Okay, I had dated this girl for maybe 3-4 years off and on. She is smart, funny, would do anything for me, etc etc.
Someone posted these links, so Ill just use these:
I wana show yall the fat I am talking about. If people want it, i can show you, after I edit out the face and non-atot friendly body parts.
Its a camera phone, i just posted it to get the general idea of how she looked. That picture was taken like 2 years ago. She has since gained maybe 10-15 pounds. Not a WHOLE lot I know, But i wana nail hot chicks. She is no longer attractive to me. She is begning to .... look like her mother... *shudder*. I guess I knew this was a possibility all along. But it is time get the message across, that unless she wants to become as hot as she used to be, there is no place for her in my life.
That is based on some assumptions:
1. 1/3rd of an adult sexual relationship is based on... sex! If I can not have great sex with her anymore, maybe its time for her to go.
2. If I didn't know her and saw her at school/club/bar/gym I would not go up and hit on her. I would auctually make fun of the friend that did for talkin to a chud.
So what do you guys think. I am 21 btw. Older guys, please chime in. Esp. if you stuck with the chick who got fat and now you are miserable.
I can not tell her that she has gotten to fat out of fear of crushing her self esteem. That would be a horrible thing to do to the girl i (once) loved.
So, do I tell her? I always grab her fat and stuff, just to let her know that I am on to her and her getting fat ways. But these gentle fat grabs are not cuttin it. She needs to lose weight ASAP. I feel like I am out of her league :/.
Don't bother posting if its gonna sound something like 'you are shallow' etc etc. How could I ever be happy with the relationship if I am not happy with who she is? I would always be thinking about other chicks will i hump her.
So far, my method has been total avoidance. I had a big life changing event in my life happen and since then I have told her that I want to handle it(lifechanging event) by myself. Now I am avoiding her phone calls. I happened to see her at the pool, She caught me talking to a chick that was MUCH hotter than her. I freaked out and went and sat by my buddies, out of fear of her causin a scene. I then walked up to her and told her i needed time (stalled).
So naturally, after avoidin the problem as long as possible, I post on ATOT on how I should handle this problem. Maybe I should ask the UPS girl.(hahahha, btw, i have talked to other friends who say 'man my ups chick is so hot' turns out, she has a cult following.)
edit: maybe its more like 15-20 lbs. All I know is that it doesn't look well on her at all.
I am very thin and take much care to be that way.
edit: Keep in mind guys, that I can never have a HEALTHY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP if I am not SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to her. so, you tell me whats worse, me admitting I would never be happy and always fantasizing about other chicks? Or stopping the problem before it begins and give her (and me) a chance to go out and find someone that is better for each of us.
edit: I would post after pics, but I do not think they are appropriate for this forum. I will get a pic of her at the pool to prove to you guys how painfully unattractive she is now.
Someone posted these links, so Ill just use these:
I wana show yall the fat I am talking about. If people want it, i can show you, after I edit out the face and non-atot friendly body parts.
Its a camera phone, i just posted it to get the general idea of how she looked. That picture was taken like 2 years ago. She has since gained maybe 10-15 pounds. Not a WHOLE lot I know, But i wana nail hot chicks. She is no longer attractive to me. She is begning to .... look like her mother... *shudder*. I guess I knew this was a possibility all along. But it is time get the message across, that unless she wants to become as hot as she used to be, there is no place for her in my life.
That is based on some assumptions:
1. 1/3rd of an adult sexual relationship is based on... sex! If I can not have great sex with her anymore, maybe its time for her to go.
2. If I didn't know her and saw her at school/club/bar/gym I would not go up and hit on her. I would auctually make fun of the friend that did for talkin to a chud.
So what do you guys think. I am 21 btw. Older guys, please chime in. Esp. if you stuck with the chick who got fat and now you are miserable.
I can not tell her that she has gotten to fat out of fear of crushing her self esteem. That would be a horrible thing to do to the girl i (once) loved.
So, do I tell her? I always grab her fat and stuff, just to let her know that I am on to her and her getting fat ways. But these gentle fat grabs are not cuttin it. She needs to lose weight ASAP. I feel like I am out of her league :/.
Don't bother posting if its gonna sound something like 'you are shallow' etc etc. How could I ever be happy with the relationship if I am not happy with who she is? I would always be thinking about other chicks will i hump her.
So far, my method has been total avoidance. I had a big life changing event in my life happen and since then I have told her that I want to handle it(lifechanging event) by myself. Now I am avoiding her phone calls. I happened to see her at the pool, She caught me talking to a chick that was MUCH hotter than her. I freaked out and went and sat by my buddies, out of fear of her causin a scene. I then walked up to her and told her i needed time (stalled).
So naturally, after avoidin the problem as long as possible, I post on ATOT on how I should handle this problem. Maybe I should ask the UPS girl.(hahahha, btw, i have talked to other friends who say 'man my ups chick is so hot' turns out, she has a cult following.)
edit: maybe its more like 15-20 lbs. All I know is that it doesn't look well on her at all.
I am very thin and take much care to be that way.
edit: Keep in mind guys, that I can never have a HEALTHY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP if I am not SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to her. so, you tell me whats worse, me admitting I would never be happy and always fantasizing about other chicks? Or stopping the problem before it begins and give her (and me) a chance to go out and find someone that is better for each of us.
edit: I would post after pics, but I do not think they are appropriate for this forum. I will get a pic of her at the pool to prove to you guys how painfully unattractive she is now.