How do I convince my parents to let me move in with a guy?

jds2006

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So I talked to my parents about moving out and after a long discussion they said that they thought it would be a good experience for me if I moved out. What they disapprove of, however, is that I'd be living with a guy. But it's not like as if we'd be sharing the same room or are in a relationship or anything. Besides, he's a really nice guy and I'd feel a lot better living with a guy just in case anything bad happens in the apartment. Plus my other roommate is a girl. What's the big deal? Co-ed roommates are common nowadays anyway.

I have a lot of reasons for moving out. First of all, I'd be moving to an apartment that's only 3 minutes away from the college I go to. Right now, it takes me half an hour to commute to and from school, so by moving out I'll have an extra hour every day to do whatever I want. Not only that, but it would make me more independent and more aware of who I am and what I want to become. You can't completely know yourself if you live with your parents all the time since they control you. Also, since I go to a commuter school, it's really hard to meet new people. By moving out, it'd be sooo much easier for me to meet people. Also, since rent is only $380/month including utilities, that is a really good deal, especially where I live. And I can afford it, since I'm a waitress and make ~$1300 a month working 25 hours a week. My parents have already paid for my car, insurance, and cell phone, so all I would need to pay for on my own is rent, food, gas, and leisure activities. And it's not like as if they can't visit me or I can't visit them. My new place would only be half an hour away so I would be able to visit several times a week. Plus, if moving out doesn't work out for me, I can always move back in with my parents. What do I or my parents have to lose?


Whether they agree with my decision or not, I'm still going to move out. I'm an adult and they can't really stop me from moving out. However, I'd like to move out on good terms with them... I don't want them to be on the brink of disowning me just because I want to move out lol. So do you guys have any suggestions on how to convince them to let me move in with a guy?


 

Unheard

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Do it anyways, the worst thing your folks could do is kick you out of their house.



Err wait.
 

BigJ

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Originally posted by: jds2006
Whether they agree with my decision or not, I'm still going to move out. I'm an adult and they can't legally stop me from moving out. However, I'd like to move out on good terms with them... I don't want them to be on the brink of disowning me just because I want to move out lol. So do you guys have any suggestions on how to convince them to let me move in with a guy?

If I was your parents, I'd cut you off. No more paying for the car, insurance, or cell phone. You want to take this attitude and be Miss Independent, then you better be prepared for the real thing.
 

FoBoT

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Originally posted by: randomlinh
tell them he's gay.

:music:
Come and knock on our door.....
We've been waiting for you......
Where the kisses are hers and hers and his,
Three's company too.

Come and dance on on our floor......
Take a step that is new.....
We've a loveable space that needs your face,
Three's company too.

You'll see that life is a frolic and laughter is calling for you......
Down at our rendez-vous,
Three's company, too!!!!!!
:music:
 

allisolm

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Whether they agree with my decision or not, I'm still going to move out. I'm an adult and they can't legally stop me from moving out.

No, but they CAN stop paying for your car, insurance and cell phone. Are they paying for your school? If so, that could be in jeopardy. Just make sure you can cover all the expenses they currently pay before you decide to assert your independence.

Good luck!

 

olds

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My parents have already paid for my car, insurance, and cell phone..
That would likely stop. Rightly so.
When my daughter moved out I made sure she understood the that if she did, she would be responsible for herself.
The only thing I paid for was her health insurance till she was 22.
 

DaiShan

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Speaking from experience I would recommend against this. I lived with a guy and a girl sophmore year of college, and I just don't think that the majority of 18-19 year olds are mature enough to handle the situation. In my case my room mate got a little too caught up in playing house, and took issue with my bringing girls back to the apartment (my room) much drama ensued and she eventually moved out on bad terms.
 

hjo3

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As long as you're accepting their financial support, I think you should try to honor their rules. Move in with the guy if you want, but don't ask them to pay for any part of it. If moving out is your only real goal (and you still want to be dependent on your parents) then it shouldn't be that hard to find roommate(s) they approve of.
 

TallBill

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I had trouble reading the whole thing. But, how old are you? And would you be paying for your own rent?

If you are older then 18 and paying your own rent, live with whoever you want.
 

ITJunkie

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Originally posted by: FoBoT
Originally posted by: randomlinh
tell them he's gay.

:music:
Come and knock on our door.....
We've been waiting for you......
Where the kisses are hers and hers and his,
Three's company too.

Come and dance on on our floor......
Take a step that is new.....
We've a loveable space that needs your face,
Three's company too.

You'll see that life is a frolic and laughter is calling for you......
Down at our rendez-vous,
Three's company, too!!!!!!
:music:

:laugh:
 
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Originally posted by: BigJ

If I was your parents, I'd cut you off. No more paying for the car, insurance, or cell phone. You want to take this attitude and be Miss Independent, then you better be prepared for the real thing.

They've already paid for the car, insurance and phone.

If you want to move out and be independent, explain it to your folks. Be persistent, don't lose your cool. And don't bring up the BS "I'm an adult and the law says I can do whatever I want" argument.
 
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Tell them that you understand their concerns and you love them for caring so deeply. Tell them that they did a great job raising you to be smart and responsible and prudent and that you hope they will trust that they did their job well and that you will be capable of making good decisions and not allow yourself to be emotionally used and scarred by men because you're only going to be interested in one who can prove his intentions are pure. Remind them that studies and learning more about life are your priorities and will remain so through college.



In other words, lie.
 

BigJ

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Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel
Originally posted by: BigJ

If I was your parents, I'd cut you off. No more paying for the car, insurance, or cell phone. You want to take this attitude and be Miss Independent, then you better be prepared for the real thing.

They've already paid for the car, insurance and phone.

If you want to move out and be independent, explain it to your folks. Be persistent, don't lose your cool. And don't bring up the BS "I'm an adult and the law says I can do whatever I want" argument.

You do realize that things like insurance and phone bills you have to keep on paying, right?
 

thraashman

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Or just say that you're not attracted to that guy and besides every guy you've slept with so far were just guys you met at a party one night and you don't sleep with guys you know. You prefer to leave those guys in "the friend zone" and lead them on. And when they being to freak out just say"I'm kidding, but see how much worse it could be". Seriously though, if you're parents want to be good parents they'll continue to support you through college if in what ways they can and have already agreed to do and simply not pay to support the parts they don't agree with. But if they revoke paying for care, insurance, school simply because your choice of roommates, they're bad parents and I would get as far away from them as possible to avoid letting anymore of their close-minded influence rub off on you.
 
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