Originally posted by: Tick
Adopt?
I have a friend, well my mom's friend too, but she adopted two Korean girls. They both now have Masters degrees are now married with husbands who can help the family function with an independently working spouse, and that's the guy ofcourse. Well, the Caucasian mother of the two daughters was divorced, so she needed meaning in her life. I would not imagine how she would have gotten through her days without kids. I mean, your two kids gets Masters and move away to start families, that's a good thing to look back on. The same can be said with nurturing with your very best.
There was this story of this indivitual who grew up without a father in his life. I mean, when he was young, his dad left him and the family, and the mother grew up as a single mom. The boy went through life trying to understand why his dad left him, and yes, that was very sad for him. He graduated high school and then served his church for two years, finished higher education and got married.
He was like... "where did my dad go wrong, I'm still sad about this?" It was after he got married that he still asked this question.
But it wasn't until later when he had two kids. He went to play with them at some playground or where ever.. And tears started falling down from his eyes. He said that this was what his father was missing, the love of having children and being able to spend time with them.
So that's the scoop of it I guess, you got kids then you will truly know how your own parents felt about you.
Alright, last story. There was a father who lossed his wife to cancer. His daughter was killed by a speeder on the road. The speeder on the road was sentenced to one month in prison and go to go home to three of his daughters. The daugher of the father that was killed was the only daughter he had, ill-grieved father having lost both his wife and daughter in the same year. Depressed, yeah.
It was easy to get drunk every night and just give up on everything. But he had one son who was still in high school. He wanted to teach him everything... So he was like, for every mistake you make, take these nails and hammer them into the side rail of our fence around the house. The boy was like, okay.
Took less than two weeks to fill the whole yard's fencing with nails. After that, his father was like, for every good thing you do, pull out a nail. Took him two months to pull out all the nails from the yard that he had hammered in. And then, his father told him, to look at all the scars in people's lives that he left. Doing good things he said will help ease the pain, but you need to attack the scars at their core to truly make sure you've done everything you can to fix these problems. then his son didn't want to do it all right away. it took him two years, however, to count each hole in the fence. by the time he graduated he accounted for each one. And then his father said, "don't forget all the mistakes that happened even after your two weeks of nailing." The high school graduate looked at his bare hands and his father hugged him, "congratulations, but this is only another beginning of your life, don't get comfortable and always look for further meaning in life."
conclusion, you can't always live for yourself, but you do it for other people, otherwise life gets pretty depressing over time when you've lost a lot, and we're talking people here.
GG