**HELP** Neighbor Kid showed my kid how to Google PRON

[apoppin]

Is this STILL in SW? . . . move it to OT for a real discussion

 

[boran]

imho, a serious talk with your kid is more appropriate than blocking the web. okay, maybe also block the web. but censorship never solved anything. Now the "evil" is already done i'd think you better have the flower & bees conversation with yer kid, and telling what porn is exactly, yes I think it's not the most comfy talk you'll be having, definetly seeing the age, but you have to live up to reality of kids of 13 getting pregnant (and younger in some cases) the best method imho to prevent this is information you'd be surprised what kind of myths there are amongst the sexually active youth. and absolutely if it's about pregnancy prevention.

Also you could just start asking your son questions about what he saw and what he tought of it. if you're lucky he's still in the girls-are-yucky time and he might have found it a whole lot ot yucky. if not, well then comes the flowers & bees story.

 

[Smilin]

You're not going to find a foolproof technology that will accomplish what you want.

The kid broke trust. Put a password on the computer so he only gets to use it when supervised now.

 

[apoppin]

Originally posted by: Smilin
You're not going to find a foolproof technology that will accomplish what you want.

The kid broke trust. Put a password on the computer so he only gets to use it when supervised now.

did you even READ the OP's first post?
:roll:

:thumbsdown:

best thing is to have a "talk" with your son . . . . perhaps you can turn something bad into something positive. most kids ARE exposed to porn [anywway] at an early age . . . age 10 is rather premature BUT it gives the parent a change to catch this 'early'.

 

[Argo]

Originally posted by: Smilin
You're not going to find a foolproof technology that will accomplish what you want.

The kid broke trust. Put a password on the computer so he only gets to use it when supervised now.

That's a little overboard, things like that is what creates a generation of messed up kids we have now. I suggest a talking to (explaining, not blaming) kid and then what John said.

 

[sourceninja]

I would go for URL blocking/content filter on the router. Most good ones will let you set filters per machine (mac address). If its on his PC he will find a way around it in time. Just hope to god nobody teaches him about tor or other types of web proxys.

Your best bet is to place his computer somewhere public in the house. That way he will be too insecure to look at porn.

I also bet you could set up Privoxy ( http://www.privoxy.org/ ) using filter controls to block most kinds of porn. You could also implement a router such as IPCop or m0n0wall and do filtering with plugins. IPCop has very good content control plugins.

Also this ( http://www.cecea.org/jojo/cleanweb/) is a fairly good write up on using a proxy with squid, squidguard and dansguardian for url and content filtering.

Your best solution is to do this at a router level. As a rule, if your son has physical access and a login to the machine the filtering is on, he will be able to bypass it. By doing this at a router level, you can keep him from disabling it (not revealing the user/pass, etc). You will also want to filter open web proxys, as these can be used to go around most URL filters. This is also why you should run a URL and a content filter.

I hope this helps

*edit* There is also a firefox extention I just found called BlockXXX ( http://singlepointnetworks.com/ffext/blockxxx/ ) not sure if it works or not, but you could disable IE and only allow access with firefox and install this ext. But again, this would be on the child's pc and he could find a way around it.

 

[chowmein]

it's perfectly natural ...

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Originally posted by: Chompman

Originally posted by: rh71
so you filter Google... what's to stop him from going to Yahoo ?

Or most search engines?

There are other search engines??

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Originally posted by: thegimp03
A little exploration is good.
Just kidding. Porn on the internet is out of control hardcore and isn't suitable for any kid.

Some of it isn't suitable for adults.

 

[DavidO]

My kids are young but what I am concerned about is going to sites by accident (making typos of a URL for example). After seeing this article did a search and found this review of top 10 parental control software:

Link

I have not read it in depth yet but looks like a good place to start and get some ideas of options.

 

[Queasy]

Originally posted by: gil11542
1)Already called the parents and waiting for a call back

Now there's a phone conversation worth recording and keeping!

 

[Smilin]

Originally posted by: apoppin

Originally posted by: Smilin
You're not going to find a foolproof technology that will accomplish what you want.

The kid broke trust. Put a password on the computer so he only gets to use it when supervised now.

did you even READ the OP's first post?
:roll:

:thumbsdown:

Yes I did. If you are going to rely on technology to supervise your kids you are going to fail. Take the computer out of the study and put it in the middle of the living room. Supervise your kid.

 

[NeoV]

"supervise your kid" - clearly said by someone who doesnt' have any children

 

[yukichigai]

Originally posted by: DavidO
<URL snipped because it's TOO F%$#ING LONG>
Link

Edit your post dude, it's throwing the entire page off.

Anyway, I'd go with the suggestion of doing it on a router level. Netgear routers, for example, have easy-to-use keyword and domain blocking; all you have to do is set the filter to block a few key words and phrases and you should be good to go.

I do also recommend services like NetNanny; I see that banner on practically every porn site I visit, except the Japanese ones. Let's just hope your son doesn't figure out that other countries have boobies as well. (Of course I'm sure babelfish can provide you with translations of naughty words in other languages to put into the content filter)

 

[Smilin]

Originally posted by: NeoV
"supervise your kid" - clearly said by someone who doesnt' have any children

No, "supervise your kid" clearly said by someone who has kids and does. My kid has to go to your house to lookup that crap. Not happening at mine.

 

[apoppin]

Originally posted by: Smilin

Originally posted by: apoppin

Originally posted by: Smilin
You're not going to find a foolproof technology that will accomplish what you want.

The kid broke trust. Put a password on the computer so he only gets to use it when supervised now.

did you even READ the OP's first post?
:roll:

:thumbsdown:

Yes I did. If you are going to rely on technology to supervise your kids you are going to fail. Take the computer out of the study and put it in the middle of the living room. Supervise your kid.

You did?
:shocked:

What "trust" did he break?
:roll:

:thumbsdown:

OMG. I just walk in our Computer room and found my 10 yr old looking a PRON, The kid next door came over (13yrs old) and showed my child a part on the web I didnt want him to know about, YET. We all have our own computers and before I just PW lock his and only let him play on it while supervised I was wondering if any other parents have had to deal with filtering and if it works and what is my best choice in doing it.

learn to read

 

[Smilin]

So the neighbor kid is to blame for this eh? You saying that your kid doesn't know better? Are you teaching him anything? He knows not to look at that crap (I would hope), did anyway and broke trust. Put a password on the computer and be done with it. If he wants to play with it he'll have to do it while supervised. If you try to leave your parenting up to technology, you will fail.

If you do put some filtering technology on and the next neighbor kid shows him how to bypass it, are you going to keep ducking responsibility for the issue by blaming the neighbor kid or the technology?

That's twice now that you've assumed that I didn't read the original thread. Pull your head out and *think* before you end up in a Darwin award.

 

[minofifa]

i was reading that the council in charge of domains (if that is even correct) is pushing to have porn sites in the domain of .xxx. I think that would be good, since it would make childproofing a lot more effective. I guess that still wouldn't stop a lot of people from putting crap on their .com domains but still, it is a good step.

 

[effee]

Make sure he doesnt download P2P software as well. Thats another source.

 

[apoppin]

Originally posted by: Smilin
So the neighbor kid is to blame for this eh? You saying that your kid doesn't know better? Are you teaching him anything? He knows not to look at that crap (I would hope), did anyway and broke trust. Put a password on the computer and be done with it. If he wants to play with it he'll have to do it while supervised. If you try to leave your parenting up to technology, you will fail.

If you do put some filtering technology on and the next neighbor kid shows him how to bypass it, are you going to keep ducking responsibility for the issue by blaming the neighbor kid or the technology?

That's twice now that you've assumed that I didn't read the original thread. Pull your head out and *think* before you end up in a Darwin award.

yes, the neighboprhood kid is to blame and your're absolutely the one not thinking
:thumbsdown:

you may have read it but you lack basic reading comprehension skills
[i.e. you are taling to me - who is the "your kid"? . . . . ]
:roll:

The OP's boy is TEN years old . . . [your] 13 year old showed him the site
:thumbsdown:

 

[Smilin]

Originally posted by: apoppin

Originally posted by: Smilin
So the neighbor kid is to blame for this eh? You saying that your kid doesn't know better? Are you teaching him anything? He knows not to look at that crap (I would hope), did anyway and broke trust. Put a password on the computer and be done with it. If he wants to play with it he'll have to do it while supervised. If you try to leave your parenting up to technology, you will fail.

If you do put some filtering technology on and the next neighbor kid shows him how to bypass it, are you going to keep ducking responsibility for the issue by blaming the neighbor kid or the technology?

That's twice now that you've assumed that I didn't read the original thread. Pull your head out and *think* before you end up in a Darwin award.

yes, the neighboprhood kid is to blame and your're absolutely the one not thinking
:thumbsdown:

So some other neighbor kid will be to blame next time? Or that guy in the chatroom? When will it every be your kids fault? When will it ever be YOUR fault? If you taught your child right he would know that's wrong so he bears responsibility when he does it. If you never taught your child this then you bear responsibility. Don't let your kid grow up to be some deviant that blames everything on everyone else. Own up and teach your child to do the same.[/quote]

you may have read it but you lack basic reading comprehension skills
[i.e. you are taling to me - who is the "your kid"? . . . . ]
:roll:

"Your kid" as in "the reader's child". Your's, mine, the thread poster, the reader.
I know it's a difficult abstract concept, but try to keep up. That's now three times you've tried to blame me for misreading something when you were simply making a stupid assumption. Please stop.

The OP's boy is TEN years old . . . [your] 13 year old showed him the site
:thumbsdown:

[/quote]
If you follow my recommendation this won't be a problem. If you are trying to duck your responsibility and that of your child in this incident it won't help. The next time it might be a 30 year old showing your ten year old that site. Watch your kid. Be a parent already.

 

[n0cmonkey]

Why on dog's green earth did you let your child on the internet unsupervised?

EDIT: Smilin is right, you screwed up and your kid gets to pay for it. :|

 

[sao123]

Forget the internet filter. Try my ANTI - PRON solution for my future kids.

FWACK!!!

 

[skace]

I'm pretty sure I was looking at porn by 10 or 11. Shrug.

 

[Smilin]

Dude some hustlers that my best friend's big brother had don't exactly count against what is out on the 'net right now.