how do I deal with a CHEAP bf?

[Ally24k]

Well if i only pay for my half we might just spend every wkd watching movies that he's d/l off MIRC. and he does eat, he eats cereal and chips cuz he's too cheap to buy anything else. i can for him so much though. do you think that since i make more than him it is ok that i pay more? and i try ti dig him out of his financial holes?

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: Shelly21
You should'nt buy anything for him....

Next time, when he's eating cereal. Eat your take out sushi heaven special (for 1) in front of him.

lol! I think that's the most effective piece of advice in this thread.

 

[kgraeme]

Originally posted by: Ally24k
do you think that since i make more than him it is ok that i pay more? and i try ti dig him out of his financial holes?

No. I make more than my GF and she pays half of everything. And it's been that way for seven years. Heck, we just bought a house and she has to pay half.

He dug his own hole, let him dig out.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Ally24k
Well if i only pay for my half we might just spend every wkd watching movies that he's d/l off MIRC. and he does eat, he eats cereal and chips cuz he's too cheap to buy anything else. i can for him so much though. do you think that since i make more than him it is ok that i pay more? and i try ti dig him out of his financial holes?

I've been in te situation where I earn more than the guy, one thought, if helping him out when you can
makes you happy then do it, just make sure that there's things he can do that both you and he feel are a good balancing contribuion to the relationship. it does sound though that you aren't happy with what you perceive to be a one way thing and you probably ought to sit him down and tell him how you are feeling.

 

[Jimbo]

Well if i only pay for my half we might just spend every wkd watching movies that he's d/l off MIRC. and he does eat, he eats cereal and chips cuz he's too cheap to buy anything else. i can for him so much though. do you think that since i make more than him it is ok that i pay more? and i try ti dig him out of his financial holes?

Have you thought of spending the money on English classes?

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Jimbo
Cut him off from sex.

haha... buy food, or no sex for you!

 

[kgraeme]

Originally posted by: Ally24k
...we might just spend every wkd watching movies that he's d/l off MIRC.

Ah, so he's a cheapskate AND a theif.

 

[rgwalt]

Yeah, when you guys go out, start going dutch.

Also, stop buying him food. It isn't your responsibility to feed him. It sounds like your BF has some weird priorities. He should get himself out of debt before saving money as he is actually losing money to interest. Also, he should put his money into something more lucrative than a savings account. A CD would be a good idea.

Anyway, if it is really bothering you, you need to talk to him about it. If it doesn't go over well, no matter what, stop paying for him when you guys go out and stop buying him groceries. If that means that you guys don't go out as much, then start going out with friends. Eventually he'll get the point. If he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve you.

Ryan

 

[Viper GTS]

On the debt issue, point out to him that if he's paying interest on that $200 he's losing money by remaining in debt - I'd bet $50 that he's not getting more than 3% on his savings account, & he's probably paying quadruple or more that on his debts.

On the food/entertainment issue... Odds are he won't change. If you can't handle living like that (or watching him live like that since you likely won't eat that much cereal yourself), try to negotiate with him - if it doesn't work (and odds are it won't, he doesn't sound very rational on the issue) - Give up.

Viper GTS

 

[FoBoT]

dump him or get used to it

 

[her209]

Can we apply the same advise back to women?

 

[tcsenter]

It is not your responsibility to feed him, you're not his mother.

If you WANT to buy him food, then its your money. If you DON'T want to buy him food, then your problem is solved. Let him eat Ramen noodles and puffed rice, he's a big boy.

 

[TCPpacket]

man, why can't i find a sugar momma like you?

 

[Maetryx]

His urge to save is noble, but his execution is flawed. Making some sacrifices now for a better future does not mean abusing your body. What good is a nice house if he's lost his health?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: TCPpacket
man, why can't i find a sugar momma like you?

sigh, that term is so offensive and insulting !

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

So what if you are making more, do you want to establish yourself as his subsidy program?

OTOH perhaps you are getting more out of the relationship than meets the eye, emotionally, physically, etc., so do what is best for you.

 

[bandXtrb]

Teach him how to live in the present. After all, the present is all we ever have, since there is never a time that our life does not exist in the present moment. Maybe he will be very grateful to you.

Well if i only pay for my half we might just spend every wkd watching movies that he's d/l off MIRC. and he does eat, he eats cereal and chips cuz he's too cheap to buy anything else. i can for him so much though. do you think that since i make more than him it is ok that i pay more? and i try ti dig him out of his financial holes?

THat is just TOO FUNNY. You and him crowded together in front of his computer screen watching some dark, low resolution movie. Wow, that's some date

 

[munruss]

WOW!! Sounds like me! The tables have turned. It's time for the woman to starting paying for things with hopes of the guy to put out!! HAHAHAHA!!

 

[StageLeft]

THat is just TOO FUNNY. You and him crowded together in front of his computer screen watching some dark, low resolution movie. Wow, that's some date

No it's not. Trust me, I know

 

[Nefrodite]

remind him that you are what you eat. and that his lack of nutrition will lead to nasty spooge leading to...

 

[Thegonagle]

Maybe he wants to but a house. Some money in the bank is needed for that. He's going to be a millionaire soon if he keeps this up. I say way to go.

 

[Ameesh]

you know the interesting thing is we wouldnt be soo hard on a girl if the situation was reveresed.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

Originally posted by: baffled2

Originally posted by: Ally24k
Well if i only pay for my half we might just spend every wkd watching movies that he's d/l off MIRC. and he does eat, he eats cereal and chips cuz he's too cheap to buy anything else. i can for him so much though. do you think that since i make more than him it is ok that i pay more? and i try ti dig him out of his financial holes?

I've been in te situation where I earn more than the guy, one thought, if helping him out when you can
makes you happy then do it, just make sure that there's things he can do that both you and he feel are a good balancing contribuion to the relationship. it does sound though that you aren't happy with what you perceive to be a one way thing and you probably ought to sit him down and tell him how you are feeling.

EXACTLY. You don't feel good about having to pay all the time. You don't feel good about the time you have together when you don't spend money. This relationship has problems other than who pays for what. You need to think about who your boyfriend really is and what is keeping you in the relationship. Love isn't bought and making a relationship work isn't easy. Confront these issues now.

 

[Sir Fredrick]

My friend, you are dating a mooch.
I hate mooches. They only care about themselves.

If you don't want to huddle in front of the monitor screen with him to watch movies for free, I suggest you go out and have fun with your friends...you won't even have to pay for them.

 

[Sciolist]

Originally posted by: torient
listen to Jzero

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