How do I get over a girl?

[manlymatt83]

necine.. go to work

 

[Viperoni]

Originally posted by: SuperGroove

Originally posted by: ncircle
time.

yep. long time away from this girl, with no contact is the best way.

ABSOLUTELY agree. You should not talk to her for a while.... a long while, if you want to get over her. I seen what happened to a friend who didn't.

 

[Bumrush99]

Listen to the people here. Ignore her. Just like she chose to take a break because her parents and instinct told her to, you must stand your ground like a man not a WUSS, by ignoring all contact with her. If she really loves you then SHE has to accept that from you. Either she will come crawling back to you or will continue to distance herself, but in the end, at least you will know what the reality of the situation is.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I was in love with her for three years. We broke up a few weeks ago, she left still saying she loved me and missed me but wanted to see other people because she "knew I was the one for her but couldn't stay with me knowing I was her only boyfriend". She called me 3:45 AM saturday morning to tell me she loved me and then got on a plane and is now gone for 5 months, and I can't talk to her.

I'm really really upset. I love this girl. I'm 22 and we dated since I was 20.

My attitude right now is that I have three goals: 1) Lose weight, 2) Graduate, 3) Pay off my debt. And that keeps me going. But I think about how happy she made me and how close we were and how best friends we were, and yeah there were problems ... but I'm just scared and can't imagine someone else without her (and can't imagine ME not with her.... I hung out with her the two days before she left (Thursday and Friday) and we were soooo happy, and she almost said she wanted to stay together but kept saying she knows she would have doubts).

It just hurts :-(

time... time heals all wounds.

 

[manlymatt83]

But we're still talking about getting back together. Are you saying if I pull away and then she really wants to get back together she will put more effort in? Don't girls just give up if the guy starts pulling away? Or only if she really doesn't care?

 

[gigapet]

hey you gotta spin this positively. This isnt a loss so much as its an opportunity! Yes thats right this is a great opportunity to really discover who you are, to define yourself with out someone else. This is important for you to grow and mature as a person. Embrace this splendid chance you have to grow and improve your life in all aspects so when she returns she is going to meet a new man, a man she cant live with out. Then then you can nail her real good and tell her to get out and never come back. Then call up your new hotter and cooler girlfriend that you acquired as a direct result of all the improvements you made in your life and have her come over and make you a sandwich! Yeah man Yeah!!! Good times are ahead good times indeed!

 

[Ferocious]

Don't worry dude...you will laugh over this later on.

It's all part of growing up.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: gigapet
hey you gotta spin this positively. This isnt a loss so much as its an opportunity! Yes thats right this is a great opportunity to really discover who you are, to define yourself with out someone else. This is important for you to grow and mature as a person. Embrace this splendid chance you have to grow and improve your life in all aspects so when she returns she is going to meet a new man, a man she cant live with out. Then then you can nail her real good and tell her to get out and never come back. Then call up your new hotter and cooler girlfriend that you acquired as a direct result of all the improvements you made in your life and have her come over and make you a sandwich! Yeah man Yeah!!! Good times are ahead good times indeed!

I have!! I've lost 20 pounds since she last saw me and she "can't wait to see that."

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Ferocious
Don't worry dude...you will laugh over this later on.

It's all part of growing up.

Yeah ... so what you're saying is, don't make any life altering decisions for this girl? I was thinking of moving closer to her to try to work things out...

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Ferocious
Don't worry dude...you will laugh over this later on.

It's all part of growing up.

Yeah ... so what you're saying is, don't make any life altering decisions for this girl? I was thinking of moving closer to her to try to work things out...

duh.

 

[manlymatt83]

OK...

 

[DuallyX]

How do I get over a girl?

One leg at a time...

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
But we're still talking about getting back together. Are you saying if I pull away and then she really wants to get back together she will put more effort in? Don't girls just give up if the guy starts pulling away? Or only if she really doesn't care?

I told you a month ago to forget this girl. But lo and behold, here you are, still waiting for her to come back, still miserable. You're going to hate yourself if you get back with her, because you're going to have to hear about all the fvcked up sh!t she did while you were sitting at home moping. You just can't see that now because love is blind and you've put her on a pedestal where she can do no wrong.

I'll stop right here because you aren't going to listen anyways. You'll eventually realize how futile this is.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Don't girls just give up if the guy starts pulling away? Or only if she really doesn't care?

Bingo. Explain to her honestly how you felt and how you now feel....and then explain why you won't be contacting her anymore.

The truth is, you don't want a girl who will only end up with you if she can't find anything better. GEEZ dude, what a frickin slap in the face....you should have some self-respect and have cut it off right there and never spoken with her again. See ya. My wife and I were each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and we both knew we were it. THAT is what you want and if you never find THAT, then stay single and enjoy it.

 

[manlymatt83]

OK... next time I talk to her I'll tell her I think we need to cut off communicatoin for a while. Shes actually dissapearing for a month soon anyway and we won't be able to talk for a while..... so that'll help

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
OK... next time I talk to her I'll tell her I think we need to cut off communicatoin for a while. Shes actually dissapearing for a month soon anyway and we won't be able to talk for a while..... so that'll help

Don't tell her anything. You're too vulnerable right now to stand up to her if she says she doesn't want the communication to stop. Just stop calling her and stop taking her calls. There's no need to make a big melodramatic event out of it.

 

[manlymatt83]

Problem is, she has a shell account on my unix server ... and logs in everyday to talk to me via ytalk or write... so If I locked her account, she'd know something was up.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Problem is, she has a shell account on my unix server ... and logs in everyday to talk to me via ytalk or write... so If I locked her account, she'd know something was up.

huh??? Get of Ytalk and go real life talk to some new people. And there is something up.....she's playing you. MOVE ON.

 

[manlymatt83]

This is us a year ago: http://www.atopia.net/scratch/mandh.jpg

 

[manlymatt83]

I added a pic ... and no more replies?!

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I added a pic ... and no more replies?!

no one cares.

 

[InlineFive]

Don't keep coming back to this thread. It doesn't help ease the process. Ask the Mods to lock it so it decends to the abyss of ATOT.

 

[Vonkhan]

You're 22? dude, get your ass into a gym and hit the chicas

 

[Cuda1447]

She's ugly, you can do better.

 

[Rock Hydra]

Originally posted by: JS80
She says she loves you and "you're the one for me" because she wants to bang other guys then come back to you if she can't find anyone better because she knows you're a sure thing.

Finding another girl will definitely help you get over her faster.

Exactly my thoughts. She probably knows that you'll take her back right away when she's gone down the list and nobody is left. Move on. For your sake.