Has prayer ever worked for you?

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OverVolt

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"reality" is not a dog telling the Son of Sam to kill people. Reality may be perceived differently, but is a constant and is not the product of mental exercises. Reality is pure truth.

Haha, religion has fallen out of popularity but what about money? That too is belief based. Is the money in your bank "pure truth" or in the grand scheme of things, green paper with funny pictures on it?
 
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ThinClient

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Haha, religion has fallen out of popularity but what about money? That too is belief based. Is the money in your bank "pure truth" or in the grand scheme of things, green paper with funny pictures on it?

Calling it a faith is so much of a stretch that the effort can be described as an intellectual dishonesty. ^_^
 

hans030390

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Meditation tends to focus inward on self. Prayer is focused outward on God.

Meditation, at least in the Eastern philosophical sense, is more often geared around the concept of "non-self." If you are not familiar with that concept, I suggest you research it. I do not want to potentially misrepresent the concept by using words that help me make sense of it. What helps me make sense of it might be more confusing to others.

Having grown up as a Christian the first 19 years of my life, I found prayer and most forms of worship to often be self-centered (or centered around those we are close to, a form of selfishness).

In a nutshell, "Thank you, thank you, thank you, God! You are amazing!...but please bless X or make X better or help me through X...unless you don't want to, of course, but...really, please...please...*cough* Anyway, thanks for being God, and thanks for doing all the things I have faith that you did!"

I'm not saying all people did this or all forms of prayer or worship were like this, but the vast majority of Christians (including myself) preach worshiping God but are in reality focused on themselves, their family, and their friends.
 

festa_freak

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Sorry for your loss. While it is painful now, just remember that there is hope that you will see her again in heaven.

To answer your question.

I have two examples of answered prayers in my life. The first was for my father. He used to be an alchoholic. He would do week long binges and he was almost fired from his job but ended up in an intervention type program. All through this, me and my mom were praying. I had many angry prayers with God where I yelled at him and asked why.
Now my dad has been sober for over 5 years and it is great to have him back. He is completely sober now!

The second example is my girlfriend. I am a little older, 27 and have never had a serious girlfriend. I have been praying for years for the right girl. I would pray for specific characteristics that are important to me (musical, loves outdoors, puts up with my lame jokes, doesn't drink etc.) and God has in the past three months brought this amazing girl into my life.
She says that she has been testing God to see if the relationship is actually from him. She would say in the morning, let him (me) say this or do that for me today, and she said I did and she was so blown away by it.

It comes down to seeing the hand of God at work. I totally see it in my life right now. So many things are coming together that I really didn't even mean to happen.
 

OverVolt

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Calling it a faith is so much of a stretch that the effort can be described as an intellectual dishonesty. ^_^

Thats interesting because it is actually only backed by faith. Thats a fact. You have issues with faith/fact like I would have figured. What YOU have faith in, you consider as fact. You are more closed minded than the very religious people you make fun of.
 

Dr. Zaus

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Thats interesting because it is actually only backed by faith. Thats a fact. You have issues with faith/fact like I would have figured. What YOU have faith in, you consider as fact. You are more closed minded than the very religious people you make fun of.

This should have been obvious when he dismissed my 100% accurate and logical explanation of when I have seen prayer work.

Backing it up with many scientific journal citations also seemed to get his dander up.
 

sandorski

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Meditation, at least in the Eastern philosophical sense, is more often geared around the concept of "non-self." If you are not familiar with that concept, I suggest you research it. I do not want to potentially misrepresent the concept by using words that help me make sense of it. What helps me make sense of it might be more confusing to others.

Having grown up as a Christian the first 19 years of my life, I found prayer and most forms of worship to often be self-centered (or centered around those we are close to, a form of selfishness).

In a nutshell, "Thank you, thank you, thank you, God! You are amazing!...but please bless X or make X better or help me through X...unless you don't want to, of course, but...really, please...please...*cough* Anyway, thanks for being God, and thanks for doing all the things I have faith that you did!"

I'm not saying all people did this or all forms of prayer or worship were like this, but the vast majority of Christians (including myself) preach worshiping God but are in reality focused on themselves, their family, and their friends.

Indeed. In retrospect, remembering all the Christianese "Worship" words, it makes no sense. "Praise you...", "Praise the Lord", Hallelujah", etc are not praising anyone, they are merely calling on others to do so. Despite that, those are the predominant phrases chanted as Praise. The more I re-examine my previous Believing life, the less sense it makes. It truly was a time of wishful and magical thinking. It just boggles my mind.
 

spittledip

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Meditation, at least in the Eastern philosophical sense, is more often geared around the concept of "non-self." If you are not familiar with that concept, I suggest you research it. I do not want to potentially misrepresent the concept by using words that help me make sense of it. What helps me make sense of it might be more confusing to others.

I am aware of the basic concepts that underlie motivation for mediation for participants in eastern religions (those that these concepts would this would pertain to of course). The person I was responding to regarding this was making some statement about prayer and mediation as a comparison or something, and I was merely responding to his comparison. To clarify my statement, I was merely saying that prayer is talking to God, mediation is not talking to anyone really, except yourself maybe, in a way. I am not the best communicator obviously as I have had to explain this several times. I think alot of the words I want to express are still in my head and I assume they are part of what I have actually spoken or written or typed...


Having grown up as a Christian the first 19 years of my life, I found prayer and most forms of worship to often be self-centered (or centered around those we are close to, a form of selfishness).

In a nutshell, "Thank you, thank you, thank you, God! You are amazing!...but please bless X or make X better or help me through X...unless you don't want to, of course, but...really, please...please...*cough* Anyway, thanks for being God, and thanks for doing all the things I have faith that you did!"

I'm not saying all people did this or all forms of prayer or worship were like this, but the vast majority of Christians (including myself) preach worshiping God but are in reality focused on themselves, their family, and their friends.

I think you make a very valid point, and actually my 2nd post in this thread was actually to address this very issue ironically enough... as was every other post since then. I was stating that using prayer as a means to somehow manipulate God into getting what you want is a misunderstanding of what prayer really is. I really didn't want to spell it out in so many words b/c it seems better to me if people an work through ideas themselves if they get the hint of one, if that makes sense. Of course this is not to say that one should present their needs and concerns to God, however the presentation of these things to God is not necessarily done to get the needs or concerns fulfilled according to how we see best.

I have been a Christian for a long time, and I have weathered my share of storms. I am not a Christian because i am some good moral person who has it all together. I am a Christian b/c I recognize my great moral deficiencies and my lostness in this life more or less, and I recognize nothing in me that can take on these things in a constructive way. Instead, left to myself, I find that I take on destructive and immoral patterns as means to get through. It has taken a lot of prayers unanswered how I would like and alot of banging my head against all the different walls I come against .. and I continue to do so to an extent, but to a lesser extent.

All that said, prayer is communicating to God, recognizing his sovereignty despite what circumstances or pain might seem to indicate. God knows much better about what is good for me than I could ever know. Even though, even now, I might want certain things, God knows that certain things I might submit to Him might not be good for me or in my best interest. So in the context of praying for myself, I pray to communicate my needs as a means of more or less saying, "God, here is the stuff in my life, do what you will with it".

Any verse in the Bible that speaks of answered prayer is pretty much in the context of God's will.

I think you are right that not most, but ALL Christians are self-centered in their approach to God, at least at one point in their lives. Part of the road of following God is becoming less self-centered and more concerned with God and others. Of course, the selflessness involved in being a Christian is not the same type as being a Buddhist (as you mentioned earlier) that is more or less an annihilation of the self, it is a recognition of self-centeredness, and then pushing toward more God-centeredness and others-centeredness.

I think there is a struggle with being honest in relation to ourselves, others, and God, and how we approach God. We need to be as honest with all the above, but we really can't be more honest with God until we are more honest with ourselves and others. I have also struggled with how others approach God and their worship seeming phony and prayers seeming phony etc. However, I don't have access to their hearts and minds, and have no idea what is really going on with them. How they approach God and their sincerity is between them and God and should not really concern me.
 

spinejam

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I consider myself somewhat well rounded, intellectual person.

In my opinion, if you have had the opportunity to witness the miracle of life from conception, then I find it hard not to believe in God.

With regard to prayer, Yes, prayer has helped me personally in both the long term and short term time frames. Just last week I was laid-up in bed, sick for over 17 days and I began to pray for my sickness to abate. Within 5 minutes I broke into a feverish sweaty mess and 2 hours later, I was feeling 90% better. Two days later I felt 99% better. No meds were in my system at the time either. Yes, I have no doubt it was God's will that returned my body whole.

I'm usually not one to profess much related to religion --- more of a personal / spiritual matter for me, but I thought my experience was pertinent to this thread.
 

irishScott

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I'm going to give a completely honest non-answer: I have no idea.

I've prayed many times over the course of my life. Sometimes things got better, sometimes they got worse, sometimes there was no change. Perhaps the prayers were received and that's just God's judgement, perhaps there's no one to receive them and it's merely random chance. I don't know. I still pray from time to time, but it's more a "hey, in the off chance that's anyone's listening to this, *insert prayer here*". At least then I have all possible bases covered, however unlikely.

I can see how it would be comforting to believe that prayers do help, and for some people I suppose they do. Having lost my mother 2 years ago I can definitely sympathize, and if prayer is how someone copes I'm not going to judge. However, at the end of the day prayer is simply not reliable. It can subtly motivate people to take action, but it's the people taking action that produces the results. This isn't necessarily direct, physical action. It's quite possible that a sick person, after hearing that people's prayers were with them, would experience a decrease in stress that could in turn improve their condition. It's been scientifically proven that stress can often grow tumors and that decreasing stress hormones has the opposite effect.

So at the end of the day I don't know, but it can't hurt.

As for my religious background, I was raised Baptist, became Agnostic in my teenage years, Deist in my early 20s, and and am now leaning more and more towards Taoism (as in I'm actually reading the Tao Te Ching and trying to follow it as per my own interpretations).
 

Guurn

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Yes, prayer has worked for me personally. My family also had a miracle happen not long after my fathers side of the family first moved here. I can tell the story if anyone wants to hear it but it is one of those things that atheists say never happens when a video camera is around.
 

dxkj

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Prayer isn't about you at all... everything is predestined, everything that has happened, will happen or is happening is all predestined... every choice you make is determined ahead of time...
 

Onceler

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It's not the prayer that does the actual work, it is God or gods who do the work, prayer is just a way to get them to work miracles for you. With that being said, I am blessed. I have prayed for many seeming impossible things and God has made them happen.
 

sandorski

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It's not the prayer that does the actual work, it is God or gods who do the work, prayer is just a way to get them to work miracles for you. With that being said, I am blessed. I have prayed for many seeming impossible things and God has made them happen.

Like?
 

justoh

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Since prayer can only make someone feel better/good about themselves, and seems to do that all the time, except in cases of perceived failure due to unreasonable expectations, then prayer can be said to work every time. Or never. Weird question for a supposedly serious discussion section.

As for there being psychological benefits to delusional thinking... Well, possibly, in some sense, but it's hard to advocate for the deception of yourself and/or others because you think it might make us feel better. Do something else before bedtime instead, like jogging or reading a book.

Isn't there also the danger of ignoring real solutions to your problems when you're always relying on the supernatural for guidance or solutions? Any time spent praying could be used more usefully in other ways.
 

Moonbeam

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Since prayer can only make someone feel better/good about themselves, and seems to do that all the time, except in cases of perceived failure due to unreasonable expectations, then prayer can be said to work every time. Or never. Weird question for a supposedly serious discussion section.

As for there being psychological benefits to delusional thinking... Well, possibly, in some sense, but it's hard to advocate for the deception of yourself and/or others because you think it might make us feel better. Do something else before bedtime instead, like jogging or reading a book.

Isn't there also the danger of ignoring real solutions to your problems when you're always relying on the supernatural for guidance or solutions? Any time spent praying could be used more usefully in other ways.

Well that's a fine how do you do. You never once considered, I bet, owing to the fact that you hate yourself, that you are a superhuman with abilities beyond your imagination that stupid naïve folk who pray may tap into in that way. Geez, your certainty in your opinions could just be the lock that seals off your door to mystery. Sure you're not playing a terrible trick on yourself?
 

justoh

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Well that's a fine how do you do. You never once considered, I bet, owing to the fact that you hate yourself, that you are a superhuman with abilities beyond your imagination that stupid naïve folk who pray may tap into in that way. Geez, your certainty in your opinions could just be the lock that seals off your door to mystery. Sure you're not playing a terrible trick on yourself?

Your rhetoric doesn't work on me, moonie. Not sure it works on anyone, actually, though it's sometimes fun to read. Wishful thinking is not very helpful in life, and that's all i meant. You can be optimistic or hopeful, but merely wishing for something, especially when you expect these wishes to be granted, by some totalitarian authority is, whose existence is unknowable or unknown is probably foolish and counterproductive.
 

Moonbeam

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Your rhetoric doesn't work on me, moonie. Not sure it works on anyone, actually, though it's sometimes fun to read. Wishful thinking is not very helpful in life, and that's all i meant. You can be optimistic or hopeful, but merely wishing for something, especially when you expect these wishes to be granted, by some totalitarian authority is, whose existence is unknowable or unknown is probably foolish and counterproductive.

It worked. You have all these facts that sould make probably out of the question.
 

Dr. Zaus

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Do something else before bedtime instead, like jogging or reading a book.

Interesting, so prayer and the bible? Sounds like a good idea

Honestly: you seem to think you know how other should live their lives and those that violate your ethos some how living their lives wrong... I know another contemporary group that thinks this way.
 

justoh

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Alright, sorry. My bad. Wishful thinking is a good way to solve problems or get what you want. Thanks, you two!
 

Moonbeam

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Alright, sorry. My bad. Wishful thinking is a good way to solve problems or get what you want. Thanks, you two!

Maybe you call it wishful thinking because you wish you could think that way. But you're a realist. There is only the cold dead universe and whatever happens in it, right. You can't change the fact that the world is dead by wishing it weren't like the nutty faithful. All they have to do is, pray and wish, to alter their mental state. You see, what you can't do, pray for God's goodness, they can do simply because for them prayer works a particular kind of magic, not of airy fairy dreams, but by changing their attitude. Those dummy people of faith can create hope where all you got is whatever mental state you're stuck in. Did you know that attitude is everything? Lucky is he who prays that God's will be done because when that happens the self disappears and becomes the will of God. But that's just for silly children, right? There's nothing quite like wishful thinking when you know for what to wish.
 

justoh

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Maybe you call it wishful thinking because you wish you could think that way. But you're a realist. There is only the cold dead universe and whatever happens in it, right. You can't change the fact that the world is dead by wishing it weren't like the nutty faithful. All they have to do is, pray and wish, to alter their mental state. You see, what you can't do, pray for God's goodness, they can do simply because for them prayer works a particular kind of magic, not of airy fairy dreams, but by changing their attitude. Those dummy people of faith can create hope where all you got is whatever mental state you're stuck in. Did you know that attitude is everything? Lucky is he who prays that God's will be done because when that happens the self disappears and becomes the will of God. But that's just for silly children, right? There's nothing quite like wishful thinking when you know for what to wish.

Exactly. Agree 100%
 

Dr. Zaus

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Alright, sorry. My bad. Wishful thinking is a good way to solve problems or get what you want. Thanks, you two!

According to Bandura, one of the most cited people in all of Psychology, and his many many experiments (and thousands of replications): YES wishful thinking has a positive influence on people.

Not only that but as I pointed out earlier in the thread we know that prayer helps people (20+ studies say so), but if it's wishful thinking you want to talk about 20,000+ studies say so. The power of positive thinking is the best established finding in all of psychology.

These are the top-results on google,scholar, most have 1k+ citations to their name:

Bandura, A. (1994). Self‐efficacy. John Wiley & Sons, Inc..

Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological review, 84(2), 191.

Bandura, A. (1982). Self-efficacy mechanism in human agency. American psychologist, 37(2), 122.

Bandura, A. (1993). Perceived self-efficacy in cognitive development and functioning. Educational psychologist, 28(2), 117-148.

Zimmerman, B. J. (2000). Self-efficacy: An essential motive to learn. Contemporary educational psychology, 25(1), 82-91.

Compeau, D. R., & Higgins, C. A. (1995). Computer self-efficacy: Development of a measure and initial test. MIS quarterly, 189-211.

Schwarzer, R. (1992). Self-efficacy in the adoption and maintenance of health behaviors: Theoretical approaches and a new model. Hemisphere Publishing Corp.

Ajzen, I. (2002). Perceived Behavioral Control, Self‐Efficacy, Locus of Control, and the Theory of Planned Behavior1. Journal of applied social psychology, 32(4), 665-683.

Bandura, A., & Schunk, D. H. (1981). Cultivating competence, self-efficacy, and intrinsic interest through proximal self-motivation. Journal of personality and social psychology, 41(3), 586.

Sherer, M., Maddux, J. E., Mercandante, B., Prentice-Dunn, S., Jacobs, B., & Rogers, R. W. (1982). The self-efficacy scale: Construction and validation. Psychological reports, 51(2), 663-671.

Bandura, A. (Ed.). (1995). Self-efficacy in changing societies. Cambridge University Press.

Zimmerman, B. J., Bandura, A., & Martinez-Pons, M. (1992). Self-motivation for academic attainment: The role of self-efficacy beliefs and personal goal setting. American educational research journal, 29(3), 663-676.

Pajares, F. (1996). Self-efficacy beliefs in academic settings. Review of educational research, 66(4), 543-578.

Schunk, D. H. (1991). Self-efficacy and academic motivation. Educational psychologist, 26(3-4), 207-231.

Bandura, A. (2006). Guide for constructing self-efficacy scales. Self-efficacy beliefs of adolescents, 5, 307-337.

Judge, T. A., & Bono, J. E. (2001). Relationship of core self-evaluations traits—self-esteem, generalized self-efficacy, locus of control, and emotional stability—with job satisfaction and job performance: A meta-analysis. Journal of applied Psychology, 86(1), 80.
 
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justoh

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I already stated positive thinking is good. I disagree that wishful thinking is the same thing, especially when fantastical.
 
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