You do understand that the only thing you have access to are conceptual models...
Right?
Now, look at the people posting in the Babe Thread. They're posting pictures of people who are just as real as any character as far as anybody on this forum's life is concerned. None of the posters will ever interact with any of those women physically, yet they still post pictures as though there is something of value there.
Rukia is better characterized than any of them. She is meant to represent a human woman, that goal was achieved in remarkable fashion, and I can value it as it pertains to that.
You likely have a mind made of mush and so need to keep your anxiety level high over the fear of seepage between mental compartments, and you respond by keeping your compartments separated by chasms. I do not suffer from that problem. My compartments don't leak, meaning I can stack them one right next to another. Being that my walls are so well defined, I can resize with ease as I always have a firm grasp of where they are. This gives me considerable freedom.
My compartment for Rukia is of an extent that would undoubtedly break your mind to copy. In your modeling of me you are correctly predicting the shattering of your mental boundaries, but you go wrong when you assume that a run through your mind accurately represents a run through mine.
I can perform mental feats that the average person cannot. If you wish to understand anything about me, your model of me must contain openness to the reality that I am not necessarily tied to any mental model. Holding me rigidly to the results of runs through stereotypes and/or self simply will not work.
Assigning leeway is the only way one can make room for a mind greater than their own.