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Depressing thread is depressing.
I'm actually much less depressed than I have been in some time. Though I still go through periods.
Depressing thread is depressing.
Depends on what you mean by that. I certainly have the same biological drive to get laid that most men do, I watch pr0n instead, I'm just not emotionally prepared to go there. I'm not interested in going out on the prowl for women, clubbing and the like etc... That aspect I'm not interested in. Long run I would certainly like to find a GF that I would have something in common with, share interests with etc.., and could be genuine friends with along with being romantically involved with.
Meh, I'm 20 and Asian and I haven't gone on a single date.
I prefer hanging out with friends, and considering I'm studying Engineering, the pool of females is incredibly small. Much of that pool happen to be the craziest people I have ever seen. Also, I'm pretty sure most of my friends think I'm gay, but that's a non issue
Studying and my own life takes precedence over females. I have no interest in getting laid or dating before I actually make something of myself.
I'm actually much less depressed than I have been in some time. Though I still go through periods.
see, that's not helping
I was like you, had only gone out on a handful of dates till my late 20's, until I moved to Boston and made much more conscious attempts at going out, finally got laid at 30, (33 now) better late than never. Before I moved to Boston, I would just go to work, come home in the evening and stay home, I didnt really know anyone in the area, and let that stop me from actively going out and trying to meet people. Didnt help that I'm no good at picking up women in bars, but I'm much better in a more controlled social setting, such as a house party, or a get together with friends who bring girls.
Being Asian my parents are really pushing me to get married. Its more than simple nagging which I would be fine with. I guess a lack of dating until a few years ago hasnt helped, I've had a couple of relationships which lasted a few months. I'm doubling up my efforts, got 1 date lined up for this week, planning for more this weekend/next week. I've definitely gotten more outgoing, social, easier to talk to girls.
what did you do to change that after moving to the new place where you didn't know anyone? Did you start going out to more events or make some key friends or what?
Not yet.
Run antivirus if you do. Better to get out of the house, IMO, real world.
Run antivirus if you do. Better to get out of the house, IMO, real world.
With my comp it will take more than just running antivirus. Will have to run Prime95. Truthfully though I know that a lot of people meet others on line. I would think it would actually be a good place to meet people for those who are not socially outgoing.
The pool available in the engineering field is either super nerdy and asian, batshit crazy, overly career driven with sticks up the ass, or trying extremely hard to be a guy with accompanying "sluttiness". There are a few 'normal-ish' ones of course.
Being unapologetically metrosexual, I get the 'gay' a lot.
From my experience, the problem usually comes from a lack of confidence, an unwillingness to open up, and put yourself out there. Being a recluse, it's hard to bust out of your habits, especially if it's all you've ever known.
I don't really understand, honestly.. I mean, how do you not talk to women online? lol.. So you have no girls in your IM lists? FFS, 98% of the contacts in my lists are women.