life and posted it on the internet without my permission or consent. I've become a much more private person in my older age and it felt really violating... most ATOT-ers have been very supportive which I appreciate, hopefully something good can come out of this and I hope she will take it down soon. She hasn't responded yet to my requests to remove it.

 

[OCGuy]

Now if you had a "professional" wedding night video taken, please posts some hints so that we may google that as well.

 

[sjwaste]

If you want the video taken down, find a lawyer (or contact a friend who is an attorney, if you have one) and have them send a letter.

This isn't legal advice and I don't claim to know even the first thing about this area of law, but it may be that the video is a work for hire, and therefore you own the copyright. If so, she is infringing that copyright by posting the video.

I haven't watched it, but the comments here make it sound pretty bad. If that's the case, you might be "winning" by letting her leave it up. Basically giving her enough rope right there. If it's not embarrassing, maybe leave it?

 

[slayer202]

Originally posted by: guyver01

Originally posted by: NaOH
can you edit comments? cause the op quoted something else. That's messed up if you're trying to invoke the response you want.

what? you mean the OP is trying to elicit sympathy from ATOT and rally people to her 'cause' ??

no wai!

:roll: once an attention whore, always an attention whore.

you can change the name.. but you can't change the person.

youre a clown man. how can anyone take you seriously when you troll shit like this?

the woman posted her client's wedding video online. thats fucked up as is. but the one she posted was edited, which I am assuming is totally different than what the OP actually got.

 

[MrsBugi]

Originally posted by: OCguy
You did the right thing. Now people can look at your video and decide if they want that quality from that particular company.

You may feel wierd that your video is on that site, but what is really going to happen? Who is really going to see it other than a few couples who want a wedding video?

Maybe you could have made a more informed decision if someone else had done what you did, and you got to see a real sample.

I based my decision to hire her off of one sample that wasn't awesome but decent for the price. If she wanted to give a sample of her work it would've benefitted her more to show/post that sample instead of mine as (I think!) she has permission to show me the sample she did (I think it's also on her website somewhere with a direct link to it).

That being said, reality-check wise it's true that my feeling weird/uncomfortable is the worst that could happen (aside from getting a crappy wedding video!). Feels like a violation of privacy since it was posted without my consent and with my explicit request to remove it, might not bother others but it does feel wrong to me.

And there is no footage of the wedding night but if there was, it'd be kinda boring. We were exhausted after the day and passed out immediately after eating some bacon from the fridge.

 

[randay]

did she have any kind of waiver or agreement that you signed? see if it says who owns the rights to the video. but i think youll have to play ball to get her to pull it off the site.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: MrsBugi
AT-ers are internet savvy and I suppose it was silly of me to assume my privacy and preferences would be respected. I am disappointed in the extremely poor judgment of the person who went ahead and posted the links, I think that was very tacky and rude but not everyone has the same values as I do and I accept that.

You are right. Had I given my little cousin (or a monkey, for that matter) a keyboard, he could've typed up a better poast.

You (rightfully, IMO) posted a scathing review in a public forum that invited rebuttal from the affected party. Then you bring this to our attention, another public forum, providing enough information for us to easily find this exchange on the public internet. Then you have the audacity to criticize me for "extremely poor judgment" for not respecting your privacy? Lulz.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: OILFIELDTRASH
The more I thought about it, legal or not, it isn't right the bitch posted your video. That is something private and if you wanted other people to see it you would of invited them. I believe she did it out of spite.

Then again I did watch it.

that could possibly be true, if she didnt have 43 other videos before hers posted and accessible from her site.

 

[nerdress]

Originally posted by: MrsBugi

Originally posted by: Kanalua
Where did you post this review? On their website?

On a popular review website where consumers are encouraged to post their experiences with services, vendors, etc.

Yelp?

Tell her to fuck off. Show the judge the video if it goes to court, win, case settled.

 

[DangerAardvark]

Originally posted by: tk149
It sounds like you wrote a scathing review of a wedding videographer's work. The videographer posted edited video of your wedding online to refute your claim.

I'm guessing that the videographer still owns the copyright to the video. I don't think you can do anything about that, unless you can show that prior to taking the video, she agreed not to make your video public.

Also, this

I was brutally honest in my review but not slanderous and very matter-of-fact about the innumerable ways in which she did not deliver services as promised

does not jibe with this

If I'd given my little cousin (or a monkey, for that matter) a camcorder, he could've done a better job than MSP did

I know. There's NO WAY he could have afforded a picture-taking monkey for the wedding.

 

[guyver01]

Originally posted by: slayer202

Originally posted by: guyver01

Originally posted by: NaOH
can you edit comments? cause the op quoted something else. That's messed up if you're trying to invoke the response you want.

what? you mean the OP is trying to elicit sympathy from ATOT and rally people to her 'cause' ??

no wai!

:roll: once an attention whore, always an attention whore.

you can change the name.. but you can't change the person.

youre a clown man. how can anyone take you seriously when you troll shit like this?

the woman posted her client's wedding video online. thats fucked up as is. but the one she posted was edited, which I am assuming is totally different than what the OP actually got.

lol.... since you joined in 2005, you may not remember all the HappyKitten, Dezign etc threads... they make nerdress, lola, mosh look tame..

like i said.. once an attention whore, always an attention whore.

if you want to "own" your video.. take it yourself. or hire a monkey (as the OP said they could) to take it.

letting a professional company take your video is giving them ownership.. you're just buying a copy from them.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: guyver01

Originally posted by: slayer202

Originally posted by: guyver01

Originally posted by: NaOH
can you edit comments? cause the op quoted something else. That's messed up if you're trying to invoke the response you want.

what? you mean the OP is trying to elicit sympathy from ATOT and rally people to her 'cause' ??

no wai!

:roll: once an attention whore, always an attention whore.

you can change the name.. but you can't change the person.

youre a clown man. how can anyone take you seriously when you troll shit like this?

the woman posted her client's wedding video online. thats fucked up as is. but the one she posted was edited, which I am assuming is totally different than what the OP actually got.

lol.... since you joined in 2005, you may not remember all the HappyKitten, Dezign etc threads... they make nerdress, lola, mosh look tame..

like i said.. once an attention whore, always an attention whore.

if you want to "own" your video.. take it yourself. or hire a monkey (as the OP said they could) to take it.

letting a professional company take your video is giving them ownership.. you're just buying a copy from them.

not really true... everything i do under contract for my customers belongs to my customers unless specifically stated. all rights belong to them. unless i specifically state it in the contract. of course, i never put clauses in to retain ownership of any projects i do, that would be shitty.

at most i can see the contract containing a waiver to use the video in all or part for promotional uses. i also cant see her using that video as a serious promotional tool.

her style really annoys me, the other videos i sampled on her site were various stages of better or worse than the OPs, but they all had the same crappy style.

 

[Cogman]

I think the OP is currently in a win-win situation. If the lady leaves the video up, Yes, the op looses that bit of privacy, but the company gets run out of business for their crappy quality. If the video goes down, The OP gains some privacy and the Lady continues on with her crappy life.

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: MrsBugi

Originally posted by: Kanalua
Where did you post this review? On their website?

On a popular review website where consumers are encouraged to post their experiences with services, vendors, etc.

Yelp?

Tell her to fuck off. Show the judge the video if it goes to court, win, case settled.

A male masquerading as a female masquerading as a lawyer? Ya, I'd take this advice.

 

[ChaoZ]

http://mediashowerproductions.com/pricing.php

I don't know if those are averages prices for the industry, and if it is I'd never use such services. The fees for the extras are especially ridiculous .

 

[Gothgar]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: MrsBugi

Originally posted by: Kanalua
Where did you post this review? On their website?

On a popular review website where consumers are encouraged to post their experiences with services, vendors, etc.

Yelp?

Tell her to fuck off. Show the judge the video if it goes to court, win, case settled.

A male masquerading as a female masquerading as a lawyer? Ya, I'd take this advice.

:laugh:

 

[nerdress]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: MrsBugi

Originally posted by: Kanalua
Where did you post this review? On their website?

On a popular review website where consumers are encouraged to post their experiences with services, vendors, etc.

Yelp?

Tell her to fuck off. Show the judge the video if it goes to court, win, case settled.

A male masquerading as a female masquerading as a lawyer? Ya, I'd take this advice.

Yelp has dealt with countless cases like this before. It's the same story, and being as I've been on yelp for 2+ years and have been contacted about MY reviews as well...it won't hold up in court. Period.

Also, not a guy.