How do I get over a girl?

[Powermoloch]

ouch man

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I added a pic ... and no more replies?!

Add it to the OP so we don't have to search for it.

 

[Krazefinn]

You'll never get over your first love, she will always be it.
But no reason NOT to tell her you are moving on too.

 

[MageXX9]

Damn, you two look good together.

 

[meltdown75]

the best way to get over her is to stalk her mercilessly until she files a restraining order on you.

 

[PurdueRy]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
This is us a year ago: http://www.atopia.net/scratch/mandh.jpg

you look like brother and sister

 

[Megadeth]

Sorry... Never going to work out for you 2 now no matter how much you try. Just move on.

 

[krmarks]

What a sad thread in so many ways. Move on dude. Your life and happiness should not be defined by a girl who does not live with you.

 

[Pepsei]

in this case, you should move on and find someone else better. i mean, if you can find this one in the first place? what's stopping you from finding another?

also, you are saying you don't think she can find another person who's like you who spoils her so much? well, from reading ATOT YAGT, it seems like there are many people who spoils their gf. so don't hold your breath.

 

[manlymatt83]

Spoiling isn't the problem. I KNOW there are guys out there who spoil their girlfriends. What I'm saying is that I visited her round trip in Boston about twice a month, and dealt with her parents not liking me and her not sticking up for me at ALL. Most of my guy friends are like me (good to their girlfriends) but none of them would deal with her crap.

 

[iroast]

If your GF isn't sticking up for you, then it's not worth it. Lack of a backbone or lack of respect for you...it doesn't matter. Move on.

 

[fire400]

Originally posted by: iroast
If your GF isn't sticking up for you, then it's not worth it. Lack of a backbone or lack of respect for you...it doesn't matter. Move on.

I couldn't have said it better myself. Indecisive replication, poisenous relationship.

 

[Inspector Jihad]

Originally posted by: PurdueRy

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
This is us a year ago: http://www.atopia.net/scratch/mandh.jpg

you look like brother and sister

 

[J0hnny]

Originally posted by: PurdueRy

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
This is us a year ago: http://www.atopia.net/scratch/mandh.jpg

you look like brother and sister

Wow, just about to say the same thing!

 

[notfred]

It's been 7 pages and you're still defending her. No one expects you to get over her instantly, but get a clue. She's gone. Arguing with everyone about how great she was is NOT going to make her come back.

 

[Brutuskend]

F F L

French Foreign Legion

FTW

 

[batmanuel]

"Forget her. She did the same thing to me."

(Tom Waits to Henry Rollins regarding what to tell an EMT about some nake dead girl he couldn't get out of his head.)

 

[RollWave]

wank it.

 

[Finns14]

Time
/ thread

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: DP
hey bro, if it's meant to be, things will fall into place. persistence(sp?) pays off.


time is the only thing unforunately. alcohol is a temporary fix so remember that.

This is actually a response that makes me feel somewhat good. And I think (correct me if I'm wrong) I have a better shot at getting back with her if I focus on my three goals (losing weight, better health, graduate, no debt, etc.) so that this May when she comes home, I'm ahead of the game, and if she wants to be together again awesome, and if not, at least I accomplished a lot.

She left knowing that I loved her. AND she brought memories of us with her: pictures of us kissing, etc. So I Know she still cares, and if she finds someone out there who makes her happier than I did, good for her... I love her and I want her to be happy. But I wish I could be with her.

I don't know what to tell you honestly. I'm sort of in a similar situation, the problem is we got into an argument and she won't speak to me for now. We were together, then we broke up but we were still best frends, we argued and she hasn't spoken to me in a few days. You can't do much but be optimistic I suppose. I try to be, but I can't keep her off my mind. You can go out and try other women, I haven't. I have "fvck buddy" options open, but I understand you don't want to. The only thing I can tell you is to keep trying and give it time. At least yours is still talking to you and will come back. Mine, well shes talking to another guy who goes to school with me, and the bastard keeps eyeing me when I see him. But, I don't want to totally hijack this, so like I said. Remain optimistic. The whole notion of "she's the only one for me" fight it. It's a stupid notion, and you're only 22, you got time to find another. Six billion people on the planet I'm sure there's others meant for you.

 

[edprush]

If she was TRULY in love with you she would not need to see "what else is out there".

True love doesn't make you wonder if you can find something better/different.

Trust me.

I know you are in a lot of pain.

Nothing anyone can say will be able to help you very much.

You just have to understand you loved her and she....she doesn't know what love is.

 

[edprush]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Leper Messiah
you are a bit naive man. She says it her, not you, then she's boning someone else. 99.9999999% of the time. If you want to get over her DO NOT TALK TO HER AT ALL. all it will do is tear open the wounds. Find some other chicks and get with them.

She isn't boning anyone else.... at least I sure hope not. We were each other's first and only up until she left this past weekend, and she would never lie to me.

I was once you. It's been years since she left me....I still miss her. I loved her. The only thing that has changed after many years is that she didn't really love me, even though she said she did so many times.

 

[edprush]

Originally posted by: amdhunter

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
...because she "knew I was the one for her but couldn't stay with me knowing I was her only boyfriend".

Eh? If she told you that, I'd think she was already screwing someone else. Not being an ass really, but I think she had someone else in mind, or in her already.

Put yourself in her shoes...what would you have to feel about her in order for you to say and do the same things she just did to you?

You couldn't do it because you ARE in love.

She could do it because she wasn't in love and she did have someone else in mind.

You are in pain and I feel terrible for you.

 

[shimsham]

wtf its been a month and youre still moping over this girl?

youve got issues, and shes exploiting them.

 

[mordantmonkey]

seriously, not that cute. but then maybe she had an amazing personality, or gave galactic head. barring those two possibilities, you are wasting your time. even then, you're wasting your time. move on, if she comes back fine, but until then you need to try out new "things" while you can.