How close (emotionally) are you to your family?

[Powermoloch]

I'm still living with my family...being the big bro comes with obligations D:

 

[SleepWhere]

I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

I'm very blunt and never really hold any conversation with my parents. All we say is stuff like... where you going? did you eat? are you sleeping?

It's been this way ever since I was little. I have never hugged them or told them I loved them in my life. It's weird. I don't think I can bring myself to be affectionate with them now. I'm 26 btw.

 

[Glitchny]

I talk to my parents about once a week, my brother almost daily, and my sister sometimes. She is married has kids and lives 2500 miles from me so we don't have a lot to talk about generally.

I dunno if there is a real definition of "close" or whatever but I would drop everything to help them out if they needed anything.

 

[CKent]

Haven't spoken with my mother in five years, my father in ten. I'd like to say I'm simply doing what's best for me, and I am, but a part of me hopes it hurts them. They deserve it.

 

[x-alki]

Very close, with exception of 1 brother.

 

[irishScott]

To my sister: Extremely. We've pulled each other through a lot.

To my mom: I love her but due to family issues my sister and I have had to significantly cut ourselves off. In a nutshell, she unintentionally transmits my dad's abuse onto my sister and I, but even now she has her good moments.

To my dad: My threats against him are IMHO the primary reason his abuse didn't turn physical. (it was mildly physical until one night I told him exactly what would happen if it went any further. Hasn't happened again to date TMK. He's scared of me now.) If he wasn't paying everyone's bills (most importantly my mom's experimental cancer treatments, all she really has left. Rare cancer.) I'd have literally beaten him into the curb a long time ago.

Thankfully neither my sister nor I have lived at home for a while.

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

My mom fucked me out of 8000 and chased away my gf of 7 years when we had plans of moving out together. It would be great if mom was dead.

 

[Mr Pickles]

I love my entire family (I have about 30 members within a few hours of me) but I've been burned by my parents too many times in the past for me to ever be naive enough to get too close to them.

Honestly, I avoid them because its too much of a hassle to deal with their shit. They were drug addicts, and might still be for all I know, and nothing they do from here on out will replace the years I had to deal with it while living in the same house. The drugs, the alcoholo, the physical abuse, the cops at the house once a month, and dad being in and out of jail or in and out of the tank is too much when I'm out on my own trying to make something of myself.

Besides my opted disconnection from my parents, my grandparents took care of me growing up, for which I honor and respect them dearly. They tought me the importance of family so I've grown to love being with all of them and knowing what's going on with them and their lives.

Its funny how shit works out like that.

 

[LittleNemoNES]

Damn lots of disfunctional relationships. Like all things, you've got to meet people half way. Mundane conversation can lead to more interesting conversation. Mundane conv. Is usually brought by a lack of a good foundation in the relationship so people resort to safe, boring shit. Patience

 

[KeithTalent]

My mom fucked me out of 8000 and chased away my gf of 7 years when we had plans of moving out together. It would be great if mom was dead.

Whoa. May I ask how old you are?

KT

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

24

 

[Fritzo]

Interesting thread. I'm actually a very distant person and could go a month or two without seeing my family. They're nice and all, but I'm just a non-social person.

HOWEVER, my wife's side of the family is Mr and Mrs Touchy-Feelly. They have to call every day, hug you every time they see you, send you cards for every Halmark holiday, etc. My parents see this as competition and start forcing themselves on me to keep up.

Now I have parents and in-laws bugging me 24/7

 

[KaOTiK]

Interesting thread. I'm actually a very distant person and could go a month or two without seeing my family. They're nice and all, but I'm just a non-social person.

HOWEVER, my wife's side of the family is Mr and Mrs Touchy-Feelly. They have to call every day, hug you every time they see you, send you cards for every Halmark holiday, etc. My parents see this as competition and start forcing themselves on me to keep up.

Now I have parents and in-laws bugging me 24/7

The only solution is to fake your own death.