So again, what you are saying is there is no melting pot. People either conform to white culture or they live in poverty.
I don't think anyone is saying that. I can name many examples of rich African American entrepreneurs who have stayed true to the culture in which they were raised and were successful BECAUSE of it.
Let me ask you, if the shoe was on the other foot, would you conform to "black culture" to maintain a middle class life?
Sure, that is what millions of American immigrants do every day and have done for decades. They turn their backs on their original culture and language to try to get ahead in America, and they raise their kids in mainstream American culture (speaking English) in hopes it will make them more successful.
Would you do that knowing these are the culturally same people who enslaved your people 300 years ago?
I guess I don't get what something so ancient has to do with the practical considerations of living in today's world. My ancestors were Native American, aka people who were MASSACRED by our dominant European culture. Yet all my recent ancestors went to "white" colleges, and even took on "white" last names in an attempt to better themselves. I don't mind myself participating in mainstream culture despite all these ancient wrongdoings because I wasn't a part of that world.
But would you understand those who said no?
Sure, just like I understand why Christians 600 years ago thought lending money was a sin- from their perspective it was. The problem is when people ignore the practical reality of the situation with some crazy expectation that life is fair when it isn't.
Those Christians 600 years ago realized without lending money their economy couldn't work, so they realigned their values to a point where no Christian banker in the world thinks twice about what a sin their job is. If you are part of a society you have to make some concessions to the reality of the situation if you want the full benefit from association with that society, that is a reality of life.